That said, naaah. I enjoy porn regularly. I also enjoy my partner. If we want to do something with porn or an imagined scenario it's a mutual experience.
Don't normalize this unless you're genuinely cool with it..
I didn’t even think of this, thank you. I guess I just don’t want to believe it… but that’s true, he said he was able to maintain an erection, but I was trying to rationalise it perhaps being a fear response or something ?
If she's meeting up with friends, guys or girls, and not telling them she's in a relationship.. And then gets upset at you for saying you are her boyfriend… Then hate to break it to you, you aren't really her boyfriend.
Best to move on, this girl is not on the same page as you when it comes to this relationship.
The age difference is concerning IMO. Did you feel pressured into sex at all? Only asking bc you dated ex for over a year and presumably have only been seeing this guy for a short time. Of course if you felt ready that’s totally fine. Just wanting you to see if there are any red flags you may have missed.
Likely not going to work. Same thing happened with my current partner.
Instead of debt, her ex was a junkie. Stole her debit card and drained it multiple times.
Since she had let him use it before to take cash off and use it for purchases, the bank found that he was an authorized user and refused to assist further.
Since OPs guy had the card and the pin, they will likely find the same result.
I agree, still: File a police report and hope for the best.
You didn't cause this. He's using your criticism as an excuse for giving up, and conveniently it allows him to pass blame onto you. There's no reason to tolerate that, and if you accept fault you're just enabling that behavior in the future.
Of course there are tactics to delicately approach touchy subjects, but you shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around your husband. Couples counseling may be warranted. He would benefit from his own school/career counseling and/or therapy as well.
Thank you, from a Romani woman who prefers that the harmful stereotypes are not reinforced through language. I will not ever be upset by someone not knowing about it using “gypped” but knowing and doing it anyway is an AH thing to do, i.m.o.
For me that would be an even bigger red flag. That means that he's obviously putting up a facade in front of people whom he knows are not going to know what's up behind closed doors, and bothers you with the bad attitude.
Do you want to dump him now or wait til he cheats on you. Because he is going to cheat on you. He might tell you immediately or he might just act like a jerk to you til it finally comes out. Save yourself the trouble.
If his personality coming out is physically repelling you, that is your body’s way of telling you to get out of this relationship. Trust that and break up.
Whenever I see a cute girl in the store I think of suicide. I could ask her on a date and I’d immediately get rejected . It’s like there’s no hope.
Lol why TF did he actually tell u this??
Honesty sometimes needs limits…
That said, naaah. I enjoy porn regularly. I also enjoy my partner. If we want to do something with porn or an imagined scenario it's a mutual experience.
Don't normalize this unless you're genuinely cool with it..
You need therapy. You are not mature enough for a relationship.
I didn’t even think of this, thank you. I guess I just don’t want to believe it… but that’s true, he said he was able to maintain an erection, but I was trying to rationalise it perhaps being a fear response or something ?
And then the husband turns around and with a sigh explains the “high-level” joke to his now stunned and embarrassed wife.
I have, and it’s not healthy.
Just divorce each other ffs
If she's meeting up with friends, guys or girls, and not telling them she's in a relationship.. And then gets upset at you for saying you are her boyfriend… Then hate to break it to you, you aren't really her boyfriend.
Best to move on, this girl is not on the same page as you when it comes to this relationship.
I’d recommend dropping her because you never know if she’ll ever formally accuse you of r*pe or not.
This can’t be real lol
The age difference is concerning IMO. Did you feel pressured into sex at all? Only asking bc you dated ex for over a year and presumably have only been seeing this guy for a short time. Of course if you felt ready that’s totally fine. Just wanting you to see if there are any red flags you may have missed.
Likely not going to work. Same thing happened with my current partner.
Instead of debt, her ex was a junkie. Stole her debit card and drained it multiple times.
Since she had let him use it before to take cash off and use it for purchases, the bank found that he was an authorized user and refused to assist further.
Since OPs guy had the card and the pin, they will likely find the same result.
I agree, still: File a police report and hope for the best.
I’m glad my post is helpful and so glad the link to the Captain’s website is helpful. Wishing you all the best ?.
She cheated.. just say it’s over and be done with her..
You get your own plate – don't share ketchup, simple.
You can understand his emotions but they are emotions, not reality. You can empathize and not agree with him
You didn't cause this. He's using your criticism as an excuse for giving up, and conveniently it allows him to pass blame onto you. There's no reason to tolerate that, and if you accept fault you're just enabling that behavior in the future.
Of course there are tactics to delicately approach touchy subjects, but you shouldn't have to walk on eggshells around your husband. Couples counseling may be warranted. He would benefit from his own school/career counseling and/or therapy as well.
Thank you, from a Romani woman who prefers that the harmful stereotypes are not reinforced through language. I will not ever be upset by someone not knowing about it using “gypped” but knowing and doing it anyway is an AH thing to do, i.m.o.
For me that would be an even bigger red flag. That means that he's obviously putting up a facade in front of people whom he knows are not going to know what's up behind closed doors, and bothers you with the bad attitude.
Do you want to dump him now or wait til he cheats on you. Because he is going to cheat on you. He might tell you immediately or he might just act like a jerk to you til it finally comes out. Save yourself the trouble.
If his personality coming out is physically repelling you, that is your body’s way of telling you to get out of this relationship. Trust that and break up.
Do his parents know he's dating you? Hes likely going to get a lot of pressure to dump you and marry and Indian woman.