Do you have access to mental health resources? This is a perfect topic to take to a professional.
Before you decide what to do, take some time to understand your motivations. It sounds like keeping secrets from your mom would violate your core values, which is entirely understandable. Is there any possibility you want to tell your mom out of a desire to hurt your dad or your half-sister? If that's the case, don't forget about the pain your mom will suffer when she learns about this.
In the short term, if I were in your position I'd tell my dad I won't lie for him, and that if my mom asks me anything directly that would require me to give up his secret to answer, then the cat will be out of the bag. I'd caution him that this will come out eventually — your half-sister is probably willing to keep this secret because it's the only way she feels she can get access to her dad, but eventually she'll probably realize how messed up the situation is, and she won't be OK with it anymore. It would be a lot better for your dad if your mom found out about the situation from him than from anyone else (including you).
Ultimately, your dad keeping secrets from your mom is an issue between them. While the health/survival of your parents' marriage is important to you, it's not something you're responsible for or should be involved in.
One of the hardest parts of growing up is learning that your parents aren't necessarily the people you thought they were when you were a child. As you learn more about who they are as people, you may find your relationships with them needing to change. That's not easy, but it's perfectly normal and something most of us go through. Do what's right for you, keeping your core values and your well-being at the forefront of your decision-making. Take care.
I get that you’re used to joking around with your friend like that. I really do. But at the end of the day, your felt doesn’t feel comfortable with those kind of jokes. I feel like you should tell your friend not to do it anymore cus it makes your wife uncomfortable. Then you’ll see what your friend does but you should reassure your wife
Or woman who considers herself a liberal for watching the Queer Eye and going to gay clubs on girl’s night, and thinks getting her husband to cut down to only one slur a day (around her) is being an activist.
Lol, I'm not your Bro, Bub! Nice try making this about me though – a common strategy from someone that's run out of logically, on-topic responses.
She fucked up, 100%. You don't surprise a spouse just coming home from work with a guest, then pick a fight about a less than perfect reaction to seeing a guest.
Once she learns he's not feeling well, she needed to back the fuck off. This would be a marriage ender for me if she couldn't come around in a timely manner to recognize her errors. You don't surprise someone coming home from work with a guest, get pissed about something so minor, then, yes, verbally absue that person with BS like “She rolled her eyes and commented that I shouldn't get dinner after putting her through this.”
That ain't shit anyone should put up with for anyone, much less from their own spouse. She behaved so shitty he gets a complete pass about a very, very minor, if even that, infection over a less than perfect greeting.
I'll put it this way, if we're doctors here, one patient has a paper cut, the other bleeding out from multiple gun wounds. That's degree of difference in the two's behaviors.
He can fuck his hand if he is disgusted by that. You don't need to feel insecure about this, contrary if you feel sexy then behave so. It can be your preference as your personal care & hygiene, and he needs to respect that. Seriously 30 yo and still behaves like mama's little boy.
You two don't sounds happy or compatible. If my husband then fiancé ddnt want kids. I wldnt have married him. I'm pregnant rn and we are very excited to be parents. That kind of thing builds alot of resentment. Plus tf does she want. She changed the ring twice.
Are u gonna keep having to pay for her being picky..
You are gonna wait a long time for that research buddy. U either enthusiastically wants kids or u dont. U dont have them to placate a partner and u don't tell someone they shld marry u and someday somewhere could be 14 years from now tell them well nope i don't want kids while they hold onto hope.
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And together only 4 months. ?
Do you have access to mental health resources? This is a perfect topic to take to a professional.
Before you decide what to do, take some time to understand your motivations. It sounds like keeping secrets from your mom would violate your core values, which is entirely understandable. Is there any possibility you want to tell your mom out of a desire to hurt your dad or your half-sister? If that's the case, don't forget about the pain your mom will suffer when she learns about this.
In the short term, if I were in your position I'd tell my dad I won't lie for him, and that if my mom asks me anything directly that would require me to give up his secret to answer, then the cat will be out of the bag. I'd caution him that this will come out eventually — your half-sister is probably willing to keep this secret because it's the only way she feels she can get access to her dad, but eventually she'll probably realize how messed up the situation is, and she won't be OK with it anymore. It would be a lot better for your dad if your mom found out about the situation from him than from anyone else (including you).
Ultimately, your dad keeping secrets from your mom is an issue between them. While the health/survival of your parents' marriage is important to you, it's not something you're responsible for or should be involved in.
One of the hardest parts of growing up is learning that your parents aren't necessarily the people you thought they were when you were a child. As you learn more about who they are as people, you may find your relationships with them needing to change. That's not easy, but it's perfectly normal and something most of us go through. Do what's right for you, keeping your core values and your well-being at the forefront of your decision-making. Take care.
I get that you’re used to joking around with your friend like that. I really do. But at the end of the day, your felt doesn’t feel comfortable with those kind of jokes. I feel like you should tell your friend not to do it anymore cus it makes your wife uncomfortable. Then you’ll see what your friend does but you should reassure your wife
Or woman who considers herself a liberal for watching the Queer Eye and going to gay clubs on girl’s night, and thinks getting her husband to cut down to only one slur a day (around her) is being an activist.
Lol, I'm not your Bro, Bub! Nice try making this about me though – a common strategy from someone that's run out of logically, on-topic responses.
She fucked up, 100%. You don't surprise a spouse just coming home from work with a guest, then pick a fight about a less than perfect reaction to seeing a guest.
Once she learns he's not feeling well, she needed to back the fuck off. This would be a marriage ender for me if she couldn't come around in a timely manner to recognize her errors. You don't surprise someone coming home from work with a guest, get pissed about something so minor, then, yes, verbally absue that person with BS like “She rolled her eyes and commented that I shouldn't get dinner after putting her through this.”
That ain't shit anyone should put up with for anyone, much less from their own spouse. She behaved so shitty he gets a complete pass about a very, very minor, if even that, infection over a less than perfect greeting.
I'll put it this way, if we're doctors here, one patient has a paper cut, the other bleeding out from multiple gun wounds. That's degree of difference in the two's behaviors.
He can fuck his hand if he is disgusted by that. You don't need to feel insecure about this, contrary if you feel sexy then behave so. It can be your preference as your personal care & hygiene, and he needs to respect that. Seriously 30 yo and still behaves like mama's little boy.
Aww bless her, honestly,
She probably felt as if its something you want and all men want so offered that to you as a means to please you just so you can experience anal.
You both clearly love each other.
I get your little joke I'm always messing with my partner about pegging him lol
Maybe tell her you want to try new things but with her and her alone,
Start small first then gradually lead up to anal.
Your boyfriend is afraid of change. He needs to see a therapist before he gets ready for any kind of commitment.
I had no idea this existed – thank you so much I’ll start this ASAP
You truly, honestly do deserve better, friend. ? Stay strong.
You two don't sounds happy or compatible. If my husband then fiancé ddnt want kids. I wldnt have married him. I'm pregnant rn and we are very excited to be parents. That kind of thing builds alot of resentment. Plus tf does she want. She changed the ring twice.
Are u gonna keep having to pay for her being picky..
You are gonna wait a long time for that research buddy. U either enthusiastically wants kids or u dont. U dont have them to placate a partner and u don't tell someone they shld marry u and someday somewhere could be 14 years from now tell them well nope i don't want kids while they hold onto hope.