He’s the father of their kid and the less friction and more communication the better so long as he treats his child well. It’s better for the kid if their is in their life providing he is not a bad guy and is good to his kid. All co-parents have to communicate. There’s no avoiding that? Maybe take things slow since it has only been 3 months and she has a child?
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In my defense, my parents are 19 years apart and my mom got married at 16. My ex and I were only 4 years apart so compared to my only main example I didn’t see 4 years as that big of a difference. Tbh I still don’t see that as being a big difference even after this experience. If sending nudes to someone you’re expecting to spend the rest of your life with is naive then I don’t think your advice only goes for younger girls. Everybody sends nudes these days. It wasn’t my fault he decided to use them against me. None of this is my fault.
You've gotten a lot of great advise. Your BF needs to be absolutely clear and shut it down.
I've had a few male friends who've expressed interest in me and I had a sit down conversation with them. Explaining that crushes are natural but there was no interest on my part. I was very clear on boundaries if we rained friends and consequences for stepping over those boundaries. I followed through as well.
Your BF not doing this would make me think a few things: 1. He is also interested in her. 2. He likes being wanted and doesn't want to shut her down for his ego. This makes him a mondo jerk. 3. He doesn't know how to talk about it and needs guidance.
Find out which one OP. It doesn't mean you accept what he chooses though. I wouldn't let this go.
Real talk… dont worry about lasting longer. Just get her off first before you. If she comes after some good foreplay, she wont care if you do not last long.
You need to separate at least for a while to cool off and figure out what you really want to do here. He’s showing you how little care he actually has for you. What do you want out of this one life you have? It sounds like (since you can celebrate his birthday in such big ways) that you have financial means. Do you want this for the rest of your life?
On another note, have you talked with your son about him not acknowledging Mothers Day and that his lack of care to that hurt you?
The two of you are fucked. Split up and seek your own counselling because you need it. I also suggest you stop drinking because you don't seem to handle yourself well on alcohol.
Because he wants to cheat?
He’s the father of their kid and the less friction and more communication the better so long as he treats his child well. It’s better for the kid if their is in their life providing he is not a bad guy and is good to his kid. All co-parents have to communicate. There’s no avoiding that? Maybe take things slow since it has only been 3 months and she has a child?
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In my defense, my parents are 19 years apart and my mom got married at 16. My ex and I were only 4 years apart so compared to my only main example I didn’t see 4 years as that big of a difference. Tbh I still don’t see that as being a big difference even after this experience. If sending nudes to someone you’re expecting to spend the rest of your life with is naive then I don’t think your advice only goes for younger girls. Everybody sends nudes these days. It wasn’t my fault he decided to use them against me. None of this is my fault.
You've gotten a lot of great advise. Your BF needs to be absolutely clear and shut it down.
I've had a few male friends who've expressed interest in me and I had a sit down conversation with them. Explaining that crushes are natural but there was no interest on my part. I was very clear on boundaries if we rained friends and consequences for stepping over those boundaries. I followed through as well.
Your BF not doing this would make me think a few things: 1. He is also interested in her. 2. He likes being wanted and doesn't want to shut her down for his ego. This makes him a mondo jerk. 3. He doesn't know how to talk about it and needs guidance.
Find out which one OP. It doesn't mean you accept what he chooses though. I wouldn't let this go.
And with her very sound reasoning for them.
Real talk… dont worry about lasting longer. Just get her off first before you. If she comes after some good foreplay, she wont care if you do not last long.
You need to separate at least for a while to cool off and figure out what you really want to do here. He’s showing you how little care he actually has for you. What do you want out of this one life you have? It sounds like (since you can celebrate his birthday in such big ways) that you have financial means. Do you want this for the rest of your life?
On another note, have you talked with your son about him not acknowledging Mothers Day and that his lack of care to that hurt you?
There's no making sense of it. He's just immature. Seriously, just stay broken up.
The two of you are fucked. Split up and seek your own counselling because you need it. I also suggest you stop drinking because you don't seem to handle yourself well on alcohol.
I'm sorry.