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It’s possible you have a humiliation kink. Maybe google and explore that concept, and if it fits, then share with your partner the concept and your specific preferences, and see what they say. Also check out the r/sex subreddit and maybe ask there, if you don’t get useful info here.
Lmao r u the fbi
I recommend hopping of social media too for the mean time ! It’s gonna help you
you need therapy. so badly.
You need to have penetrative sex in order to get pregnant so if she's pregnant then she had sex and if it wasn't with her husband then she cheated
So if you want to help her as a friend you need to get her to tell you who she was sleeping with and figure things out from there
She decided that she didn't need to be poly, she could just screw him on the down low and youd never find out. A crisp twenty says that she cheated on you.
He doesn’t trust you and that says a lot more about him in the situation than about you. Break up with him, he’s incredibly controlling and is okay with torturing you rather than admitting he’s wrong.
The best thing you can do is acknowledge what he’s going to do and continue to offer your support if he needs it.
Hope is a funny thing. It can be really good or really treacherous depending on what drives it.
It can be good in motivating people but it can also be bad in that nothing you can say or do can change the mind or actions of someone who has that degree of happiness and self worth riding on hope especially when it comes to love.
You can speak your fears and convey concern like a good friend will do, but I wouldn’t push it too naked. Just be there as much as you can.
yeh i wouldnt want to be w someone that values insta sm but she's rrly not like that when she's not away. she told me she slept at 3am but she didn't even reply to my msg I sent b4 8pm. she only msged me the next day at 8am. honestly, I wouldn't be this annoyed if she just kept in touch at least every 3 hrs. but 12 hrs, idk what ur up to is just mad not even gn texts??
and ik for a fact if I was in her position and she in mine she'd be upset upset.
Ya. I just know like for us, when my husband got out of the military, he didn’t work for a while do to many factors so I carried us so he could focus on his health. If finances are separate, then it so easily becomes isolating and the partnership would be gone ya know? Just seems so weird. It’s like everything has to be “even” which isn’t fair considering a true partnership is never 50/50. It’s whatever we need in order to be our best selves and partners to each other and the family.
I love my husband more than anything and he has NEVER given me a reason not to trust him, but if he went on a trip with an ex or ex FWB I would walk the fuck out.
guessing wrong about what?
get under the covers and if he says anything again, tell him yep, that's what I'm doing.
I can see your point, but I also tell him everything because i have nothing to hide, and I just didn't have lot of love in my on-line.. So I maybe seek more, but it's not because my bf isn't enough, but I see why you think what you think..
If you both really are friend i think you could Tell her Not to Tell anyone.
I’m sorry… I hope that isn’t true. I’m going to talk to him tonight, go thru his messages with her, see if I can figure out anything. I love him, i believe he loves me, just hope I can stomach this and get Thru it
The counterpart says “if you don’t put out, I’m leaving you.”
Leave, less ppl less problems
Also “Prince Charming” is a cheater, as OP explains in the first paragraph. Honestly, she should’ve run months ago.
I only acrunch the cheap shit in public washrooms
Why does that have a name? Goddamn humans…
Poor guy. He sounds like he wants someone serious and doesn’t play around. He didn’t deserve that from you.
Are you actually interested in a serious relationship, and not just in casual, chasing what you fancy and ignoring everything else, type of relationship? If you’ve dated bozos recently, I can see why he’s not interested because it seems like he wants the former and you’re interested in the latter.
I believe that a lot of people get into relationships they really shouldn’t when they’re young and can be more mature about it when they get older. And assuming that you are turning that corner, it is unfair that he’s not interested because of your past. And I think his statement about those guys having you is a bit douchy and there is a sexist double standard there generally about getting around. But I wouldn’t dwell on the getting around part, and focus more on what you’re looking for and making better choices in terms of who you do date. Having a bit of mutual attraction isn’t enough. You’ll probably have to start resetting some of your social life to find interested dudes who haven’t witnessed you make those prior questionable romantic choices, but that might be a good thing if your current social circles are filled with asshats you shouldn’t have dated and this douche.
