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“I'm being serious. This is not a joke. I really, really hate those noises you make. Are you willing to stop doing this pointless thing that really bothers me?”
If he doesn't stop (which could mean he refuses to stop, or he says he'll stop and then he doesn't), he's showing you that it's more important to him to be an annoying idiot than to respect your feelings and take you seriously. Is that who you want to build a life with?
My husband (soon to be ex) had been unemployed or underemployed for almost our whole marriage. I put up with it for a long time, but the final straw was when we were running out of money at the end of the month. He told me it was eating out, but he was spending $1k/mo on cam girls.
For a long time, I didn't want to leave because I felt like you, that he would be homeless. I finally had to get to the point that I couldn't care about that– he's an adult. He can take care of himself. If his choices make him homeless, that's his problem.
It's hard. He's still making stupid choices, according to my older son who still communicates with him, but he's an adult. That's not my problem anymore.
You leave her alone. You’re a horrible partner and just- Wtaf? Why would you think it’s okay to talk about how hard her friend is and “how she would be in bed” while in a relationship? You lost her and that’s on you. What should you do? Leave her the hell alone. Don’t harass her, don’t message her, call her, show up at her house/place where she works. Leave her tf alone.
Is the common pattern that he fails to do what he should, you get upset about that, and then he says you're at fault for “nagging” instead of him being at fault for not doing what he should?
I feel like we're missing a lot of context here, but the bottom line is this: you need to communicate clearly with him. The only clear thing right now is that you both have different views of this relationship. You both need to express what your expectations are and determine if you want to continue this relationship
Seriously love this is the best advice. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to make these people see reason and support you. Work on your health both physical and mental. Focus on getting strong, make small changes. Use your time for YOU. Your kids will always see you as their mom, keep in regular touch with them and have important heart-to-hearts. Let new wife and old husband deal with their day-to-day.
Focus on your friendships. Make a list of the people you truly like and those who support you and make time for them one on one. Open up and ask for their time too.
Learn a new activity/ language/ anything you are interested in baking, cooking it doesn’t matter, and preferably do it in a community or group class.
And if you can, plan a small trip for yourself- close by or far away doesn’t matter, whatever you can afford. It’ll give you something to look forward to and some change in perspective.
I know these are a lot of instructions but small steps, you can do it 🙂
Finally, and I can’t stress this enough, do not keep your family too clued in to your life. Sometimes our misery is just fodder for peoples gossip. Learn to identify the people who wish you the best and won’t run their mouths, and keep these people close. Forget about the rest.
Hope u get through this trying time and come out so much stronger, happier and at peace :))
She really thinks it’s okay to use your BABY to deal with her dysphoria? That’s so messed up and that she has you questioning yourself makes me fear for your and your baby’s safety.
This is fucked up. This isn’t about you and this isn’t about your wife. This is about the experience of a baby trying to nurse and not getting any milk. That’s not OK. That is hugely not OK. And it is disturbing that your wife is prioritizing her emotional needs over the survival needs of an infant.
You and your wife have different bodies that are capable of doing different things. Whatever feelings and emotions and distress are generated by that? Need to be fixed by the adults in this situation and not by the infant.
No. There is discomfort before the actual point of pain. It's actually a weird question…like, I'd prefer a bratwurst size to a pencil, but not a baseball bat? I'm thinking more of a Goldilocks – not too big, not too small, just right.
So what happens if you do and it doesn’t work out? Because 4 months is too soon, and taking care of a child is extremely tough. Moving in for financial reasons may make sense in some circumstances, but since you two barely know each other, you will be trapped if it doesn’t work out.
Wait longer, give it at least a year. If he truly is a good partner and not using you then he can wait.
You're stating things as though your “very emotional and needy” character flaws aren't something you can work on and improve. Relationships usually go better if the parties involved have similar levels of emotional need. However, if you're going to persist on trying to make this square peg fit into this round hole you're going to have to whittle it down a bit. Find other outlets for your emotional energy so you're not so dependent on him. Think before you speak because not every thought in your head or feeling in your heart needs to be verbalized. If you want the relationship to work you're going to have to work at it, and that always means compromise.
