I think not being empathetic towards your wife's suicidal sister is the biggest red flag in this whole post. If this is the only issue your sister has then you'd be better off without your husband but I think that's not the case since your husband didn't want her even before the latest incident.
So if your sister has any other issues which only you and your parents can tolerate then your husband is right to not want her around him.
Yeah, this is important context. If she didn't know how important it was that you buy it yourself, then all she is guilty of is listening to you and thoughtfully buying you a gift she knew you wanted. She obviously loves you and wanted to do something special for you, yet you rudely reacted as though she had done the exact opposite and inconvenienced you.
So you have quit the medication you needed without your doctor and now you are self medicating with something you can't afford but his gaming is the problem?
surprisingly ex boyfriend knows about it and doesn’t care! we’ve built a good friendship with each other. i think it’s brother that would feel weird about it.
Also, check out etsy for more affordable options – find a jeweller you like and they'll most likely be able to customize something for much less than at a brick and mortar store, or you could buy from an estate sale or auction.
He started by being stupidly obvious. And, after months of me being mad and confronting him (very recently), he finally told me. At least now I know I'm not crazy.
Girl number one isn’t interested. She told you that. Get to know the other girl. Take it slow. Love doesn’t happen in a month. It takes time. When you say propose, you mean asking for a date, right?
You should divorce her. You already have 3 kids, and one is a baby. Do you want to have a prolapse or physical problems because you are having a 4th child and another one so close to #3? You haven't healed yet. He doesn't even care about your body. In his mind, he just wants to keep you under control so that he can go back to drinking.
He even thinks you are both at your best when you are pregnant, but you had to leave and go through the pregnancy alone because he was drunk all the time.
You better get records of his drinking to get full custody or he is going to put your kids in danger.
I don’t understand the split. So in total she pays $1580 and you pay 1700. That is barely a difference. What do you mean you pay more bills?
And you don’t compete your chores so she’s right. If the split is tied with chores and you don’t carry your weight you should pay more.
But also… she makes almost half your income. Thus the expenses should be split according to that ratio. The chores should then be roughly even, maybe a little slanted toward her but ONLY when you work Saturdays, because otherwise it’s the same amount.
Subtle hints isnt good communication. You have to actually tell her how you feel and what you want. Also ignoring someone while they are over is rude. But, it sounds like you don’t want her over on weekends? If she only comes over weekends, you just won’t see her at all right?
that is true, we both have our separate friend groups and i will sometimes leave the call to go hang with them. It is naked to have a balance for me, cause i work a part-time (nearly full time hours) and also go to university. So i get home late 5 days out of the week. Which I just want to spend time with my boyfriend since all day I was socializing with coworkers/friends, etc. So since most of the day we are apart I just want to call him when I get home and spend time with him. I guess that is unfair to him cause he shouldnt have to work around my schedule, but also i feel like shouldnt he want to spend time with me after ive been busy all week and rarely get free time?
I think it is the shift from when we first started dating that I compare this to. I just hateeeee the lying so much. I would rather him be honest and I would feel a lot better about it.
Because I know he’s trying his best to be a good partner because he will surprise me with something that will give me hope (big or small). I love him but it’s sometimes naked for me to remember. I just hope I’m not the only one who feels this way. (:
Some people just bring out the best of us, and it is great you are so openly communicating your feelings towards your boyfriend. You have those butterflies that have you absolutely tingling from head to toe, and you're sharing this with your man. That is great. The best advice I can give is to continue your openness with your boyfriend by asking him to feel free to set any boundaries in how often you shower him with the love that is bursting out of you at the seams because you don't want to smother him. He may say he loves the validation and hopes it never stops, or he may say he understands how you feel and that he is committed to the relationship so you don't have to be clingy(if that's how he perceives your behavior).
