Idk if you realize this, but you are excusing and minimizing her behavior.
You were also raised to see her as the golden child. That means you were raised to treat her as a priority, to push down your feelings, excuse her abusive behavior, and blame yourself for her actions.
Disengage with her in these situations from this point on. Gray-rock her until you are safely away from her, then go low contact. Please, your top priority is to stay safe right now.
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When someone is that drunk, there is a reason they can not give sexual consent. If someone was kissing them, they were sexually assaulted. Don't be so shy to talk to your partner. So texting and actually talk to them.
This. OP, your bf has an alcohol problem. But until he's ready to admit that and want to make life changes he's going to keep going the way he is now. All you can do is choose how much your love can take of the behaviour if he keeps it up.
You can't force him to change how you eat. You either have to accept that this is the way he is or you decide that not sharing a meal with your partner is a dealbreaker and you move on.
I really feel for your girlfriend. Wanting to spend time with someone who very clearly considers you a low priority hurts like hell, and she keeps trying anyway.
But it is okay to hurt his wife? He only tells you he is not sleeping with her, but is that truthful? The line sure worked to get you on hook. Wake up to reality. You are the other woman…..not his wife. He is using you for extra sex. He could have more side pieces… some cheating men like variety. Leave with what is left of your self-respect and find someone who is actually available.
That depends on your mindset. If you're adamant that you're not looking to be exclusive, have the conversation with her and see where it goes. Maybe she feels the same way. Either way, you're either going to find out. I think holding it in doesn't accomplish anything but delaying the inevitable.
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Idk if you realize this, but you are excusing and minimizing her behavior.
You were also raised to see her as the golden child. That means you were raised to treat her as a priority, to push down your feelings, excuse her abusive behavior, and blame yourself for her actions.
Disengage with her in these situations from this point on. Gray-rock her until you are safely away from her, then go low contact. Please, your top priority is to stay safe right now.
Don't invite them. Move on. They're users. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
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This!
When someone is that drunk, there is a reason they can not give sexual consent. If someone was kissing them, they were sexually assaulted. Don't be so shy to talk to your partner. So texting and actually talk to them.
Is that grounds for breakup? I’m happy other than feeling left out if he does make plans, and I don’t want to be controlling
This. OP, your bf has an alcohol problem. But until he's ready to admit that and want to make life changes he's going to keep going the way he is now. All you can do is choose how much your love can take of the behaviour if he keeps it up.
Don’t be nieve, start there. She’s lying and your denying.
You can't force him to change how you eat. You either have to accept that this is the way he is or you decide that not sharing a meal with your partner is a dealbreaker and you move on.
I think this is a grey area of cheating. My morals tell me this is wrong and it's something I wouldn't do out of respect for my girlfriend.
I think this is a grey area of cheating. My morals tell me this is wrong and it's something I wouldn't do out of respect for my girlfriend.
That’s rape. Get tested asap and again in a few weeks.
I really feel for your girlfriend. Wanting to spend time with someone who very clearly considers you a low priority hurts like hell, and she keeps trying anyway.
But it is okay to hurt his wife? He only tells you he is not sleeping with her, but is that truthful? The line sure worked to get you on hook. Wake up to reality. You are the other woman…..not his wife. He is using you for extra sex. He could have more side pieces… some cheating men like variety. Leave with what is left of your self-respect and find someone who is actually available.
That depends on your mindset. If you're adamant that you're not looking to be exclusive, have the conversation with her and see where it goes. Maybe she feels the same way. Either way, you're either going to find out. I think holding it in doesn't accomplish anything but delaying the inevitable.