You guys have been talking for a long enough period of time that you’re either going to have a relationship or not and it’s kind of ridiculous that nothing has been made official, in that time in my opinion at least. I’ve never talked to any of my ex boyfriends for more than like three months before they asked me to be their girlfriend. I feel like at six months it’s pretty obvious he doesn’t want a relationship with you if he has an asked because that’s a really long time to be talking to somebody day in and day out. You guys know each other‘s daily routine and how you guys are how you interact like if he hasn’t made the jump to make he was girlfriend I wouldn’t keep my hopes high that he was going to do so. But you definitely don’t deserve to just got played until he decides to settle down or whatever so you should just nicely say to him hey listen my feelings for you are very strong and I feel like they’re reciprocated but I’m not into being in a relationship without the label and giving myself to someone who is not putting the respect on my name to be their girlfriend so it’s either or. If he’s not gonna make it was girlfriend somebody else well but you’re almost 30 years old and you shouldn’t have to waste precious years of your life talking to somebody who has no interest in being with you in the long run.
Thanks man, I think I’m just curious to see if there’s anyone else out there that has had this situation and was okay with it. It feels like everyone nowadays drops the relationship immediately as soon as there’s an issue and I don’t want to as I can really see a future with this girl.
Yeah and it seems pretty reasonable to assume that most people are not down for a strenuous hike or game of tackle football while in fancy dress at a wedding. Is grandma going to be breakdance challenge?
I mean, depending on his recovery process he should be doing all the household labor if he's not working or contributing to bills and you are covering everything. The more you write about this guy the more it sounds like he's majorly taking advantage and still trying to convince you that somehow HE'S the one being taken advantage of.
He's a grown man and if he didn't want to stay he didn't have to. I assume you took care of him post-surgery as well.
“I'm being serious. This is not a joke. I really, really hate those noises you make. Are you willing to stop doing this pointless thing that really bothers me?”
If he doesn't stop (which could mean he refuses to stop, or he says he'll stop and then he doesn't), he's showing you that it's more important to him to be an annoying idiot than to respect your feelings and take you seriously. Is that who you want to build a life with?
My husband (soon to be ex) had been unemployed or underemployed for almost our whole marriage. I put up with it for a long time, but the final straw was when we were running out of money at the end of the month. He told me it was eating out, but he was spending $1k/mo on cam girls.
For a long time, I didn't want to leave because I felt like you, that he would be homeless. I finally had to get to the point that I couldn't care about that– he's an adult. He can take care of himself. If his choices make him homeless, that's his problem.
It's hard. He's still making stupid choices, according to my older son who still communicates with him, but he's an adult. That's not my problem anymore.
“Only a kiss” == trickle truth. More will come out later.
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You leave her alone. You’re a horrible partner and just- Wtaf? Why would you think it’s okay to talk about how hard her friend is and “how she would be in bed” while in a relationship? You lost her and that’s on you. What should you do? Leave her the hell alone. Don’t harass her, don’t message her, call her, show up at her house/place where she works. Leave her tf alone.
Is the common pattern that he fails to do what he should, you get upset about that, and then he says you're at fault for “nagging” instead of him being at fault for not doing what he should?
What are your big arguments about?
I feel like we're missing a lot of context here, but the bottom line is this: you need to communicate clearly with him. The only clear thing right now is that you both have different views of this relationship. You both need to express what your expectations are and determine if you want to continue this relationship
Seriously love this is the best advice. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to make these people see reason and support you. Work on your health both physical and mental. Focus on getting strong, make small changes. Use your time for YOU. Your kids will always see you as their mom, keep in regular touch with them and have important heart-to-hearts. Let new wife and old husband deal with their day-to-day.
Focus on your friendships. Make a list of the people you truly like and those who support you and make time for them one on one. Open up and ask for their time too.
Learn a new activity/ language/ anything you are interested in baking, cooking it doesn’t matter, and preferably do it in a community or group class.
And if you can, plan a small trip for yourself- close by or far away doesn’t matter, whatever you can afford. It’ll give you something to look forward to and some change in perspective.