Having that great connection to your person, your mate, is incredible. I have that with my wife who I've been with for 18 years(both of us are divorcees because our previous spouses were both adulterers). On our first date, when I put my arms around her as we were settling in to watch a movie together, my hand grazed the back of her neck. There was literal electricity between my hand and arm and her neck. She said she felt the jolt shoot all the way to her toes, and after the shock wore off of us being jolted she made HER move…we didn't get to watch a movie(not that I'm complaining LOL). She still feels that electricity and desire when we touch…18 years later. My romantic side that was locked away after many prior failed relationships including a failed marriage to a serial cheater busted down the wall for her. The old me came flowing out…romantic gestures, casually bringing home flowers just because, random thoughtful cards with hand written love notes filling the blank spaces inside the card, making sure she knows that she is not just my lover but my best friend, and when we lay down together…the magic is still there 18 years later. I'm older than her and I'm pushing 50, and we still act like a pair of healthy active teenagers. I can playfully gently kiss her neck and she'll just giggle and do a squirmy “you're getting me riled up” dance(and doesn't try to get away LOL). She loves how I communicate with her, and she reciprocates in kind with the same meaningful gestures of love. She is a crier when she gets emotional, so my PDA and how I speak of her even has her friends jealous of her…yeah, they've straight up TOLD her that they wish their husbands treated them as good as I treat her. Love notes, really really thoughtful gifts for special occasions, and does her best to prioritize me.
Anyway, communication, boundaries, compromise, trust, and loyalty/faithfulness are very important things to always work on in a relationship. The best advice I can give you if this turns into a permanent relationship that leads to marriage other than do not rush is even after you say your “I do's” never stop dating and pursuing each other. Complacency and a lack of communication will destroy a relationship. The race is not over just because you exchange vows…you're going to find out there are an infinite number of laps in this race.
So, if the roles were reversed, you would be fine with him hitting her, and blaming her for it???
I think not being empathetic towards your wife's suicidal sister is the biggest red flag in this whole post. If this is the only issue your sister has then you'd be better off without your husband but I think that's not the case since your husband didn't want her even before the latest incident.
So if your sister has any other issues which only you and your parents can tolerate then your husband is right to not want her around him.
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You should stop cooking for him, because he's a shmuck.
No, keep the terf shit out. Thats not a real thing
That’s gaslighting, love
Yeah, this is important context. If she didn't know how important it was that you buy it yourself, then all she is guilty of is listening to you and thoughtfully buying you a gift she knew you wanted. She obviously loves you and wanted to do something special for you, yet you rudely reacted as though she had done the exact opposite and inconvenienced you.
So you have quit the medication you needed without your doctor and now you are self medicating with something you can't afford but his gaming is the problem?
surprisingly ex boyfriend knows about it and doesn’t care! we’ve built a good friendship with each other. i think it’s brother that would feel weird about it.
Also, check out etsy for more affordable options – find a jeweller you like and they'll most likely be able to customize something for much less than at a brick and mortar store, or you could buy from an estate sale or auction.
He started by being stupidly obvious. And, after months of me being mad and confronting him (very recently), he finally told me. At least now I know I'm not crazy.
Girl number one isn’t interested. She told you that. Get to know the other girl. Take it slow. Love doesn’t happen in a month. It takes time. When you say propose, you mean asking for a date, right?
Is that so? Then to what purpose was your message of “When will women realize men don’t care?”
From my understanding of what you wrote he just got an erection and he didn't go further.
You should divorce her. You already have 3 kids, and one is a baby. Do you want to have a prolapse or physical problems because you are having a 4th child and another one so close to #3? You haven't healed yet. He doesn't even care about your body. In his mind, he just wants to keep you under control so that he can go back to drinking.
He even thinks you are both at your best when you are pregnant, but you had to leave and go through the pregnancy alone because he was drunk all the time.
You better get records of his drinking to get full custody or he is going to put your kids in danger.
I don’t understand the split. So in total she pays $1580 and you pay 1700. That is barely a difference. What do you mean you pay more bills?
