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I am very aware a PhD is stressful, and working with many PhD students, I see daily the toll it takes on people. I read this as you are using her, because for now she gives you what you need. If she was as driven as you are right now – things would probably be quite difficult. Perhaps, she feels she can't focus on her own career right now, because she has to support you.
Also, and I am making a huge assumption here but I sense that you see yourself as better than her. You will be a Doctor and she will possibly be content where she is now.
You need to learn how to value yourself. Cut him off, and remain single for a little while. It will do wonders for your self esteem, and you will find yourself no longer giving the time of day to losers.
They make devices so fathers can breastfeed the baby with pumped milk or formula. Please read the concerns of other respondents but also know that not being able to breastfeed is very disappointing and stressful for many mothers that want that special bonding experience. If this occurred briefly while looking for a pacifier then it’s less of a concern than if the baby was hungry and needed to be fed IMO.
it sounds to me like you love the idea of having an impossible love.
Her dad is strict and religious? This describes most dads. If this is going to stop you, then you are done. You are banned from her country due to your ethnicity? She cant go to your country? I don't know your countries, but you could travel to see her in the past and now you cant. God (her religious father) and national security (Russia / Ukraine?) are keeping you apart. It honestly sounds like you were never together.
Gotta say regardless of how sane I am or not- if people basically kidnap me “for my own good” I’m not sure I’d have a rational bone in my body. I’d probably be upgraded to that three day stay because I’d be raising all holy hell- Karen status be dammed. I’m sure there’d be a chill pill or two changing my perspective. Id hate anyone who did that to me too.
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Stop using this poor girl.
'She is emotionally and mentally supportive'.
I am very aware a PhD is stressful, and working with many PhD students, I see daily the toll it takes on people. I read this as you are using her, because for now she gives you what you need. If she was as driven as you are right now – things would probably be quite difficult. Perhaps, she feels she can't focus on her own career right now, because she has to support you.
Also, and I am making a huge assumption here but I sense that you see yourself as better than her. You will be a Doctor and she will possibly be content where she is now.
OP.
You need to learn how to value yourself. Cut him off, and remain single for a little while. It will do wonders for your self esteem, and you will find yourself no longer giving the time of day to losers.
They make devices so fathers can breastfeed the baby with pumped milk or formula. Please read the concerns of other respondents but also know that not being able to breastfeed is very disappointing and stressful for many mothers that want that special bonding experience. If this occurred briefly while looking for a pacifier then it’s less of a concern than if the baby was hungry and needed to be fed IMO.
I hope he reads this as sarcastic. FFS, he's already way too emotionally immature to figure out what the girl he supposedly cares about is saying.
it sounds to me like you love the idea of having an impossible love.
Her dad is strict and religious? This describes most dads. If this is going to stop you, then you are done. You are banned from her country due to your ethnicity? She cant go to your country? I don't know your countries, but you could travel to see her in the past and now you cant. God (her religious father) and national security (Russia / Ukraine?) are keeping you apart. It honestly sounds like you were never together.
No. His boundary could be, “my wife doesn't exclude me from her life.”
Gotta say regardless of how sane I am or not- if people basically kidnap me “for my own good” I’m not sure I’d have a rational bone in my body. I’d probably be upgraded to that three day stay because I’d be raising all holy hell- Karen status be dammed. I’m sure there’d be a chill pill or two changing my perspective. Id hate anyone who did that to me too.