Being monogamous or poly is not the same as say, sexual orientation or gender identity. If this is the only way she's brought it up, this is clearly not a priority, or something she's been dying to express to you. This came out of a conversation about a show that is both provocative and triggering. (I can't watch that show. )
It took you asking the question to even get this out of her. And even in that statement she left the control for this completely in your hands. A follow up conversation would be wise in which you tell her “honey, i've been thinking about that conversation we had, and I am pretty sure I could never be OK with an open marriage. I get that the show makes it sound exciting and fun. But I know that the reality for me would be really painful.” Then maybe talk about what is it that sounds fun – maybe time for some role play. Be strangers at a bar and pick each other up. Etc.
Anyway, unless she pushes this, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If she tells you that she is happy with what you have, take her at her word. It doesn't do any good to decide your partner has needs they say they don't have. That'll take you down rabbit holes you don't want to go down.
Thank you for your response, but I have no emotions of grief to actually experience that. I'm frequently giving myself some self reflection and what I need to do in order to become a better self. The relationship was already pretty rocky before it ended, and I was checked out. If it truly feels uncomfortable for me to try and pursue people, I'm not going to put that against myself. I'm going at my own flow
Just punch her
No, he's threatened to kill you like, a lot. It's not dramatic to break up with him and do whatever you can to keep yourself and your family safe.
Unfortunately those two factors are both in the picture. She has met the one who moved to the same area were from post graduation, the other two are 3 hours away (DM friend) and across the globe (Snapchat friend) and I cannot introduce her to them as easily as I did with the nearby one
smart idea! he’s brought up trade school I think once, so i’ll just wait if he brings it up again to encourage him (if he wants encouragement ofc) thank you for commenting! 🙂
Lmao wtf?? “I know I've only known you for a few days and this is our second date, but I had an abortion 7 years ago” Honestly what are EITHER of you thinking? Both of you are moving super quick, rather impulsively
I'm totally pro choice but I'm just so curious why you thought it would be a good idea to bring up an abortion on the 2nd date.
There is absolutely nothing you can clean from that comment. You would have to be Jared Keeso (or whoever women think is naked) before you're going to get more than “nice :)”. Meet her in person you shouldn't be showing her what you look like with a picture.
Happens to most guys in LDRs, unless it’s the other way round + the woman has lost interest . Doesn’t mean he doesn’t love u
Tattoo her beast and ask her if she finds the pain sexual at all…
Get. Out. Of. There.
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I think I need to go check my privilege because my first reaction was shock at the amount of money in question here.
I don't think I can add anything constructive to this discussion.
It never gets easier, because as you finally adjust to and master a certain phase, the next challenging phase begins! It really requires a lot of patience, love, and attention to be one step ahead of things.
I have a child, he's 5 now, but I still remember all the challenges since the day we brought him home. The one thing that I always keep in mind (to this very day) is that irrational tantrums and agitations are always the first sign of him being sick. It's super important to catch that early on and provide the care and remedy necessary to make the baby/child feel better.
This reads right along with the saying “he’s just a friend”, or “ I don’t like him that way.” Then you find out the naked way she most certainly does like him that way. You can’t control her, but you can set boundaries. If she doesn’t like those then you have an answer.
Yeah this! I completely get it now, whilst it might be his way of coping, I still think it will possibly affect children who look at him and so on, and I'm so glad he's in therapy though!
Thank you so much for the information, I understand a little better now and do feel bad for him in general but yeah like I said I'd still probably try and talk him out of having the images in obvious places if he has to have them.
I hope his sister found out later and left him :/
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This is a situation where there probably needs to be some compromise.
He definitely needs to accept that he is not going to be able to have sex with you as often as he wants if he’s going to be in a relationship with you. I get it that sexual intimacy is really important to him and there’s nothing wrong with that, but he can’t be pressuring you into having sex when you’ve made it clear you’re not in the mood.
There are things you can do other than let him fuck you that may help meet his sexual needs. Handjobs, blow jobs, cuddle naked with him, kiss him, sit on his face while he jerks off, etc. Probably not as often as he’ll want you to, obviously, but there’s nothing wrong with helping him cum just because you’re not in the mood to get fucked that night.
Hm I see personal thing aren't ok to share with bf, but are with “friend” . Seems legit. I also think her admitting that she has been sending and receiving messages that would make you upset us more than enough to get upset. While it diesn't seen like she is cheating it seens she breaching boundaries with very personal conversations. Potentially cheating emotionally on you. Its's your call of course, but I personally think openess is important in relationship. Secrets naturally breed insecurity. I think this is a big deal and sign of more things being hidden from you.
