So I should just give him space while try to work on myself like my original plan then? Also he told me yesterday before I said I needed space that he feels guilty for liking her and breaking up with me because whenever he’s with her he thinks of me, and now he’s realizing she has these traits that are unattractive and traits that I don’t have that makes him attracted to me
I have a job. Now that I’ve sat on this a bit I’ve realized he doesn’t actually support us financially, he just pays the mortgage and that’s his excuse for not doing housework.
You are questioning his very character and integrity with no evidence, that will tend to make innocent people angry. Imagine if a loved one claimed angrily you had been stealing from them. Like they truly believed that about you, even though they had no evidence. It's very insulting to assume moral failure in another person, it's something one should be very careful about doing, especially with the people closest to you who you “should” know well enough to know they wouldn't do that.
If you want to salvage it (there's no reason to assume he was cheating according to what you wrote), you need to apologize. First thing tomorrow if he's already fallen asleep.
Not to mention, it’s weird to request someone else go to therapy for something that might be there. This sounds like projection. She is worried about what her friend is telling her, and not appropriately processing her own feelings. Instead they are pushed onto OP. She is who should be seeking some therapy.
I’d take some time to process this whole situation prior to making a decision. But this is not a healthy situation, or way to respond. It’s understandable, but not healthy.
I think you need to child / baby proof your house. Is your son in a a day program/ goes to school? You may be entitled to respite, social security benefits, therapy home visits , etc. if your husband won’t help you need to check all the resources available to you.
This requires more assistance than you can provide. She needs medical intervention, and the sooner the better. If she takes 6 hours (approximately) to eat 3 partial meals, and weighs as little as you stated, her life is at risk. That's not something your love and care can overcome.
You’re married to him and he’s 28 and doing the “I’m telling you I’m never going to talk to you again” bs? He seems childish and picking a fight to pick a fight. Divorce his ass, he’s checked out of the relationship.
That's not your mother's problem. It's your problem.
Have you talked about this with her? This seems like a huge expectations vs reality thing.
So I should just give him space while try to work on myself like my original plan then? Also he told me yesterday before I said I needed space that he feels guilty for liking her and breaking up with me because whenever he’s with her he thinks of me, and now he’s realizing she has these traits that are unattractive and traits that I don’t have that makes him attracted to me
I have a job. Now that I’ve sat on this a bit I’ve realized he doesn’t actually support us financially, he just pays the mortgage and that’s his excuse for not doing housework.
That's what I'm worried about. He always says he puts himself first in everything. it's a very “cope with it or leave” relationship on his end
You are questioning his very character and integrity with no evidence, that will tend to make innocent people angry. Imagine if a loved one claimed angrily you had been stealing from them. Like they truly believed that about you, even though they had no evidence. It's very insulting to assume moral failure in another person, it's something one should be very careful about doing, especially with the people closest to you who you “should” know well enough to know they wouldn't do that.
If you want to salvage it (there's no reason to assume he was cheating according to what you wrote), you need to apologize. First thing tomorrow if he's already fallen asleep.
Not to mention, it’s weird to request someone else go to therapy for something that might be there. This sounds like projection. She is worried about what her friend is telling her, and not appropriately processing her own feelings. Instead they are pushed onto OP. She is who should be seeking some therapy.
I’d take some time to process this whole situation prior to making a decision. But this is not a healthy situation, or way to respond. It’s understandable, but not healthy.
yeah man, you're gonna end up being his caretaker down the road if you stick it out.
I think you need to child / baby proof your house. Is your son in a a day program/ goes to school? You may be entitled to respite, social security benefits, therapy home visits , etc. if your husband won’t help you need to check all the resources available to you.
This requires more assistance than you can provide. She needs medical intervention, and the sooner the better. If she takes 6 hours (approximately) to eat 3 partial meals, and weighs as little as you stated, her life is at risk. That's not something your love and care can overcome.
Seems like an overreaction on her part.
You made a mistake and have apologies not much more you can do.
I can't forgive you “yet” seems like a teenage movie thing
Fyi if you aren't asexual and she decides on it this is not working out. I have no more to say.
You’re married to him and he’s 28 and doing the “I’m telling you I’m never going to talk to you again” bs? He seems childish and picking a fight to pick a fight. Divorce his ass, he’s checked out of the relationship.
Tell her about your feelings, and ask her your questions.
If she isn't willing to put efgort into your relationship, then break up.