What you are suggesting is a short term fix. For a longterm “fix”, you require counselling and probably meds. Crashing at hers sister's for the night, get hugs and love, will last until the morning. Then it's back to square one, or worse. Depression is not the same as being sad or lonely. Although the can be part of it.
This isn't funny or cute or adorable. The dude is showing a serious lack of empathy. You need to stop giggling and start thinking about finding a safe home for the kitten, if you choose this horrible man.
Trans people dont always say they are trans because the reactions… people they date even threaten violence because they were “decieved”…
Isn't this maybe more of a reason to be up front before choosing to date someone? Or, not go out with someone they don't already feel safe with?
There are awful, dangerous people out there. That's terrible. No excuses for those people being like that. Fuck them all.
But beginning a relationship with deception, and dropping an enormous truth down the road is manipulative and selfish. If you're scared the person you like is dangerously transphobic, don't pursue them…
I personally wouldn't. There are many other beautiful, intelligent people in the world and that's how I view it. I don't like the risk, primarily because I grew up with a parent who had Hep C and it's just another layer of management in my life, which I don't need. Just my 2 cents.
Though 20 is young, 20 and 24 isn’t a bag age gap. What is she freaking out about? Did she not say he was a 10/10? I wouldn’t talk to her again, no need for that much drama in your life.
I’d get if you cut it super short or dyed it without talking to him but a pony tail? Lol you can put it right back in like 2 seconds. My first gf in school had the longest and most beautiful hair but like had a mental breakdown or something and decided to cut it as short as mine and then started spiking it, and I felt like such a PoS for not being attracted to her anymore because she was the same person. But it’s true physical attraction is a major component to most “romantic” relationships.
I think him breaking your trust like that is naked to recover from, he may not deserve to have this boundary but he is not wrong. Moving in with him after how he’s acted, would be a mistake due to the state of your relationship.
Think forward to what living situation would be optimal for you, that has nothing to do with your bf. Best of luck.
Well, that’s the thing, it’s not just about the chatting. We connected on the level I have never connected with my spouse. And I would say the same as what you just to just a anyone with the same problem. But the thing is, both from my side and hers, we are filling/fulfilling gaps our relationships don’t. It’s unfair to our partners. But truth is, our partners are both not the people who want to improve themselves to make the relationship better, while both of us are those people. So it ultimately feels like we end up trying so much more with our partners without any response. While between us it’s so much easier. While I did say affair, the affair so far is emotional (just talking) rather than sexual
There's equipment for that, if he wants it and you want to give it to him. But…he hasn't asked for it.
It's really homophobic and transphobic to be so convinced that because he slept with someone who identifies as a woman, he's gay. You're telling him, repeatedly, that he doesn't know his own mind. Why do you think you do know his mind better than him?
If I were him, I'd leave you and find someone else who can handle that fact. Be better.
Thenk you 🙂
What you are suggesting is a short term fix. For a longterm “fix”, you require counselling and probably meds. Crashing at hers sister's for the night, get hugs and love, will last until the morning. Then it's back to square one, or worse. Depression is not the same as being sad or lonely. Although the can be part of it.
OP, your sister needs professional help.
Good luck
Pics or it ain't true.
This isn't funny or cute or adorable. The dude is showing a serious lack of empathy. You need to stop giggling and start thinking about finding a safe home for the kitten, if you choose this horrible man.
Thank you for your insight
Do you know all of her past exes and flings?
facts
Trans people dont always say they are trans because the reactions… people they date even threaten violence because they were “decieved”…
Isn't this maybe more of a reason to be up front before choosing to date someone? Or, not go out with someone they don't already feel safe with?
There are awful, dangerous people out there. That's terrible. No excuses for those people being like that. Fuck them all.
But beginning a relationship with deception, and dropping an enormous truth down the road is manipulative and selfish. If you're scared the person you like is dangerously transphobic, don't pursue them…
Don’t leave. See how it is for a month. He could be planning to propose
I personally wouldn't. There are many other beautiful, intelligent people in the world and that's how I view it. I don't like the risk, primarily because I grew up with a parent who had Hep C and it's just another layer of management in my life, which I don't need. Just my 2 cents.
Though 20 is young, 20 and 24 isn’t a bag age gap. What is she freaking out about? Did she not say he was a 10/10? I wouldn’t talk to her again, no need for that much drama in your life.
Nope never cheated on me, and I'm his first girlfriend
I’d get if you cut it super short or dyed it without talking to him but a pony tail? Lol you can put it right back in like 2 seconds. My first gf in school had the longest and most beautiful hair but like had a mental breakdown or something and decided to cut it as short as mine and then started spiking it, and I felt like such a PoS for not being attracted to her anymore because she was the same person. But it’s true physical attraction is a major component to most “romantic” relationships.
I think him breaking your trust like that is naked to recover from, he may not deserve to have this boundary but he is not wrong. Moving in with him after how he’s acted, would be a mistake due to the state of your relationship.
Think forward to what living situation would be optimal for you, that has nothing to do with your bf. Best of luck.
From a previous post: your ex is abusive as well? LAWYER UP PRONTO!
I agree with you, and I’m also imagining what my Siri would say if I summoned it and farted ?.
I hope she is earning amazing money for 60+ hours every week… Honestly she needs to dial her work load but otherwise nothing will change.
Well, that’s the thing, it’s not just about the chatting. We connected on the level I have never connected with my spouse. And I would say the same as what you just to just a anyone with the same problem. But the thing is, both from my side and hers, we are filling/fulfilling gaps our relationships don’t. It’s unfair to our partners. But truth is, our partners are both not the people who want to improve themselves to make the relationship better, while both of us are those people. So it ultimately feels like we end up trying so much more with our partners without any response. While between us it’s so much easier. While I did say affair, the affair so far is emotional (just talking) rather than sexual
Ask her if she has a fetlife account
There's equipment for that, if he wants it and you want to give it to him. But…he hasn't asked for it.
It's really homophobic and transphobic to be so convinced that because he slept with someone who identifies as a woman, he's gay. You're telling him, repeatedly, that he doesn't know his own mind. Why do you think you do know his mind better than him?
If I were him, I'd leave you and find someone else who can handle that fact. Be better.
Because she is in with that as well as him!
(Would they buy the house he has focused his mind on!!!)
Also: we do not know how much she has been able to put aside during the 5 years she was saving!
We only know that HE wants to invest 300 k.
this is very scary.. please don't raise a baby in a place where there is even the slightest doubt of abuse. especially the father.
You seem only to be bothered now that she is dating.
“I wanted to get her back' sounds more like I expected her to sit around and wait for me.
You didn't fight the divorce and now you are crying about it.
What opinion did yo expect to hear? That the fact you didn't cheat means she has no right to end the marriage? She didn't divorce you for adultery.
Move on
Most, if not all, Extended Stays allow pets. Something until you can find a new place.
Best case scenario, hes a shitty boyfriend. Worst case scenario, he's a shitty, cheating boyfriend. Either way just dump him
You are making excuses for him.
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He doesn't want to marry you, he has everything he needs, we call it a “boniche” in french. Basically a skivvy, a maid