I think they are being manipulative. They can either have you in their lives or not, religion should have nothing to do with it. Stand your ground. Why would they want you to join a church and get married in it under false pretenses anyway? Typical toxic religion logic.
If it honest to god looked like a hair and someone said lamppost, that would be odd. So I get that part. The part I don’t get is how long you been talking? A month, two? With out knowing if you ARE exclusive (what does some level of exclusive even mean?) and how long you’ve been talking, you bringing up a hair in a picture is the crazy part to me. You even say it could be family or a friend. So why even go there?
Some people might disagree with this as it’s a bit extreme but I think it will be effective.
To prove to her that these IG models really aren’t big deal to you and don’t mean anything to you, deactivate your instagram. How long for is up to you and by then you can clean up your algorithm.
Oh my god! Yes, you are so right. I am so sorry you had to deal with similar things, and so happy that you seem to have found yourself and your ground. You seem like a badass.
To be honest, I did not even look for a relationship (I broke up with my ex about 7 months ago) when I started dating this guy. I simply fell for him too fast (which was maybe a consequence of a lot of unprocessed emotions from previous bs). I should probably cut my losses and focus on myself.
I still feel tempted to see him though. That is the struggle. He lives in a different city (about two hours with train from me), and I go there a lot for work. I am weak, and know I will likely be texting him and ask if I can stay the night whenever I'm there. I mean, should I live! in a hotel when I can have my heart broken for free in his 80 cm bed, IN THIS ECONOMY?
You told her that you're not in love with her anymore… to what end?
Are you asking for a divorce? Or were you just planning to drop an “I don't love you” bomb in her lap and walk away and expect to still be married the next morning?
Are you depressed and trying to sabotage your life? What's you motivation here? What did you expect from this conversation?
She's mad that yall got a piece of mail that had the same last name on it? When yall are married? Yeah that's petty. As for constantly dumping on your family for no reason I'd just tell her that she's welcome to feel however she wants about your family but you're not going to listen to it anymore and she can keep those feelings to herself.
You know how you can look at a situation from the outside and know someone's an asshole?
Your boyfriend is an asshole. He would drop you for the woman at his job in a second if she was interested in him. Don't accept being someone's second choice.
I would agree, but the fact that we still occasionally communicate and that she wants to hang out more is what's nude. You're saying I need to cut ties completely? I feel like doing that will also be like another “break-up” pain for her. Feels like it's pain either way.
I think they are being manipulative. They can either have you in their lives or not, religion should have nothing to do with it. Stand your ground. Why would they want you to join a church and get married in it under false pretenses anyway? Typical toxic religion logic.
If it honest to god looked like a hair and someone said lamppost, that would be odd. So I get that part. The part I don’t get is how long you been talking? A month, two? With out knowing if you ARE exclusive (what does some level of exclusive even mean?) and how long you’ve been talking, you bringing up a hair in a picture is the crazy part to me. You even say it could be family or a friend. So why even go there?
Yeah, to explain the “not the brightest” comment. It’s not something he cries about unlike you. He’s slow to things and I said that was OK.
Good for you? ? Not sure why you thought he was in trade then. Maybe you look down on them lol.
Some people might disagree with this as it’s a bit extreme but I think it will be effective.
To prove to her that these IG models really aren’t big deal to you and don’t mean anything to you, deactivate your instagram. How long for is up to you and by then you can clean up your algorithm.
He didn't.
She did. And their moms did. He got out voted, basically.
Oh my god! Yes, you are so right. I am so sorry you had to deal with similar things, and so happy that you seem to have found yourself and your ground. You seem like a badass.
To be honest, I did not even look for a relationship (I broke up with my ex about 7 months ago) when I started dating this guy. I simply fell for him too fast (which was maybe a consequence of a lot of unprocessed emotions from previous bs). I should probably cut my losses and focus on myself.
I still feel tempted to see him though. That is the struggle. He lives in a different city (about two hours with train from me), and I go there a lot for work. I am weak, and know I will likely be texting him and ask if I can stay the night whenever I'm there. I mean, should I live! in a hotel when I can have my heart broken for free in his 80 cm bed, IN THIS ECONOMY?
If she’s there more than 15 days a month then she needs to pony up rent. Period.
You told her that you're not in love with her anymore… to what end?
Are you asking for a divorce? Or were you just planning to drop an “I don't love you” bomb in her lap and walk away and expect to still be married the next morning?
Are you depressed and trying to sabotage your life? What's you motivation here? What did you expect from this conversation?
She's mad that yall got a piece of mail that had the same last name on it? When yall are married? Yeah that's petty. As for constantly dumping on your family for no reason I'd just tell her that she's welcome to feel however she wants about your family but you're not going to listen to it anymore and she can keep those feelings to herself.
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You know how you can look at a situation from the outside and know someone's an asshole?
Your boyfriend is an asshole. He would drop you for the woman at his job in a second if she was interested in him. Don't accept being someone's second choice.
What is with all of the posts on this sub from children who are trying to rush into marriage with someone when it's been “a rocky relationship.”
Relationships are not supposed to be nude. They are not supposed to be rocky. Neither of you is at a place in life to be getting married.
What a loser. Let him date her. She would probably turn him down
I would agree, but the fact that we still occasionally communicate and that she wants to hang out more is what's nude. You're saying I need to cut ties completely? I feel like doing that will also be like another “break-up” pain for her. Feels like it's pain either way.