I had an ex insist I was in pain because I “looked like it”. I absolutely was not in pain lol. But then I got self conscious about what my face may look like that I ended up so in my head I couldn't enjoy it anymore.
And watch your back..she will try to beat your a** again before you leave. Either as a warning or like a dog teaching a weak member of the pack to remember their place.
The clinic rejecting your sperm is not the same as a doctor diagnosing you as infertile. If you had concerns about your fertility, you would have seen a doctor prior to having FOUR kids. You are clearly not infertile if you conceived four children without issue.
They could have rejected your sperm for a number of reasons: too slow, too few, too many deformities, your medical history, or your families medical history.
I was less so trying to say she was mocking him more so implying that it was a very obvious thing to say and that probably made the wife not realize that this was a serious revelation for him.
Let’s now say that the wife has never heard of the term, it doesn’t take a scholar to figure out what “premature ejaculation” is. So in this scenario, from the wife’s perspective, it’d be like her husband very seriously ‘informed’ her that he cums too quickly. Considering he hasn’t lasted 30 seconds in the last 8 years, I would bet she was already well aware of that.
Let’s not take this too seriously, it’s not a real post. No one would suffer through this into adulthood and never once think to google the issue.
Continuing this relationship is a mistake. Nothing will improve if you get married. You need to take a step back and reevaluate why you are fighting so nude to further commit to a miserable relationship. Dump him and focus on your healing instead. You are so afraid of yourself and being alone that you are fighting to commit to a man that makes you feel unloved and take advantage of.
Probably she doesn't really believe she did something wrong (whatever she told you). Maybe she hopes you come back to her so that she can resume your torture. Just stay far from toxic people.
Do you even want more kids? You have 3 kids, how many do you want
Is your desire (if any) to have more kids based on wanting to just replace the kids you have with a new family if you and your wife don't work out?
If you don't actually want more kids with your wife, why would you want more kids with another woman?
Sure she could've have a tubeligation (except for the fact that unlike a vasectomy it is major abdominal surgery under full anesthesia with all inherent risks) but she isn't planning on possibly having new kids with a new man. Sounds like she is more invested in you two working than you are
Tbh I thought of this and I’ve gotten at least 25 Brazilians in my life, and even when it’s been awhile and even the first time, the most it gets is a little red afterward. I have incredibly sensitive skin, so I could break out pretty easily or bruise or whatever, but if your aesthetician knows what they’re doing you’ll be fine. OP I’m sorry your bf reacted this way to what I’m sure was a pretty standard pic otherwise you wouldn’t have sent it. I’m not sure there is a way to fix this. I have a lot of anxiety, low self esteem, and a trauma background, and honestly, completely honestly, I don’t think I could ever let a comment like this go no matter what the partner said to apologize. I’m sorry that’s not more helpful, but you’ve gotta talk to him and if he still doesn’t get it (my suspicion is that he does, he just doesn’t give a shit, but I always assume the worst in men) then you gotta cut him loose.
Unacceptable- tell her to choose. You are not controlling. You just want to have clear lines. She has full right to be in contact with her ex / but you have also full right not to be in a relationship with someone that is at best in an unresolved emotional attachment to another guy .
The point about ex partners – they can never be friends (even they might have been that before). The emotional attachment is different . My point about ex partners – aim at being friendly. Stop all regular contact but be positive when you meet.
Your situation is different. She is attached to him and clearly she is contacting him behind your back. Talk with her – and when it is clear she does not want to give up her connection with him – the writing is on the wall. Split up. You should not be a third wheel in your own relationship. That is disrespectful to you and you will eventually end the relationship because of this. Bet she will return to him anyway. She is emotionally in love with him.
Sorry about it. Better be clear now then hurt later.
My wife and I have had that conversation before. Unfortunately, we both know that she would be unable to care for the both of us if I was unable to care for myself.
I've known since we met that I would ultimately be the caretaker, just wasn't expecting it so early (she has a rare medical condition that unfortunately complicated a different thing we didn't see coming).
Kind of depends, maybe he just views instagram as a vector for porn? If so, no huge deal, it's just people to wank to for him. Confronting him about it? May not be the best idea, I know if someone went through my personal stuff it'd be an insta-dump, so if he's anything like me, you're rolling dice there.
I don’t have an answer for you but I wonder if the both of you went into the relationship suspecting it might not work out because of the distance so maybe never fully committed? It can be convenient to break up with someone when something else bad is happening because she has your sympathy. And you still want to be friends. That means you don’t get to be fully present to find someone IRL that might be more realistic to experience a life with. I think just ending amicably is best. Then if it ever made sense to revisit you can but it would hold you back right now I think.
I got lots of shawties tryna pull up to my place But you ain't want me last year so just get up out my face Lil tecca ransom
Ugh. Both glad and sorry I'm not the only one.
I had an ex insist I was in pain because I “looked like it”. I absolutely was not in pain lol. But then I got self conscious about what my face may look like that I ended up so in my head I couldn't enjoy it anymore.
