I'm sorry to hear that. At least you aren't married. It probably would be best to talk to her about how you feel and discuss whether it is best to continue the relationship or move on.
I would NEVER appreciate having an ultimatum like that. She may just be saying this out of desperation but I personally wouldn't like the way she put it. I would sit her down and discuss this with her. If you're willing to have another child just tell her that you're willing to do this but having a child is NOT something to force on someone. If not then just stay in your daughter's life. To be brutally honest, how successful do you think a 40 year old with a kid is going to be in landing a guy whose willing to immediately commit to having a child with her?
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given the brother came in right after the fact i think he is telling the truth. i would legit lie and say you have camera footage and see how that changes the situation… like approach her and just say “so i found some footage from last night on the security cam…” and just let her fill in the rest
Tell your wife a porn addiction is when the line from porn to cheating is crossed multiple times, you lie even when caught red-handed, and you turn down your woman who actually DOES want to fuck every night because you'd RATHER jerk off to porn or sext and send nudes to people on Kik, Grindr, Snapchat, Tinder, etc. At least your wife is your first choice and you're not lying about what you do and it's ONLY watching porn for 20 minutes or so.
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He’s your ex. He doesn’t get to insist about anything that has to do with you. Time for NC so you can move on. Don’t play these head games, it’s not productive and manipulative.
“at which point he pinned my hands above my head, grabbed the handcuffs from his bedside, and handcuffed my hands above my head.”
So he was able to hold both of your hands with his one hand while he grabbed the handcuffs with the other hand? How was he able to then handcuff both of your hands if you were resisting?
Dump her, she forgot your food. All jokes aside, if you need to be with her when she goes out, then there is no point in being together it will always be in the back of your mind. Let go be herself and find someone you can trust.
Oh for fuck sakes, not you again.
Tell her clearly how you feel. She is free to proceed but she should know
I'm sorry to hear that. At least you aren't married. It probably would be best to talk to her about how you feel and discuss whether it is best to continue the relationship or move on.
I would NEVER appreciate having an ultimatum like that. She may just be saying this out of desperation but I personally wouldn't like the way she put it. I would sit her down and discuss this with her. If you're willing to have another child just tell her that you're willing to do this but having a child is NOT something to force on someone. If not then just stay in your daughter's life. To be brutally honest, how successful do you think a 40 year old with a kid is going to be in landing a guy whose willing to immediately commit to having a child with her?
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given the brother came in right after the fact i think he is telling the truth. i would legit lie and say you have camera footage and see how that changes the situation… like approach her and just say “so i found some footage from last night on the security cam…” and just let her fill in the rest
Seems mean but I probably should sigh
Tell your wife a porn addiction is when the line from porn to cheating is crossed multiple times, you lie even when caught red-handed, and you turn down your woman who actually DOES want to fuck every night because you'd RATHER jerk off to porn or sext and send nudes to people on Kik, Grindr, Snapchat, Tinder, etc. At least your wife is your first choice and you're not lying about what you do and it's ONLY watching porn for 20 minutes or so.
Source: oh who tf are we kidding, of course it's me
He’s your ex. He doesn’t get to insist about anything that has to do with you. Time for NC so you can move on. Don’t play these head games, it’s not productive and manipulative.
“at which point he pinned my hands above my head, grabbed the handcuffs from his bedside, and handcuffed my hands above my head.”
So he was able to hold both of your hands with his one hand while he grabbed the handcuffs with the other hand? How was he able to then handcuff both of your hands if you were resisting?
Move on
Dump her, she forgot your food. All jokes aside, if you need to be with her when she goes out, then there is no point in being together it will always be in the back of your mind. Let go be herself and find someone you can trust.