You need to leave your partner, but if you can't right now, it sounds like you need a new therapist. You're therapist shouldn't be giving you an ultimatum.
I was in a manipulative relationship before. I finally decided that I would rather be single than on-line my life like that. Dumped him and never looked back.
Lmao, after reading the comments I’m not one to encourage going through your significant other’s phone, but curiosity would get the best of me on this one. He probably won’t give you his address, but I bet it’s in his Amazon app. Or DoorDash/Uber eats. I would jot that down real quick. Go do some recon and see if his wife is home.
If you don’t want to make a scene, print out all the photos you have with him, screenshots, etc and make it as incriminating as possible with dates and write a letter to his wife to give her a heads up. You can put your phone number in there if you want. Go to your local florist, attach the envelope to a bouquet, and have them delivered to her while the cheating piece of shit is at work.
Is this the hill you’re willing to die on? I’m baffled that someone wouldn’t want to show off to the world that he/she is taken and is married to the love of their life. And I’m baffled that your husband has to keep asking you to wear the ring that I assume he picked out just for you.
No, I don't think it was guilt because she kept the messages and remained in touch with him. That really doesn't sound “3 years of guilt every day”
I thin she got incredibly worried/paranoid/terrified at that moment you asked specifically about this guy and maybe felt you were going to look into things more and that made her confess.
The question is are you happy, does he make you happy, to me the answer would be simple, anyone who did this to me would not make me happy, but you may feel differently, if he does make you happy then this behaviour needs addressing and working through, but if he doesn’t then dump his ugly ass (and im not talking about his looks here), because anyone who can do this because they are feeling bad about themselves does not truly love you, because you would never do something so unkind and outright cruel to someone you love, and if this goes unchallenged then it will only get worse the more he ages, life is too short, is your relationship really worth going through this, and think about how much work you will have to do to rebuild yourself the longer you stay in the relationship. Personally i’d run and i’d run fast and far.
You should go to a strip clup and see exactly how much bullshit your bf is spewing..it most definitely is sexual place and people most definitely do go “oooh sexy girls, that get nude for money and will do anything for it, I wish I could be with”..it is fun entertainment, if you are entertained by women with virtually no clothes on simulating sex acts in front of you or on you, with the option of the more you pay them the more they do..
Anyways, show up at the strip club for his bachelor party. If it is harmless entertainment then that shouldn't be a problem.
Tell your friends the truth
Why insult him back? How old are you? You pushed him to tell you the truth and then that’s how you treat him? Just move on
You need to leave your partner, but if you can't right now, it sounds like you need a new therapist. You're therapist shouldn't be giving you an ultimatum.
I was in a manipulative relationship before. I finally decided that I would rather be single than on-line my life like that. Dumped him and never looked back.
He fell in love well before I told him about my inheritance
Lmao, after reading the comments I’m not one to encourage going through your significant other’s phone, but curiosity would get the best of me on this one. He probably won’t give you his address, but I bet it’s in his Amazon app. Or DoorDash/Uber eats. I would jot that down real quick. Go do some recon and see if his wife is home.
If you don’t want to make a scene, print out all the photos you have with him, screenshots, etc and make it as incriminating as possible with dates and write a letter to his wife to give her a heads up. You can put your phone number in there if you want. Go to your local florist, attach the envelope to a bouquet, and have them delivered to her while the cheating piece of shit is at work.
Good stuff.
Hope everything works out for the best.
Take care!
Is this the hill you’re willing to die on? I’m baffled that someone wouldn’t want to show off to the world that he/she is taken and is married to the love of their life. And I’m baffled that your husband has to keep asking you to wear the ring that I assume he picked out just for you.
No, I don't think it was guilt because she kept the messages and remained in touch with him. That really doesn't sound “3 years of guilt every day”
I thin she got incredibly worried/paranoid/terrified at that moment you asked specifically about this guy and maybe felt you were going to look into things more and that made her confess.
The question is are you happy, does he make you happy, to me the answer would be simple, anyone who did this to me would not make me happy, but you may feel differently, if he does make you happy then this behaviour needs addressing and working through, but if he doesn’t then dump his ugly ass (and im not talking about his looks here), because anyone who can do this because they are feeling bad about themselves does not truly love you, because you would never do something so unkind and outright cruel to someone you love, and if this goes unchallenged then it will only get worse the more he ages, life is too short, is your relationship really worth going through this, and think about how much work you will have to do to rebuild yourself the longer you stay in the relationship. Personally i’d run and i’d run fast and far.
You should go to a strip clup and see exactly how much bullshit your bf is spewing..it most definitely is sexual place and people most definitely do go “oooh sexy girls, that get nude for money and will do anything for it, I wish I could be with”..it is fun entertainment, if you are entertained by women with virtually no clothes on simulating sex acts in front of you or on you, with the option of the more you pay them the more they do..
Anyways, show up at the strip club for his bachelor party. If it is harmless entertainment then that shouldn't be a problem.
Terrified of what exactly?