You need to let it go. He broke up with you, and I don’t mean to be judgmental but your post comes across like you’re not taking his opinions and feelings seriously, maybe that’s something you can work on in future relationships. Apparently, to him, your small comments and not being around his family is enough to be done. You can’t ‘make him understand that that’s not worth breaking up over.’ To him it is.
Though I agree with you philosophically, in practicality it is their house , their rules. They have the ability to boot her if she’s living any way other than how they deem fit.
I think that’s fucked up, but it’s reality.
To me, OP sounds like she wants to online an adult lifestyle, which is completely reasonable at 20, she needs to work on moving out.
In the short term, she can sit down and go over ground rules, but that’s a two way street. “I’ll let you know if I won’t be home tonight or if it’s going to be after 11:00, but I’m not reporting where I am or having location turned on”. Shit like that.
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You need to let it go. He broke up with you, and I don’t mean to be judgmental but your post comes across like you’re not taking his opinions and feelings seriously, maybe that’s something you can work on in future relationships. Apparently, to him, your small comments and not being around his family is enough to be done. You can’t ‘make him understand that that’s not worth breaking up over.’ To him it is.
Get out, it won't get better
Though I agree with you philosophically, in practicality it is their house , their rules. They have the ability to boot her if she’s living any way other than how they deem fit.
I think that’s fucked up, but it’s reality.
To me, OP sounds like she wants to online an adult lifestyle, which is completely reasonable at 20, she needs to work on moving out.
In the short term, she can sit down and go over ground rules, but that’s a two way street. “I’ll let you know if I won’t be home tonight or if it’s going to be after 11:00, but I’m not reporting where I am or having location turned on”. Shit like that.
You paid. That’s enough right there.
Either you’re a troll making this all up or just a terribly selfish partner trying to cover your tracks.
This relationship is doomed buddy. Best to do the right thing and let her move on now so she can find someone who actually cares.
You have 0.0 chance of this going away.