My 24yo is very much the second one. I personally don’t care about country, am willing to move and am confident finding a job. I just have an issue asking others to adjust for my sake.
frowned apon.
Upon is the spelling.
I didn’t speak to them. He has showed me the paperwork and bills . I didn’t ask to see it but he showed me
This makes a lot of sense. I guess I just didn’t even think about it because I only have eyes for my wife but my wife pointed out other people don’t necessarily know that and it doesn’t have the best look in a vacuum so I should be more thoughtful.
A career in the military is naked on the love ones.. being stationed in other states or other countries…him having to up and leave and not having a stable career. Best if you find someone that understands your commitment and will be there for you
Omg. Meant bath towel! Sorry edited my post.
There is no standard or rule book when it comes to relationships. She wants to take it slow, best to work at her pace and let her do the driving. If at some point this doesnt work for you then you will have to move on. You cannot force her to feel a different way.
I think you need to learn the difference between love and lust.
For some reason it’s not letting me see the comments 🙁
Guys don’t usually enjoy sex with wife after 11yrs of marriage, he’s done nothing wrong here, it’s your issue. but if that upsets u, divorce him. Trying to “correct” him is like trying to “correct” a gay person with electrode therapy, u can’t help what you’re into sexually. U never fantasize about other men? He conceals this because it’s a personal issue and he knew u wouldn’t be reasonable about it because u don’t understand male sexuality
She is too old for this kind of bullshit ngl.
So you went NC but you still managed to discuss the loss of your pet with her and worse – you talked to the ex girlfriend who disrespects your girlfriend about all the ways your family disrespect her as well?! Lmao. Yes my dude you are the asshole.
Run, run as fast as you can, this is not a healthy relationship and it will only get worse
Well, she can get another test. One false positive? Yeah, it happens. Two? No. He cheated.
Her friend is a bad influence.
Yeah, I'm going to have to remember that consequences from me telling would be his fault, not mine. Because he's the one who's a piece of slime
Actions speak louder then words. You aren’t over him if you feeel the need to text him. The right thing to do is let your BF know or you are no better then any other cheater/liar and will begin another bad relationship.
He may be feeding the boy edibles so he can SA him and get pictures/videos of it. Pick your son up, walk out the door, and file charges. Then divorce him while he is in jail awaiting trial.
Are there? There were women defending that woman!
I mean what are you looking for if you do break up
So if she never sent the pictures to you, and your friend has them, I'm pretty sure that means she sent them to him and he took the blame. Don't be stupid.
Someone with that big of an age Gap can be trained to put up with b******* that somebody his own age would not listen to your mother you will thank her and give her hugs and kisses when you tell this man you do not want to date him
You’re on Reddit of all places asking strangers for advice/discussion just fine. But somehow having a conversation with your wife is harder?
Yeah, people will probably make snap judgment.
Wow, i never even thought of that. You are right, im just wondering what the reason behind it was. Was it to get stuff?
A coke addict regretting his actions. Shocked, absolutely shocked.
And you're not thinking of forgiveness?
I promise you, and anyone reading this, that your “soulmate” is not an alcoholic with mental health issues.
You’ve been through a lot. What you are experiencing is a response to the stresses and trauma of being married to an alcoholic with mental health issues. I strongly suggest therapy and looking into Codependency.
What you are describing about minding his mood and thinking about his needs is often referred to as “walking on eggshells”. There is a very helpful book called Walking On Eggshells. I recommend you read it, even if you don’t relate to the second part of the title.
You need to start focusing on yourself. What you are describing is normal for someone married to a man like the one you describe. He’s unlikely to get better. Start working on building your own life. Ideally away away from him. This is no way to on-line.
Ooof. The MIL on video every night is SO WEIRD!
I appreciate that your wife is invested in supporting her mom, but part of what needs to happen is that MIL needs to broaden her circle and carve out a life of her own. Your MIL likely has another 20 years on her. Her heavy dependence on you guys is too much.
I might have missed it, but if he does have ADHD, and he is not currently being medicated for it, he is royally screwed and you are both going to be living in groundhog day as things continue to decline for him. If you are correct about the ADHD bit, then his brain is literally broken from a real disorder, and nothing either of you do is going to seriously move the needle until things are addressed with medication. Maybe your primary care physician can prescribe medication quickly, but he could start by getting a neurological evaluation done, so you would at least let you know what you’re up against, along with any related conditions.
