Boy if I had a chance to go back in time to save myself some peace and productivity that I wasted on stuff like this. This is unnecessary torment. Don’t bother with a relationship just focus on your education and career and travel…lots of travel. You are wasting some beautiful time with someone that is not on the same page as you are.
It would be a perfectly fine gift amongst a swingers friendship group, not so much between someone’s husband and BFF. It’s suspicious, but then again, I’m incredibly jaded because I’ve read too many betrayed partner (BP) RL stories where their wayward spouse was having an affair with the BP’s BFF or neighbor. OP, I’d be worried about what the gift could possibly signify because besides being creepy and highly inappropriate, it’s Freudian AF. Does your husband have suppressed feelings for your BFF?
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This is my question. If you were taking your kids to Disney and she’s never been. Explain to me why she wasn’t included in a trip to Disney for “your kids”? I would resent that too OP.
If there was nothing there. He would not be on REDDIT saying I went through my GF old phone to use it and checked out her text. And nothing was there!!! YAY!!
Bet there's stuff over the last 3yrs. I would confront her and see what happens and roll if needed bro. Just saying.
Good her jealousy will only sabotage more of your future plans.
And obviously for this dude, if he is smart and mature honestly I wouldn’t blame him for dipping on you.
Just because that is a massive red flag for immaturity. The whole loyalty test shit. I would be out as well.
Maybe he will come around. For now just give him space. He will figure out what he wants to do, and if you pester him it might just push him further away.
I agree. You've been together since you were basically just out of childhood and people change a lot as they grow up. I'm sorry you are hurting, but this is a great chance to figure out what you want out of life too
No sweetie. It’s not emotional manipulation to say “if you choose this, I will end the relationship”. I can be used as emotional manipulation, definitely. But it is reasonable and healthy to clear standards on what will lead to the end of a relationship.
OP isn’t trying to choose her friends. OP is telling her that this one friend makes him uncomfortable because of very specific reasons that she did not disclose to him in the beginning of their relationship.
If OP was saying “she can’t have any male friends” then I might be in agreement about control and abuse. That is not this situation.
Then like I said, don't bother, she wants more than you can give, unless the two of you are capable of meeting and having an honest discussion about expectations, and what would work, you'll end up frustrated and she'll end up angry. Neither of you will be happy
It might be worth it to get a new phone number. Keep the old phone but don't answer anymore, you might need the messages and call log to get a restraining order
Yo from a dude who recently had a similar cardiovascular issue I discovered from masturbating, go to the mf doctor bc turns out I had a heart arrhythmia ???
It’s 6 months and you already hit the nail on the head when it comes to their crazy dysfunctional relationship.
You know what you need to do. If you stay you’ll have no one to blame but yourself. He was honest from the start and he is not trying to trap you or hide the truth. Good luck
Very early in relationship to be so far apart. I'd count losses nice and early and jump ship
Boy if I had a chance to go back in time to save myself some peace and productivity that I wasted on stuff like this. This is unnecessary torment. Don’t bother with a relationship just focus on your education and career and travel…lots of travel. You are wasting some beautiful time with someone that is not on the same page as you are.
If this is real you should watch Idiocracy, its a documentary about people like you
It would be a perfectly fine gift amongst a swingers friendship group, not so much between someone’s husband and BFF. It’s suspicious, but then again, I’m incredibly jaded because I’ve read too many betrayed partner (BP) RL stories where their wayward spouse was having an affair with the BP’s BFF or neighbor. OP, I’d be worried about what the gift could possibly signify because besides being creepy and highly inappropriate, it’s Freudian AF. Does your husband have suppressed feelings for your BFF?
Grab tea or whiskey when you can for yourself. You will survive this chap.
You should break up with your unremorseful lying cheating girlfriend before somebody puts a baby in her for you to raise.
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Read below. OP already said that his daughter says the kids drive her crazy. She seems to have zero interest in doing anything with them.
This is my question. If you were taking your kids to Disney and she’s never been. Explain to me why she wasn’t included in a trip to Disney for “your kids”? I would resent that too OP.
She's in therapy
If there was nothing there. He would not be on REDDIT saying I went through my GF old phone to use it and checked out her text. And nothing was there!!! YAY!!
Bet there's stuff over the last 3yrs. I would confront her and see what happens and roll if needed bro. Just saying.
Good her jealousy will only sabotage more of your future plans.
And obviously for this dude, if he is smart and mature honestly I wouldn’t blame him for dipping on you.
Just because that is a massive red flag for immaturity. The whole loyalty test shit. I would be out as well.
Maybe he will come around. For now just give him space. He will figure out what he wants to do, and if you pester him it might just push him further away.
I agree. You've been together since you were basically just out of childhood and people change a lot as they grow up. I'm sorry you are hurting, but this is a great chance to figure out what you want out of life too
No sweetie. It’s not emotional manipulation to say “if you choose this, I will end the relationship”. I can be used as emotional manipulation, definitely. But it is reasonable and healthy to clear standards on what will lead to the end of a relationship.
OP isn’t trying to choose her friends. OP is telling her that this one friend makes him uncomfortable because of very specific reasons that she did not disclose to him in the beginning of their relationship.
If OP was saying “she can’t have any male friends” then I might be in agreement about control and abuse. That is not this situation.
Then like I said, don't bother, she wants more than you can give, unless the two of you are capable of meeting and having an honest discussion about expectations, and what would work, you'll end up frustrated and she'll end up angry. Neither of you will be happy
Did you report the assault to the police?
It might be worth it to get a new phone number. Keep the old phone but don't answer anymore, you might need the messages and call log to get a restraining order
She definitely knows what she said. She's just trying to backpedal.
This is the attitude we’ve been having so that’s why we kinda never thought it was an issue !?
Yo from a dude who recently had a similar cardiovascular issue I discovered from masturbating, go to the mf doctor bc turns out I had a heart arrhythmia ???
It’s 6 months and you already hit the nail on the head when it comes to their crazy dysfunctional relationship.
You know what you need to do. If you stay you’ll have no one to blame but yourself. He was honest from the start and he is not trying to trap you or hide the truth. Good luck
DTMFA, plain and simple.
You asked for a boundary and he refuses to maintain it despite agreeing to do it.