Do you feel guilty or do you feel sad? If you feel guilty about hurting him that's kind of what it's like breaking up with someone and that doesn't mean it was the wrong thing for you.
If you feel sad because you miss him, after some time, maybe that's a sign you aren't supposed to break up with him… But. You did it because he wasn't willing to move things forward at a speed you could accept. Basically I think that was a logical step to take at that point. You COULD keep talking to the guy, tell him it's NOT going to work if he isn't willing to move forward and see what happens.
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Ignore the drunk texts. Do not answer drunk texts or calls. She doesn't like it too bad.
When she is sober the only thing you say about it is to stop fucking texting you when she is drunk. She wants to kill herself with booze she should leave you out of it. She says something to the family about you being a bitch, share the texts
Fool sounds really judgemental, and I don’t think that’s the question here. What I would ask is — could you stay with her? She’s cheated multiple times, not just once (not that once would be better, but you know.) For me, infidelity is a nonnegotiable betrayal. You can be hurt and upset, AND also still have feelings for someone (feelings don’t just magically go away just because someone hurts us), AND it doesn’t have to mean that you should stay with her. Feelings are feelings – the question is, can you on-line with this? Do you see yourself being able to forgive her and trust her eventually, or will you always worry? Hugs. Being cheated on is so incredibly painful. For the record – this says nothing about you (or the person that was cheated on) and 100% about the person who cheated. I say this because people will at times internalise or speculate over their own shortcomings to try to explain why their partner might’ve cheated. This isn’t on you.
I wish I never met him. In the beginning he was such an incredible guy and super respectful. Then he turned into a fuck boy when he started working as an emt. I feel like I need so much therapy after everything he’s put me through. He was the only guy I’d ever trusted to do anything with and I’ve never been more hurt
Ew. They have to literally be deleted from the cloud, not just the phone, and anywhere else he saves his photos. He continues to do this, why are you still with him?? This is the type of guy a father wants his daughter to stay away from and you’re trying to keep him. ?
The fight for trans rights is the fight for bodily autonomy, him not believing in it is the same as saying women shouldn't have bodily autonomy, if I were you I wouldn't stay
Your edit did help clear things up for me tbh. Since this post was made before you started going out, surely all you need to do is message the girl and ask if they're still dating/what he's like?
You can give ME the STD then blame me for giving it to YOU and you’re covered!
Do you feel guilty or do you feel sad? If you feel guilty about hurting him that's kind of what it's like breaking up with someone and that doesn't mean it was the wrong thing for you.
If you feel sad because you miss him, after some time, maybe that's a sign you aren't supposed to break up with him… But. You did it because he wasn't willing to move things forward at a speed you could accept. Basically I think that was a logical step to take at that point. You COULD keep talking to the guy, tell him it's NOT going to work if he isn't willing to move forward and see what happens.
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OP said he set her up for therapy and she didn’t go. This is on her at this point.
You can't change her. Dont try
Ignore the drunk texts. Do not answer drunk texts or calls. She doesn't like it too bad.
When she is sober the only thing you say about it is to stop fucking texting you when she is drunk. She wants to kill herself with booze she should leave you out of it. She says something to the family about you being a bitch, share the texts
Fool sounds really judgemental, and I don’t think that’s the question here. What I would ask is — could you stay with her? She’s cheated multiple times, not just once (not that once would be better, but you know.) For me, infidelity is a nonnegotiable betrayal. You can be hurt and upset, AND also still have feelings for someone (feelings don’t just magically go away just because someone hurts us), AND it doesn’t have to mean that you should stay with her. Feelings are feelings – the question is, can you on-line with this? Do you see yourself being able to forgive her and trust her eventually, or will you always worry? Hugs. Being cheated on is so incredibly painful. For the record – this says nothing about you (or the person that was cheated on) and 100% about the person who cheated. I say this because people will at times internalise or speculate over their own shortcomings to try to explain why their partner might’ve cheated. This isn’t on you.
I wish I never met him. In the beginning he was such an incredible guy and super respectful. Then he turned into a fuck boy when he started working as an emt. I feel like I need so much therapy after everything he’s put me through. He was the only guy I’d ever trusted to do anything with and I’ve never been more hurt
We should also bring up the fact that he was drinking and was coerced into having sex
Ew. They have to literally be deleted from the cloud, not just the phone, and anywhere else he saves his photos. He continues to do this, why are you still with him?? This is the type of guy a father wants his daughter to stay away from and you’re trying to keep him. ?
The fight for trans rights is the fight for bodily autonomy, him not believing in it is the same as saying women shouldn't have bodily autonomy, if I were you I wouldn't stay
Your edit did help clear things up for me tbh. Since this post was made before you started going out, surely all you need to do is message the girl and ask if they're still dating/what he's like?