For what it’s worth, everything you’re describing sounds like ASD with unmedicated ADHD, and the ADHD will continue to pull him further down until it is properly treated.
After another long conversation, she finally gave up on MIL coming along, so it's just the price for the 4 of us.
The costs for everyone involved were astronomical. I didn't realise travel prices had risen so much since I had last checked. It's like $2,000 per person just for the flights and the cheapest accommodation was like $6,000 for just one week during off peak season that we would have to split. I no longer have that kind of money.
My wife surprisingly opened up to the option of us traveling longer and going to my parents so we wouldn't have to meet halfway. The best part about this option is there's zero chance my MIL would want to join us.
My wife finally understood that my kids wouldn't have that bonding time if my parents were to be there.
Just about everything got sorted favorably. 🙂
As I said, it wasn't anything major but sometimes having a third perspective really helps so thank you so much for your comments 🙂
Some jokes aren't funny. A lot of cross gender joking tends to be taken the wrong way.
Tell her she crossed the line and needs to be more sensitive to your insecurities. If she continues the jokes, then you know she's not joking.
Oh 100% she’ll dump him if he doesn’t handle this right
Seriously? Lol it's no wonder you need to date your mommy.
When you first start dating someone, there's going to be awkward moments like that. If he does it again, then I'd be concerned.
Absolutely this.
14 years with the husband and no baby- then pregnant at 40 from a ONS?
Husband is jealous that someone else could give her something he couldn’t. Exactly why he wants he to abort. He can get in the bin.
The girls of reddit don’t wanna be alerted of a vagina stinkange. #got #it
OP, yes he is disrespecting you on purpose. He is also escalating it. From what I have seen/smelled, when a grown man refuses to flush, and screams at you about it, things are unlikely to get better, because that would mean he would have to admit he doing something gross and wrong, and also being abusive about it.
I can understand your feeling uneasy; this was a total surprise to you. She should have been honest from the get-go, but at the same time, I can understand why she wouldn't have. So many transwomen are the victims of violence just because they are trans; she may also have been afraid of brutal rejection. While you may need some time to get used to this, it's important to keep in mind that she's the exact same person you fell in love with. Nothing has changed. You just have additional info.
Probably because you didn’t read the post
I agree with that for myself.. I couldn't stay with someone that even THOUGHT to put their hands on me.. This is why I commented trying to be open and not biased, just all about me, and what exactly I would do if that makes sense. I gave the point of my girl that had this happen and it's never again just to give other perspectives…
No, that’s not what I’m saying.
What I said is that a person who is capable of violence towards trans people is probably more likely to get violent after sex. Not disclosing until after sex isn’t going to save anyone, and could piss an unwilling partner off more.
I'm so sorry your family is going through such a rough time. I do wish you all the best. It sounds like you have a very loving family.
It wasn't planned to be temporary.
That’s a litany of reasons to have an abortion. It is much better than being adopted generally.
Hand her dead flowers and walk away
Do it.
Think of if you were P1s partner- You’d want to know – Right?
Do it.
Take him to court and get whatever you can from him.
Let it go. He’s not cheating on you. It’s dumb guy talk. It’s male bonding. Honestly, why would you want to hear it?
Let him go.
Man GF is all sorts of ridiculous here.
You also said that it's weird that he's insistent she doesn't and that it may be because he has a woman barber and is afraid she'll be jealous… which is a nutty assumption about a common practice
You say her feelings are understandable.
WHY are her feelings understandable? Does she not trust you? Does she not trust your ex?
Dude, you are 29 years old – you are allowing a person you have been dating for 3 weeks dictate very unreasonable and controlling terms concerning a perfectly functional amenable relationship with your ex.
Your current girl friend is off the rails. This is a run far and fast situation.
That it's not true, I would tell him that he can't see it cause he doubts himself but that he's actually really bright and a wonderful person. Though now, after a few years, I just tell him he's using it as an excuse because he he's not, and that he needs to stop self-deprecating.
What is the premise behind the term “emotional cheating”? What actually is that? If you're not reciprocating any flirting, isn't that just friendship? It's bizarre to think that you're supposed to have a one man support network (pun intended).
tu tu tu trolling, ahhhhh tu tu trolling
100% I think if you had a 20” dong you’d still be a bit insecure about size.
Unfortunately, your guy’s response aren’t showing for me ?
Then you shouldn’t have betrayed your family. Continuously. Consciously. You decided your family wasn’t good enough. That’s your choice.