And you don’t compete your chores so she’s right. If the split is tied with chores and you don’t carry your weight you should pay more.
But also… she makes almost half your income. Thus the expenses should be split according to that ratio. The chores should then be roughly even, maybe a little slanted toward her but ONLY when you work Saturdays, because otherwise it’s the same amount.
Subtle hints isnt good communication. You have to actually tell her how you feel and what you want. Also ignoring someone while they are over is rude. But, it sounds like you don’t want her over on weekends? If she only comes over weekends, you just won’t see her at all right?
Sounds like my man. He is annoyed by my pickiness. Oh well!! I eat what I want and what I like. Period. My body.
that is true, we both have our separate friend groups and i will sometimes leave the call to go hang with them. It is naked to have a balance for me, cause i work a part-time (nearly full time hours) and also go to university. So i get home late 5 days out of the week. Which I just want to spend time with my boyfriend since all day I was socializing with coworkers/friends, etc. So since most of the day we are apart I just want to call him when I get home and spend time with him. I guess that is unfair to him cause he shouldnt have to work around my schedule, but also i feel like shouldnt he want to spend time with me after ive been busy all week and rarely get free time?
I think it is the shift from when we first started dating that I compare this to. I just hateeeee the lying so much. I would rather him be honest and I would feel a lot better about it.
Because I know he’s trying his best to be a good partner because he will surprise me with something that will give me hope (big or small). I love him but it’s sometimes naked for me to remember. I just hope I’m not the only one who feels this way. (:
Happy ending lol, but struggled to get an erection out of guilt apparently
Some people just bring out the best of us, and it is great you are so openly communicating your feelings towards your boyfriend. You have those butterflies that have you absolutely tingling from head to toe, and you're sharing this with your man. That is great. The best advice I can give is to continue your openness with your boyfriend by asking him to feel free to set any boundaries in how often you shower him with the love that is bursting out of you at the seams because you don't want to smother him. He may say he loves the validation and hopes it never stops, or he may say he understands how you feel and that he is committed to the relationship so you don't have to be clingy(if that's how he perceives your behavior).
Having that great connection to your person, your mate, is incredible. I have that with my wife who I've been with for 18 years(both of us are divorcees because our previous spouses were both adulterers). On our first date, when I put my arms around her as we were settling in to watch a movie together, my hand grazed the back of her neck. There was literal electricity between my hand and arm and her neck. She said she felt the jolt shoot all the way to her toes, and after the shock wore off of us being jolted she made HER move…we didn't get to watch a movie(not that I'm complaining LOL). She still feels that electricity and desire when we touch…18 years later. My romantic side that was locked away after many prior failed relationships including a failed marriage to a serial cheater busted down the wall for her. The old me came flowing out…romantic gestures, casually bringing home flowers just because, random thoughtful cards with hand written love notes filling the blank spaces inside the card, making sure she knows that she is not just my lover but my best friend, and when we lay down together…the magic is still there 18 years later. I'm older than her and I'm pushing 50, and we still act like a pair of healthy active teenagers. I can playfully gently kiss her neck and she'll just giggle and do a squirmy “you're getting me riled up” dance(and doesn't try to get away LOL). She loves how I communicate with her, and she reciprocates in kind with the same meaningful gestures of love. She is a crier when she gets emotional, so my PDA and how I speak of her even has her friends jealous of her…yeah, they've straight up TOLD her that they wish their husbands treated them as good as I treat her. Love notes, really really thoughtful gifts for special occasions, and does her best to prioritize me.
Anyway, communication, boundaries, compromise, trust, and loyalty/faithfulness are very important things to always work on in a relationship. The best advice I can give you if this turns into a permanent relationship that leads to marriage other than do not rush is even after you say your “I do's” never stop dating and pursuing each other. Complacency and a lack of communication will destroy a relationship. The race is not over just because you exchange vows…you're going to find out there are an infinite number of laps in this race.