And watch your back..she will try to beat your a** again before you leave. Either as a warning or like a dog teaching a weak member of the pack to remember their place.
The clinic rejecting your sperm is not the same as a doctor diagnosing you as infertile. If you had concerns about your fertility, you would have seen a doctor prior to having FOUR kids. You are clearly not infertile if you conceived four children without issue.
They could have rejected your sperm for a number of reasons: too slow, too few, too many deformities, your medical history, or your families medical history.
I was less so trying to say she was mocking him more so implying that it was a very obvious thing to say and that probably made the wife not realize that this was a serious revelation for him.
Let’s now say that the wife has never heard of the term, it doesn’t take a scholar to figure out what “premature ejaculation” is. So in this scenario, from the wife’s perspective, it’d be like her husband very seriously ‘informed’ her that he cums too quickly. Considering he hasn’t lasted 30 seconds in the last 8 years, I would bet she was already well aware of that.
Let’s not take this too seriously, it’s not a real post. No one would suffer through this into adulthood and never once think to google the issue.
Yeah get out. You’ll have a 40 year old baby daddy at 28 he’s trapping you before you get to his age and realise oh shit what am I doing.
Continuing this relationship is a mistake. Nothing will improve if you get married. You need to take a step back and reevaluate why you are fighting so nude to further commit to a miserable relationship. Dump him and focus on your healing instead. You are so afraid of yourself and being alone that you are fighting to commit to a man that makes you feel unloved and take advantage of.
Probably she doesn't really believe she did something wrong (whatever she told you). Maybe she hopes you come back to her so that she can resume your torture. Just stay far from toxic people.
Do you even want more kids? You have 3 kids, how many do you want
Is your desire (if any) to have more kids based on wanting to just replace the kids you have with a new family if you and your wife don't work out?
If you don't actually want more kids with your wife, why would you want more kids with another woman?
Sure she could've have a tubeligation (except for the fact that unlike a vasectomy it is major abdominal surgery under full anesthesia with all inherent risks) but she isn't planning on possibly having new kids with a new man. Sounds like she is more invested in you two working than you are
I bought a container of 2” rubber ducks and I’ve been hiding them in places for her to find.
I’ve converted our peck goodbye and goodnight into a more passionate multi second kiss.
I’ve crossed over 50% on household chores.
Tbh I thought of this and I’ve gotten at least 25 Brazilians in my life, and even when it’s been awhile and even the first time, the most it gets is a little red afterward. I have incredibly sensitive skin, so I could break out pretty easily or bruise or whatever, but if your aesthetician knows what they’re doing you’ll be fine. OP I’m sorry your bf reacted this way to what I’m sure was a pretty standard pic otherwise you wouldn’t have sent it. I’m not sure there is a way to fix this. I have a lot of anxiety, low self esteem, and a trauma background, and honestly, completely honestly, I don’t think I could ever let a comment like this go no matter what the partner said to apologize. I’m sorry that’s not more helpful, but you’ve gotta talk to him and if he still doesn’t get it (my suspicion is that he does, he just doesn’t give a shit, but I always assume the worst in men) then you gotta cut him loose.
Unacceptable- tell her to choose. You are not controlling. You just want to have clear lines. She has full right to be in contact with her ex / but you have also full right not to be in a relationship with someone that is at best in an unresolved emotional attachment to another guy .
The point about ex partners – they can never be friends (even they might have been that before). The emotional attachment is different . My point about ex partners – aim at being friendly. Stop all regular contact but be positive when you meet.
Your situation is different. She is attached to him and clearly she is contacting him behind your back. Talk with her – and when it is clear she does not want to give up her connection with him – the writing is on the wall. Split up. You should not be a third wheel in your own relationship. That is disrespectful to you and you will eventually end the relationship because of this. Bet she will return to him anyway. She is emotionally in love with him.
Sorry about it. Better be clear now then hurt later.
Your parents
My wife and I have had that conversation before. Unfortunately, we both know that she would be unable to care for the both of us if I was unable to care for myself.
I've known since we met that I would ultimately be the caretaker, just wasn't expecting it so early (she has a rare medical condition that unfortunately complicated a different thing we didn't see coming).
Kind of depends, maybe he just views instagram as a vector for porn? If so, no huge deal, it's just people to wank to for him. Confronting him about it? May not be the best idea, I know if someone went through my personal stuff it'd be an insta-dump, so if he's anything like me, you're rolling dice there.
I don’t have an answer for you but I wonder if the both of you went into the relationship suspecting it might not work out because of the distance so maybe never fully committed? It can be convenient to break up with someone when something else bad is happening because she has your sympathy. And you still want to be friends. That means you don’t get to be fully present to find someone IRL that might be more realistic to experience a life with. I think just ending amicably is best. Then if it ever made sense to revisit you can but it would hold you back right now I think.
HR can solve 75% of this for you…