Lol she's known them for a month and you're already insecure and weird about it. I'd think you're strange as fuck if I were Ben and have similar thoughts about you being an overzealous husband even if I didn't say that aloud. Considering how little sense you're making, I really can't trust your account of your wife's words. Your whole post and these responses reek of major insecurity. It's only been a month. They meet in a group. Why have you zeroed in on the guy? If they had met alone and were particular friends, I'd get the discomfort and need to enforce boundaries.
We both had bad relationships in the past, and I know her ex cheated on her a few times. She never properly healed from it and since the beginning of our relationship, she has been kinda afraid of happening again even though I always made sure she knew that I would never do such a thing.
It’s because he knows how men can be and he probably feels better knowing she would stay away from them. Also he may have a fear of her getting pregnant. But he shouldn’t be saying it seriously or often, that’s weird.
To him, being a furry might not be a choice but something he IS and a part of his identity. I’m not a furry and don’t know any furries but that’s the vibe I got from his reaction. Maybe a furry can weigh in but I believe there are varying levels to being a furry.
A former colleague of mine was informed of a management change impacting who he'd be reporting to. He proceeded to go on a rant saying how much of a f'ing idiot the new manager is, how incompetent the whole team is, listed off every person with all their alleged flaws, etc.
Needless to say, he was fired very quickly after that. Most teams have no interest in managing attitudes like that.
This was actually really validating for me to read because there were so many similarities to my last relationship that it’s honestly uncanny. Other than the alcohol usage, my ex did just about everything this guy did. He didn’t call me fat, but he sure did start talking about any other minor flaws he could find, like saying my face was asymmetrical and telling me I had a mustache, then later telling me how attractive I was. The only way he knew how to connect was through sex… he sent me a pictures of his tinder matches by accident. He also opted to steal money from me rather than just ask, even though I would have gladly given it to him at the time.
Anyway, thanks for saying this. Your brother sucks, this guy sucks, and so does my ex.
You are dodging a bullet though I know it hurts now…It is totally unreasonable she asked that of you, she knows your situation….It maybe a break up ploy, it is too obvious…Unless she thinks you have money why would she ask that?
I think you have too much history together (all the cheating) and would be better off continuing to focus on bettering yourselves for your own sake's. Tell her that she wasn't wrong to leave you but while you have changed a lot since, you think it best you both move on.
DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN UNTIL THIS ISSUE HAS BEEN RESOLVED.
If you have kids with him, your workload will exponentially increase, and he won’t help. You’ll essentially be a single parent with an extra adult to pick up after and a major case of resentment.
If he won’t go to couples counseling AND make a permanent change in his behavior, don’t get pregnant. Children make a troubled marriage more troubled, not less.
You are so bang on with this comment, you don’t even know. haha
We definitely have a dysfunctional family and have a complicated relationship with our parents and other siblings. I’ve been abused while my brothers haven’t. I try to look out for him because I don’t want him being treated like I have in life. We really only have each other and we’ve told each other that.
Sadly, at the end of the day, I’ve told him what I think, our parents have told him what they think, his friends have told him what they think. It’s all up to him now ultimately. And that kills me. But I guess he really has to learn the very hot way
I will always be there for him. And he knows that. And I’m glad for that.
Maybe she was referring to your eagerness to play with her. Maybe you just took it in a way she didn’t mean for it to be taken. Hopefully that’s the case. Good luck:)
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Lol she's known them for a month and you're already insecure and weird about it. I'd think you're strange as fuck if I were Ben and have similar thoughts about you being an overzealous husband even if I didn't say that aloud. Considering how little sense you're making, I really can't trust your account of your wife's words. Your whole post and these responses reek of major insecurity. It's only been a month. They meet in a group. Why have you zeroed in on the guy? If they had met alone and were particular friends, I'd get the discomfort and need to enforce boundaries.
Hardy har har so funny dumbass.
i just want to be loved lol
We both had bad relationships in the past, and I know her ex cheated on her a few times. She never properly healed from it and since the beginning of our relationship, she has been kinda afraid of happening again even though I always made sure she knew that I would never do such a thing.
It’s because he knows how men can be and he probably feels better knowing she would stay away from them. Also he may have a fear of her getting pregnant. But he shouldn’t be saying it seriously or often, that’s weird.
I would never date a minor. But I'm an adult now
Both are very weird, but especially the grooming the 15 year old part.
disgust towards something that is actually pretty normal
Yelling MOMMY during sex is perfectly normal?
To him, being a furry might not be a choice but something he IS and a part of his identity. I’m not a furry and don’t know any furries but that’s the vibe I got from his reaction. Maybe a furry can weigh in but I believe there are varying levels to being a furry.
Don’t spend another minute w this dude. Gross.
Leave him in all seriousness.
This!
I'm still stuck on how he initiates with op..”hey come here and gimme some ass” like this dude must be watching lots of porn
Oh, FFS. If this is what sets the two of you off, no way are you ready for marriage.
A former colleague of mine was informed of a management change impacting who he'd be reporting to. He proceeded to go on a rant saying how much of a f'ing idiot the new manager is, how incompetent the whole team is, listed off every person with all their alleged flaws, etc.
Needless to say, he was fired very quickly after that. Most teams have no interest in managing attitudes like that.
Sorry, troll dude. You'll die a virgin with that attitude.
I think so. It’s someone you loved. Go an honor her life
This was actually really validating for me to read because there were so many similarities to my last relationship that it’s honestly uncanny. Other than the alcohol usage, my ex did just about everything this guy did. He didn’t call me fat, but he sure did start talking about any other minor flaws he could find, like saying my face was asymmetrical and telling me I had a mustache, then later telling me how attractive I was. The only way he knew how to connect was through sex… he sent me a pictures of his tinder matches by accident. He also opted to steal money from me rather than just ask, even though I would have gladly given it to him at the time.
Anyway, thanks for saying this. Your brother sucks, this guy sucks, and so does my ex.
You are dodging a bullet though I know it hurts now…It is totally unreasonable she asked that of you, she knows your situation….It maybe a break up ploy, it is too obvious…Unless she thinks you have money why would she ask that?
Yeah they called “Muslim” an ethnicity… seems fishy
Hated her physical appearance , loved her by her way of talking , her demeanour.
I think you have too much history together (all the cheating) and would be better off continuing to focus on bettering yourselves for your own sake's. Tell her that she wasn't wrong to leave you but while you have changed a lot since, you think it best you both move on.
Sounds like this is more about your relationship insecurities around her visiting her coworker than talking to her mother about issues.
DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN UNTIL THIS ISSUE HAS BEEN RESOLVED.
If you have kids with him, your workload will exponentially increase, and he won’t help. You’ll essentially be a single parent with an extra adult to pick up after and a major case of resentment.
If he won’t go to couples counseling AND make a permanent change in his behavior, don’t get pregnant. Children make a troubled marriage more troubled, not less.
Yes, you are cut it out
You are so bang on with this comment, you don’t even know. haha
We definitely have a dysfunctional family and have a complicated relationship with our parents and other siblings. I’ve been abused while my brothers haven’t. I try to look out for him because I don’t want him being treated like I have in life. We really only have each other and we’ve told each other that.
Sadly, at the end of the day, I’ve told him what I think, our parents have told him what they think, his friends have told him what they think. It’s all up to him now ultimately. And that kills me. But I guess he really has to learn the very hot way
I will always be there for him. And he knows that. And I’m glad for that.
Maybe she was referring to your eagerness to play with her. Maybe you just took it in a way she didn’t mean for it to be taken. Hopefully that’s the case. Good luck:)
Im getting the sense you have no idea how data works