Honestly, yeah, I wouldn’t be as attracted to someone if I found out they hadn’t had any post-secondary education, assuming that they still have no plans to go. It’s a different situation if they want to attend sometime soon in the future.
It’s a study of 80,000 children in a stable educated country. Biology hasn’t changed between now and 1932.
Your first article claiming to debunk the study says they didn’t find male variability in other species and specifically states “no humans were studied” lol did you even read it?
Your second source is another article about the pay gap with some IQ talk sprinkled in. I’m actually not sure what you are trying to prove with it. Maybe that there are social factors at play? Can’t argue that but that’s also very hot to measure
You’d have a better time showing me a study not an article of a comparable population size being tested for IQ. You can try clicking the references in your articles and reading through the referenced studies yourself
Define ‘powered through?’ Some people are saying she forced you to have a child, but I’m guessing even though you’re young you knew her age and if you were going to have two kids she had to start sooner rather than later. That said it sounds like you two at the very least need some couples therapy. I get that it was a trauma for her, especially after caring for the baby all day and then just wanting a break and finding this out. I also feel like she’s probably holding this over your head to martyr herself in a way as a SAHM. Have you taken your child out and about alone since? Was everything fine? Do you now realize you can’t take baby outside after working all day?
So, therapy, you’re working your ass off, she may also be if she’s alone with a toddler that much and you said first? Has there been a second child? The age dynamic here is also a big issue since you were barely an adult when you got together. You need a neutral third party to walk you through what’s going on.
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Yeah, it won't be a pleasant task but I think you need to tell her, she has the right to know what kind of creep she's living with. Unless of course they have some sort of agreement, but if they did he probably would have mentioned it as an excuse.
If you decide to tell her, make sure you provide ample proof, that he cannot deny and weasel out of.
Idk, I'm not American and don't know much about the culture.
It's a good simple app to send quick snapshots to your friends and fam and I haven't seen a better alternative. I use it a lot with my partner (who's 29) to share small moments throughout the day.
I don't think she lied. I think age has crept up and she changed her mind. I wanted a 3rd child for years. My hubby said no. Thank goodness he did because once I hit 36-37 and my oldest was able to stay home alone and babysit the youngest, I loved going out as a couple once in awhile and having a taste of a bit of freedom. I couldn't imagine starting over again. I bet she's in the same position. Especially, if she sees other friends or relatives with young ones. It's a reality check and can change your perspective.
She wants to break up, and thinks you're more likely to give in if she offers the (false) promise of getting back together later, and of uninterrupted intimacy between you. There's the added benefit to her of you waiting on hold like a fool, while she lives a single life
The more I read, the bigger asshole you became. Just the things you’ve written about your wife in here…. Abhorrent. I certainly hope she finds out before she wastes one more minute on you.
“I don’t understand what you thought was serious about our relationship. We see each other once a week, and every time I’ve needed support, I haven’t gotten it from you. If this is what you think a serious relationship looks like, I can’t imagine what having kids with you would be like. Would you come visit me and the children twice a week instead of once? I have trouble envisioning you as a contributing partner and an involved father. If you want to do those things with me, I might be interested, but why don’t you show me for a few months what it would be like to have your full attention?”
Honestly, yeah, I wouldn’t be as attracted to someone if I found out they hadn’t had any post-secondary education, assuming that they still have no plans to go. It’s a different situation if they want to attend sometime soon in the future.
Oof. Hun you might actually be a bad person! Oh no!!!!
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It’s a study of 80,000 children in a stable educated country. Biology hasn’t changed between now and 1932.
Your first article claiming to debunk the study says they didn’t find male variability in other species and specifically states “no humans were studied” lol did you even read it?
Your second source is another article about the pay gap with some IQ talk sprinkled in. I’m actually not sure what you are trying to prove with it. Maybe that there are social factors at play? Can’t argue that but that’s also very hot to measure
You’d have a better time showing me a study not an article of a comparable population size being tested for IQ. You can try clicking the references in your articles and reading through the referenced studies yourself
Define ‘powered through?’ Some people are saying she forced you to have a child, but I’m guessing even though you’re young you knew her age and if you were going to have two kids she had to start sooner rather than later. That said it sounds like you two at the very least need some couples therapy. I get that it was a trauma for her, especially after caring for the baby all day and then just wanting a break and finding this out. I also feel like she’s probably holding this over your head to martyr herself in a way as a SAHM. Have you taken your child out and about alone since? Was everything fine? Do you now realize you can’t take baby outside after working all day?
So, therapy, you’re working your ass off, she may also be if she’s alone with a toddler that much and you said first? Has there been a second child? The age dynamic here is also a big issue since you were barely an adult when you got together. You need a neutral third party to walk you through what’s going on.
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Have the game night, don’t invite her. If people ask tell them, she is the one crossing boundaries and making people uncomfortable.
Yeah, it won't be a pleasant task but I think you need to tell her, she has the right to know what kind of creep she's living with. Unless of course they have some sort of agreement, but if they did he probably would have mentioned it as an excuse.
If you decide to tell her, make sure you provide ample proof, that he cannot deny and weasel out of.
Good luck!
Idk, I'm not American and don't know much about the culture.
It's a good simple app to send quick snapshots to your friends and fam and I haven't seen a better alternative. I use it a lot with my partner (who's 29) to share small moments throughout the day.
That's quite a fancy way of saying “Hunny I want to fuck other people.”
I would need more info about why the separation. Did you kick him out? Did he move out…what is the underlying dynamic?
Was their cheating by you or by him?
I don't think she lied. I think age has crept up and she changed her mind. I wanted a 3rd child for years. My hubby said no. Thank goodness he did because once I hit 36-37 and my oldest was able to stay home alone and babysit the youngest, I loved going out as a couple once in awhile and having a taste of a bit of freedom. I couldn't imagine starting over again. I bet she's in the same position. Especially, if she sees other friends or relatives with young ones. It's a reality check and can change your perspective.
She wants to break up, and thinks you're more likely to give in if she offers the (false) promise of getting back together later, and of uninterrupted intimacy between you. There's the added benefit to her of you waiting on hold like a fool, while she lives a single life
The more I read, the bigger asshole you became. Just the things you’ve written about your wife in here…. Abhorrent. I certainly hope she finds out before she wastes one more minute on you.
And yet I told I dont want just broke up comments.
I never suggested that you break up.
He is no teenager, we are both consenting adults.
He was when you started dating.
You have no right to be accusing me of pedophilia.
I never accused you of such things. Maybe you have a guilty conscience?
“I don’t understand what you thought was serious about our relationship. We see each other once a week, and every time I’ve needed support, I haven’t gotten it from you. If this is what you think a serious relationship looks like, I can’t imagine what having kids with you would be like. Would you come visit me and the children twice a week instead of once? I have trouble envisioning you as a contributing partner and an involved father. If you want to do those things with me, I might be interested, but why don’t you show me for a few months what it would be like to have your full attention?”