This is why you don’t have close friends with people you can date when you’re in a monogamous relationship. You’ve been taking the intimacy out of your relationship and using it with the other person. So while you’re patting yourself on the back for not cheating, you basically abandoned your partner. They’re called an EA their emotional affairs, and they’re just as damaging as physical affairs. Your partner probably feels betrayed. And most would.
If you consider yourself a decent person and not a genuine asshole, you will break up with this woman now.
It is 100% clear from this post that you do not want her to move with you, you do not want to live together, you don’t even want to be in a relationship with her anymore.
You are not compatible. This relationship is not working. She’s trying to coerce you into committing to something you do not want.
Stop acting like a passenger in your own life. She doesn’t get to just decide these things. You are not required to just go along with whatever she wants.
NO, you are not together anymore. Go about your life.
Question, how is it that you know she is ill?
So if we were to last 5 more years then it would be a good time
This is why you don’t have close friends with people you can date when you’re in a monogamous relationship. You’ve been taking the intimacy out of your relationship and using it with the other person. So while you’re patting yourself on the back for not cheating, you basically abandoned your partner. They’re called an EA their emotional affairs, and they’re just as damaging as physical affairs. Your partner probably feels betrayed. And most would.
It depends whether she's kind of joking around. I had a friend who used to do this, it was funny
Maybe a fetish was involved? I don't know, people are weird sometimes.
If you consider yourself a decent person and not a genuine asshole, you will break up with this woman now.
It is 100% clear from this post that you do not want her to move with you, you do not want to live together, you don’t even want to be in a relationship with her anymore.
You are not compatible. This relationship is not working. She’s trying to coerce you into committing to something you do not want.
Stop acting like a passenger in your own life. She doesn’t get to just decide these things. You are not required to just go along with whatever she wants.