So sorry to hear this, genuinely hope you are ok. Sounds like you are better off without him though – all you have done is stopped yourself finding true happiness which is now a possibility.
Doesn't make it any easier though. I promise things will get better. For now, just focus on doing the things you enjoy and that make you happy.
I dont think that there is a problem that has an immediate solution.
Its just that we are both tired psychologically from university and that has an impact on our behaviour
We will just talk it through
I thought about that too and I think if I was in her position I would want to know.
Make sure it is true. Did he admit it?
If it is – dump his ass. He made a move on your 19 yo sister, in your house, whom he knew since she was a child. It is creepy af. If it is true – I would not be able to get past it.
However it is really strange that she told it to you only now. Why? It would make sense to tell you right away, or after the move, or after she learned you got engaged.
In any case, I would put off the wedding. You are fighting bad and questioned your relationship even not knowing it. Wether he did it or not, it doesn't look like you are sure you want to marry him.
Why tf did you marry him? I think you should divorce him and then think very naked about why you destroy yourself.
No red flags based on the details provided here
Thanks for your response ?
I have seen a therapist before but stopped because she stopped practicing, I started looking for another about 2 weeks ago so that's a good place to start.
I will clarify that I typically do more of the childminding (I am usually the one responsible when we go out, I'll often take kid out on the weekend to give wife a break, I do most of the school dropoffs etc). The struggle is our lack of alone time together; we've tried babysitters, family, playdates you name it, but even when we do get time alone we are both so mentally drained it's usually not quality time so doesn't satisfy her. I have many issues that I've been suppressing which makes it naked for me to be really present at the best of times so this is just doubling down.
I hope I've learnt my lesson about lying… the reasons for lying are usually wanting to avoid conflict very rarely because I knew what I did was wrong. Her reaction isn't so over the top but it sometimes invites arguments that I can't win that just make me feel awful (for example, if I eat something like KFC she'll react by explaining how unhealthy it is. I agree it's unhealthy, so don't really have a good reason for eating it apart from just feeling like it and that is usually not a good enough reason, so it ends with a “please try to be better” kind of thing. If I were stronger I'd say “I know it's unhealthy, I just had a craving for it. I don't have it often and it's not a pattern so it's really not a big deal.”)
No one else knows and his sister doesn’t know I know, I’m not sure if his sister even remembers it, I can’t really talk to anyone about this and when I try to talk to him it just makes him really sad and he gets very disgusted with himself and the guilt.
You look happy on that picture, the weather looks nice, the beach looks fine, the day must have been perfect. It's so weird to think that someone looked at that picture and their first thought was “Hmm boobs are not big enough.”
My wife would be pissed as well. A simple “hi good to see you, sorry I have a killer headache so I am going to lie down” would probably have been better no?
Could be boundary for her. Could be where she vents. If you like her and you like spending time with her, then let it go for now and just enjoy being with her. Consider that her private life and I will suspect she’ll support you having boundaries and privacy of your own.
If she doesn’t like you having similar boundaries, and makes it a double standard, then it’s a problem.
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This is internalised misogyny. You believe that the man’s role is to provide and the woman’s role to be provided for.
Women can earn more than men
Women can care for their loved ones
Women can provide
If you think that it’s OK for a man to financially support a woman but it’s not ok, or it’s emasculating, for it to be the other way around then you might just be a misogynist.
I dunno Keith my good man, seems like most people agree with me. Self-reflection is your friend, good luck to you ❤️
Wow, I'm a complete internet stranger and I'm annoyed af at you.
he blew off our plan to go with one of those girls.
So, he chose this girl over you? He rather have a date with her than be with you?
He already promised not to use those apps anymore so why is he using them again? Isn’t it, a promise is a promise?
Also, if he’s telling the truth that he only wants to learn and to show good intentions, why is he not talking to men only?
If your kids witness abuse, they grow up thinking it's normal. Do you want your kids to become abused or abusers?
No matter how naked it seems, you can do it! Those aren't jokes. He's just another abusive POS (just like all the rest) that is thinly disguising his abuse as jokes. All abusers do this exact same thing btw at some point. And weekly, we get a post just like yours, just different day and people.
Just keep your eye on the prize…yes you will be single, BUT gifting yourself with being able to wake up everyday without concerns that sone assclown who is suppose to be your partner isn't calling you degrading names to tear you down. Have the last joke and laugh by telling him he is history.
