Ngl I’m not gonna completely blame her for wanting to break up with him if her relationship is toxic with him but if he didn’t do anything and if there relationship is healthy then I don’t get it
This reminds me of the episode of American Dad where Stan does this to Steve. “Already alive over here… already named Steve over here.”. In all seriousness though, how weird and inconsiderate of them. Out of all the names they could have picked. I don't blame you, I wouldn't be talking to them either
He looks at other women. Do you shield your eyes when other men around around? Do you avert your eyes and refuse to speak to other men?
The only question you need to ask is: Is he going to leave me?
No offense to you, but get some therapy. Couples and individual. My wife and I both look at others. At the end of the day, we get in bed together, kiss each other good night and that is that.
Chores should be shared not dumped all on one person.
Personally, I'd stop doing anything for them. Do your chores. Get a lock for your room and some seperate pots and plates or other necessities- maybe reduce your food to non perishable items or things yoi can stash in your room until you can get out.
What if she used a condom found used? Doesn't matter who used it, that is not the perpetrator…! The act is despicable enough to not point to a blood relative, sorry…
Got no idea what her problem is but your best action is to leave her presence when she starts this. Make an escape plan and implement with blocking her everywhere, ghost. I had a gf once that used to jump up then lay out horizontally while airborne expecting me to catch her when I’d just got out of working all day. About the twentieth time (day) my back gave out and I couldn’t move for a week. It all comes down to childish behavior and you can’t fix it.
I mean there's an awful lot of potential red flags there. Your partner tells you they got very drunk, went solo to a co-workers room, kissed him (or got kissed) and you have no questions / concerns? Obviously it very much could be the truth – or could be the start of the 'trickle truth'. It would definitely be fair to have some concerns. Personally hiding it would be far far worse – really makes it look like you have something to hide.
Judging from what you’ve written down, it sounds like you have a lot of unresolved issues you need to work on before you start dating. Him not responding for a couple hours is completely normal and not indicative of any kind of abandonment.
However, you trying to guilt trip him into speaking to you because he didn’t respond quickly enough is not okay. Not because it might bother him or whatever, but because it puts you in a vulnerable position where someone might take advantage of your insecurities to abuse you. This kind of behavior only attracts bad company.
Please, go seek therapy and stay away from dating for a while until you learn how to love yourself. You don’t just owe it to your future partners, but you owe it to yourself to find happiness.
You really glossed over the part about when you were going out every night until 2 am with coworkers and leaving him with your children. You may be grossly underestimating how much resentment that built up in him.
I apologize to him, and we had moved on
I'm thinking you moved on but he didn't get over it so easily. You didn't provide enough info, so I'm speculating here, but it seems like it'd be worth pursuing in therapy, assuming you're interested in trying to fix your situation.
I’m not sure if he knows these things have happened. She’s always invited my boyfriend over while her fiancé is at work and usually gets home around 7pm. But my boyfriend and her fiancé seem friendly and talk about games and stuff when he gets there. My boyfriend did bring up how he didn’t want to make her fiancé feel weird about being her brides man though.
Wow that’s quite a leap of faith. It sounds more like you need to get STD tested.
Ngl I’m not gonna completely blame her for wanting to break up with him if her relationship is toxic with him but if he didn’t do anything and if there relationship is healthy then I don’t get it
This reminds me of the episode of American Dad where Stan does this to Steve. “Already alive over here… already named Steve over here.”. In all seriousness though, how weird and inconsiderate of them. Out of all the names they could have picked. I don't blame you, I wouldn't be talking to them either
Nothing wrong with it even if she believes its emotional cheating in some way and I even agreed to not watch it but went behind her back?
Thank you, I really appreciate the kind words and support. I’m going to talk to her today
An intentional campaign of making someone doubt their reality and think that they have gone insane.
Love what you wrote. So level headed?
That’s the argument toxic masculinity makes.
He looks at other women. Do you shield your eyes when other men around around? Do you avert your eyes and refuse to speak to other men?
The only question you need to ask is: Is he going to leave me?
No offense to you, but get some therapy. Couples and individual. My wife and I both look at others. At the end of the day, we get in bed together, kiss each other good night and that is that.
Yeah, that behavior is disgusting.
Chores should be shared not dumped all on one person.
Personally, I'd stop doing anything for them. Do your chores. Get a lock for your room and some seperate pots and plates or other necessities- maybe reduce your food to non perishable items or things yoi can stash in your room until you can get out.
What if she used a condom found used? Doesn't matter who used it, that is not the perpetrator…! The act is despicable enough to not point to a blood relative, sorry…
Got no idea what her problem is but your best action is to leave her presence when she starts this. Make an escape plan and implement with blocking her everywhere, ghost. I had a gf once that used to jump up then lay out horizontally while airborne expecting me to catch her when I’d just got out of working all day. About the twentieth time (day) my back gave out and I couldn’t move for a week. It all comes down to childish behavior and you can’t fix it.
I mean there's an awful lot of potential red flags there. Your partner tells you they got very drunk, went solo to a co-workers room, kissed him (or got kissed) and you have no questions / concerns? Obviously it very much could be the truth – or could be the start of the 'trickle truth'. It would definitely be fair to have some concerns. Personally hiding it would be far far worse – really makes it look like you have something to hide.
Alone
Judging from what you’ve written down, it sounds like you have a lot of unresolved issues you need to work on before you start dating. Him not responding for a couple hours is completely normal and not indicative of any kind of abandonment.
However, you trying to guilt trip him into speaking to you because he didn’t respond quickly enough is not okay. Not because it might bother him or whatever, but because it puts you in a vulnerable position where someone might take advantage of your insecurities to abuse you. This kind of behavior only attracts bad company.
Please, go seek therapy and stay away from dating for a while until you learn how to love yourself. You don’t just owe it to your future partners, but you owe it to yourself to find happiness.
Good luck.
Not even a little bit.
You really glossed over the part about when you were going out every night until 2 am with coworkers and leaving him with your children. You may be grossly underestimating how much resentment that built up in him.
I apologize to him, and we had moved on
I'm thinking you moved on but he didn't get over it so easily. You didn't provide enough info, so I'm speculating here, but it seems like it'd be worth pursuing in therapy, assuming you're interested in trying to fix your situation.
I’m not sure if he knows these things have happened. She’s always invited my boyfriend over while her fiancé is at work and usually gets home around 7pm. But my boyfriend and her fiancé seem friendly and talk about games and stuff when he gets there. My boyfriend did bring up how he didn’t want to make her fiancé feel weird about being her brides man though.