I know these are a lot of instructions but small steps, you can do it 🙂
Finally, and I can’t stress this enough, do not keep your family too clued in to your life. Sometimes our misery is just fodder for peoples gossip. Learn to identify the people who wish you the best and won’t run their mouths, and keep these people close. Forget about the rest.
Hope u get through this trying time and come out so much stronger, happier and at peace :))
She is saying SHE NEEDS MORE CUDDLES !
Yes, you're a dumbarse.
Either get together properly with K, or let him go properly. Meanwhile, tell X to get checked for bipolarity.
She really thinks it’s okay to use your BABY to deal with her dysphoria? That’s so messed up and that she has you questioning yourself makes me fear for your and your baby’s safety.
This is fucked up. This isn’t about you and this isn’t about your wife. This is about the experience of a baby trying to nurse and not getting any milk. That’s not OK. That is hugely not OK. And it is disturbing that your wife is prioritizing her emotional needs over the survival needs of an infant.
You and your wife have different bodies that are capable of doing different things. Whatever feelings and emotions and distress are generated by that? Need to be fixed by the adults in this situation and not by the infant.
No. There is discomfort before the actual point of pain. It's actually a weird question…like, I'd prefer a bratwurst size to a pencil, but not a baseball bat? I'm thinking more of a Goldilocks – not too big, not too small, just right.
So what happens if you do and it doesn’t work out? Because 4 months is too soon, and taking care of a child is extremely tough. Moving in for financial reasons may make sense in some circumstances, but since you two barely know each other, you will be trapped if it doesn’t work out.
Wait longer, give it at least a year. If he truly is a good partner and not using you then he can wait.
You're stating things as though your “very emotional and needy” character flaws aren't something you can work on and improve. Relationships usually go better if the parties involved have similar levels of emotional need. However, if you're going to persist on trying to make this square peg fit into this round hole you're going to have to whittle it down a bit. Find other outlets for your emotional energy so you're not so dependent on him. Think before you speak because not every thought in your head or feeling in your heart needs to be verbalized. If you want the relationship to work you're going to have to work at it, and that always means compromise.
You guys have been talking for a long enough period of time that you’re either going to have a relationship or not and it’s kind of ridiculous that nothing has been made official, in that time in my opinion at least. I’ve never talked to any of my ex boyfriends for more than like three months before they asked me to be their girlfriend. I feel like at six months it’s pretty obvious he doesn’t want a relationship with you if he has an asked because that’s a really long time to be talking to somebody day in and day out. You guys know each other‘s daily routine and how you guys are how you interact like if he hasn’t made the jump to make he was girlfriend I wouldn’t keep my hopes high that he was going to do so. But you definitely don’t deserve to just got played until he decides to settle down or whatever so you should just nicely say to him hey listen my feelings for you are very strong and I feel like they’re reciprocated but I’m not into being in a relationship without the label and giving myself to someone who is not putting the respect on my name to be their girlfriend so it’s either or. If he’s not gonna make it was girlfriend somebody else well but you’re almost 30 years old and you shouldn’t have to waste precious years of your life talking to somebody who has no interest in being with you in the long run.
Please can someone advise!
I’m very much in my own head about it thinking the worst
Thanks man, I think I’m just curious to see if there’s anyone else out there that has had this situation and was okay with it. It feels like everyone nowadays drops the relationship immediately as soon as there’s an issue and I don’t want to as I can really see a future with this girl.
Yeah and it seems pretty reasonable to assume that most people are not down for a strenuous hike or game of tackle football while in fancy dress at a wedding. Is grandma going to be breakdance challenge?
I mean, depending on his recovery process he should be doing all the household labor if he's not working or contributing to bills and you are covering everything. The more you write about this guy the more it sounds like he's majorly taking advantage and still trying to convince you that somehow HE'S the one being taken advantage of.
He's a grown man and if he didn't want to stay he didn't have to. I assume you took care of him post-surgery as well.
He's done. He's being enough of a jerk for you to leave so you can be the bad guy.