I was listening to an excellent podcast with Daniel Pink yesterday on the Power of Regret (he also has a book by the same name). He says that regret is flip side of your values and life objectives. If you regret something it is because what you did wasn’t in line with your current values and how you want to on-line your life. We all have regrets, they are only a problem if we don’t learn from them. It sounds like you understand what you regret and why so the final step is to make a plan to change. It sounds like the lesson for you to learn is how much you love your husband and the importance of staying with your therapy and medication to be the kind of partner you want to be. If you focus on the past the shame may lead you to being a worse partner for now or to making bad decisions. The best thing for you and your husband is to learn the lesson from this regret and make sure you don’t create more future regrets.
That's cool to hear, it worked out for you 🙂
Was this just a sick form of manipulation.
Absolutely. It's textbook.
Leave.
By simply deleting them off all your social medias
I wanted to add… I have been there. It was at my small local gym (we were all close- worked out together daily) and we were already sleeping together. It isn’t easy to walk away. I had a couple slip ups… but in the end… I am so so glad I did. I honestly see him for who he is now and so glad he is out of my life. You can get there but you have to really have your goal ?? do you can get passed those feelings. You got this.
It’s not worth digging into. Just recognize that having a relationship over a long distance invites this kind of uncertainty. Take her at face value, and accept that this relationship is not enough for her to devote time to regardless of what she’s preoccupied by.
It seems he has an idealized notion of what a family is, but no clue on how it actually works. Don't quit your job with blind faith he will support you and don't quit if you want to continue working. It just seems like this is about him being a provider with no regard as to what you want. Talk it out, be firm and make sure you communicate your needs and wants, because staying home ultimately is up to you as a grown woman who gets to on-line your life how you want.
Rethink your future with this man. Red flags all over.
Never give up your career against your will.
Screen record the convos on hinge. Just don’t rely on screenshots as they aren’t considered valid proof.
Pretend for the time being as everything is fine, get your finances in order and cut your losses, the relationship is no more. Focus on improving yourself and don’t take it personally. Be smart and vigilant about it. All the best.
He's only 31 tho and hes a wonderful person I think that once we get married he will be a great father to Jake
I'm 32 but ok lol (I ain't OP)
Yes, OP, please realize that people in healthy relationships don't tiptoe around, doing whatever is necessary to keep their partner from getting upset. He sounds very unpredictable — I don't think you could avoid him getting upset, no matter how naked you tried. And whenever he gets upset, he's going to blame it on you. He's building a household where everything revolves around him and you are submissive with no voice or value, other than what you can do for him. Don't you think that being alone is better than living like that?
This is jaw-droppingly creepy.
Even if I was suuuuuper head over heels for after seeing someone a month or two, I'd maybe have a few pics of them on my phone (5-10 if I'm generous). Definitely not literally hundreds in a hidden folder. That is so creepy. I'd almost try to get evidence of this and save it if you need to show police at some point. Then, find a way to leave casually leave the relationship.
Super weird.
I just have to say, you both seem to be approaching this in a very healthy manner. Keep communicating, and both be ready to close the door on this for a while if something starts going wrong.
Also while being cautious, don't give too much credence to all those in the comments here saying that it never works. It never works for people who can't communicated in a healthy manner. It worked very well for me, and it has worked very well for all people I know who have done this.
It sounds like you can't stick to your guns. Pre-edit you say you want your gf to agree to your rules. The edit says you'll never show them to your gf.
Those rules mean you can't actually have friends of the opposite sex, you'd have friendly acquaintances.
Some couples are fine with that.
This. The Uncle did it on purpose. He will keep doing it and doing more and more until you stand up to him.
‘Don’t touch my ass, you’re old enough to be my father!’ Is pretty withering.
I won’t go into detail but I was with a guy, who was older so I expected better, who was like that. It was his way or the Highway. Couldn’t see that I had wants and needs to and if I didn’t cater to his every day every time, then I didn’t love him. They don’t change. Break up and find a guy who will give you everything. They’re out there. Plus you’re so young. I’m 25 and wasted almost 3 years with the dude. I loved him, he loved me, but he just wasn’t good at relationships
What about the boss, any chance you could meet whoever is in charge?
