You’ve tried talking to her, so if you don’t want to do that again, you have to use actions.
Reflect her energy and attitude.
Go to bed earlier during the week (as soon as you want after the kids are asleep).
Don’t prepare anything for her during the weekend, just focus on your kids and yourself.
When she complains about it, tell her that you are only reflecting her energy and attitude, and as soon as she is willing to change herself, you are willing to return to your previous self.
I am the first person not to police what my other half does on social media – trust isn’t built through control. What concerns me here is the safety aspect – like, why entertain total strangers? That just seems…odd. Who cares if they think I’m stuck up or I don’t respond!? Why would a stranger expect a chat with me? That’s what I’d talk to her about.
You wallow in your problems instead of trying to solve them. Your parents are trying to help you but they don't do it in the “right way”. Why aren't you in school?
Feel terrible for your ex (the 4-year relationship one). You broke it off for a douchebag who mistreated you when you basically had “the guy” that would have given you a lifelong relationship. Seems you have a lot of growing up to do. Don't mess with your good ex and try to just hop back into a relationship together. He deserves space and you need to figure out what you want.
She's in a relationship. Why is it still relevant that she is still desirable to other men? Why does she need this validation from her friends or tinder? She should get that from you. This is a red flag man. The fact that she even asked you thinking that you would think its okay is astonishing. This is not okay.
He gets into a screaming fit over being asked to do his own laundry? Either something has pushed this man too far or he’s deranged. Either way this reaction is NOT okay. If this happens often I would suggest therapy or consider removing yourself from that negativity….
I don’t know what you were expecting getting in a relationship with an 18 year old who is not on the same emotional wavelength or life stage as you. Of course she’s sporadic and emotional, she’s barely not a child.
This almost 30 year old woman can waltz into your boyfriend’s bedroom, get drunk, and hug up to him because HE allows it. It’s HIS job to set up boundaries for Himself. He appears to be perfectly fine with this whole thing. The only person who isn’t okay with it is you and rightly so!
If any man doesn’t want another person’s company, they tell them to get out. Your boyfriend apparently wanted her company. So much so that he ignored you for an hour and a half.
People show you who they are. He prioritized her over you. Sorry, OP.
You could try asking her. Tell her you love paying her compliments, and that you have an uncontrollable urge to remind her of how beautiful she is, and you want her opinion on whether or not you are reminding her too often of how much of a sexy goddess she is.
Take the space anyway? Like it sounds toxic, you’re probably just going to have to break up. Doesn’t matter what he says.
Your mom is better off dead. Make sure she can’t come crawling back. She’s a god awful mom and a god awful human being
Did she take them to her parents because they were the people who arranged the marriage?
Keep an eye on his eye health. Like with skin blue eyes can be high risk of cancers from the sun.
You’ve tried talking to her, so if you don’t want to do that again, you have to use actions.
Reflect her energy and attitude.
Go to bed earlier during the week (as soon as you want after the kids are asleep).
Don’t prepare anything for her during the weekend, just focus on your kids and yourself.
When she complains about it, tell her that you are only reflecting her energy and attitude, and as soon as she is willing to change herself, you are willing to return to your previous self.
I am the first person not to police what my other half does on social media – trust isn’t built through control. What concerns me here is the safety aspect – like, why entertain total strangers? That just seems…odd. Who cares if they think I’m stuck up or I don’t respond!? Why would a stranger expect a chat with me? That’s what I’d talk to her about.
Yeah, I see your point but right now, I just cannot imagine myself with anyone else.
and never wants to have sex with you again.
Nobody in his age range looks kindly on a 29yo man dating a 20yo woman. It’s got the ick all over it.
Just casual sex
You wallow in your problems instead of trying to solve them. Your parents are trying to help you but they don't do it in the “right way”. Why aren't you in school?
Feel terrible for your ex (the 4-year relationship one). You broke it off for a douchebag who mistreated you when you basically had “the guy” that would have given you a lifelong relationship. Seems you have a lot of growing up to do. Don't mess with your good ex and try to just hop back into a relationship together. He deserves space and you need to figure out what you want.
ur right, ill make sure i say something next time, thank u
Looks like you found a r/Niceguys. Run mate, as fast and as far as you can.
She's in a relationship. Why is it still relevant that she is still desirable to other men? Why does she need this validation from her friends or tinder? She should get that from you. This is a red flag man. The fact that she even asked you thinking that you would think its okay is astonishing. This is not okay.
Why do you even want to marry him? It's obvious you don't trust him and think he is abusive / a cheater.
He gets into a screaming fit over being asked to do his own laundry? Either something has pushed this man too far or he’s deranged. Either way this reaction is NOT okay. If this happens often I would suggest therapy or consider removing yourself from that negativity….
I don’t know what you were expecting getting in a relationship with an 18 year old who is not on the same emotional wavelength or life stage as you. Of course she’s sporadic and emotional, she’s barely not a child.
This almost 30 year old woman can waltz into your boyfriend’s bedroom, get drunk, and hug up to him because HE allows it. It’s HIS job to set up boundaries for Himself. He appears to be perfectly fine with this whole thing. The only person who isn’t okay with it is you and rightly so!
If any man doesn’t want another person’s company, they tell them to get out. Your boyfriend apparently wanted her company. So much so that he ignored you for an hour and a half.
People show you who they are. He prioritized her over you. Sorry, OP.
You could try asking her. Tell her you love paying her compliments, and that you have an uncontrollable urge to remind her of how beautiful she is, and you want her opinion on whether or not you are reminding her too often of how much of a sexy goddess she is.