Way to help prove his point further lol
If she's now more independent from her parents that might not be such an issue this time around. Chances are that if she's already broken one arranged engagement they've just given up on getting her into a “respectable” marriage. But the advice would be to take things very slowly and not let your heart get ahead of reality. You'll want to ask questions about how close she is with her parents these days. Because obviously if she's still dependent on them at all – even emotionally – she might just end this again tomorrow for the exact same reason as last time.
you don't actually need to buy anything. You can try out both locations and see what you each prefer.
Your girlfriend is being groomed by a sexual predator. Please tell her parents.
Im not into gym dudes & muscles
Well your options really are one or the other
If you care about each other then try looking distance but realize it’ll have its own issues. Those can be overcomed but you should have a solid idea of what that looks like and what the timeline is for you to be in the same location again
Distance can be overcome if there is a set end point and communication is there
You seem to be reading into a point that wasn't made, so there's no point in responding to it, because it's not relevant.
I've seen a lot of people end up pushing all their hate and blame onto the affair partner because it's easier to do that than rightfully blame the person who made vows to them.
Absolutely and I definitely agree the onus needs to be on OPs husband here. I just think OP needs to reject the idea that this fiend is oblivious to his feelings as he's telling her and make sure she's investigating to get the full story. I honestly would not be surprised to learn there's been full on physical affair at this point given what we know. I just don't want OP to be naive and believe her husband's story since he's already shown he lies, gaslights and trickle-truths her.
She still has no problem lying to you after all these years prior to your marriage and still can keep a lie. She is telling you half the truth because she doesn’t want to end up alone. It’s time for a separation. She needs to face her fears of being alone and continue being thirsty for her male employee’s attention.
Delete “s3x” from your rotation unless you’re avoiding a government censor or the like.
Not everyone enjoys oral sex, and it’s totally fine if that’s a dealbreaker. There doesn’t have to be something wrong with you for her to not enjoy it.
We all make compromises with the people we get into relationships with, and they do the same for us. If this is one you can on-line with, then accept oral sex isn’t on the cards. If it’s not, walk.
Well is your physical abuse boundry an actual boundry or not?
It's up to you if you want to use the code. She isn't a friend of yours.
If I worked in retail and had a privilege like that only select people would get it. People can be annoying and only want something from you.
What do YOU want out of this?
If all you want from this is casual sex, make it clear that you're not interested in dating for real so the arrangement should end if he wants more. If you want more, express that to him and see what he says. Even in casual arrangements it's important to communicate what your needs and boundaries are. If you want him to stop asking you on dates, tell him. If you want to date him yourself but don't know if he is considering getting back together with his ex, ask him. Don't let him get away with no answer. Open up the conversation and don't drop it until you get a response that makes sense to you. It will help if you are clear with him what you want first.
I mean, they were very rude. But in reality, your fiancé put heavy expectations on this event (cleaning, buying food, spending hours making favours, etc). It should have been obvious from the texts that these ladies likely had good intentions but were not invested in this at all- and why should they be? They’re not her friends. Like, obviously if they’re not texting her back and showing little interest, use common sense. They’re doing this out of obligation, and so your fiancée should have tempered her expectations. It seems like they pitied her and wanted to do something nice, and then realized it was more work than they were willing to invest. I would be angry, too. Very angry. But it would not be friendship ending. They had hearts in the right place, but execution was terrible, and they should have just done nothing to begin with. It turned into a huge thing because of your fiancés insecurity and outsized expectations of practical strangers.
I start to misread or misunderstand simple sentences & concepts when I am very very tired.
Old story. You are being strung along. Time to go your separate ways.
And my comment was an example too. Is that naked to understand?
He regrets having sex with you. Men have a sometimes difficult moment of clarity after sex and they see things without the lust as they really are
i assume with your GF, you had to ask her out
He’s doing naked drugs.
He’s happily taking mind altering substances and you are cherry picking accountability and responsibility. Nothing good will come from this behaviour.
So Red Flag, stop dating him if you want any.
Get yourself a psychotherapist immediately.
We have two kids. One is 33, the other is 36. If one of them came to me with this situation and asked for my advice, I would strongly urge them to say no. It’s a ridiculous suggestion. You should work your ass off to pay for her to travel? You weren’t put on this earth to be a sugar daddy to an adult who is perfectly able to contribute to your household’s finance. You’ll remain in the same financial position forever. You’ll be dog-paddling to support both of you while she travels the globe. You’ll never be able to save enough money for a home.