The trouble with OP is she’s trying to supress insecurity, but can’t. Insecurity stems from lack of trust. If OP truly trusted her partner, she wouldn’t wonder about whether she should create a boundary of try to prevent an onstensibly harmless lunch.
If OP’s partner is OK with OP doing the same, then they’re probably not value-aligned and thus not fit for eachother. It’s as simple as “I trust you to not cheat on me” full stop. If you align on this fundamental level of trust, everything else becomes petty, energy draining drama — not “setting boundaries”
Bad advice: Start waking her up every couple of hours at night like a newborn. Then throw milk on her shirt shoulder right as she is about to go out. Every. Single. Time. Throw toys everywhere around the house so she can’t walk without stepping on a hot wheel and turning into a cartoon character on a banana peel. Tally up the cost of formula (inflation is a bitch) along with all the other baby products. Also remind her that y’all would be pushing 60 when the imaginary baby was about to graduate high school.
I think if y’all were in the thick of parenting, like with two other children who were like 10 and 5 it wouldn’t be a crazy request for another child. But y’all are just in a different stage of life. A child should only come into the world if both parents are enthusiastically wanting them. Don’t have a blackmail baby.
It's not okay for OP to use cruel W word because it can spiral her down into suicidality. However, if OP does not use W word and stays kind, how SHE interprets it is not his responsibility.
The greatest predictor of future behavior is precious behavior. What’s worse, is that he also tried to gaslight you instead of coming clean and being honest. So, you have someone who was looking to cheat and then said it was a lie, though on further inspection, it wasn’t.
You can choose to stay in this relationship. But the above will continue to happen repeatedly because he can’t take – or won’t – responsibility. Good luck.
Are you so desperate that you have to convince her to stay with you? Is your self esteem so low that you have to continuously convince someone who is ONLY with you out of pity?
No nothing like that. Nothing medical keeps me from having sex, it’s just generally not that interesting to me. I want to get more interested for her sake though
There's nothing wrong with it. Mother comes first. You've only been with him for just a year and a half lol.
How so? Rape allegations are very serious
The trouble with OP is she’s trying to supress insecurity, but can’t. Insecurity stems from lack of trust. If OP truly trusted her partner, she wouldn’t wonder about whether she should create a boundary of try to prevent an onstensibly harmless lunch.
If OP’s partner is OK with OP doing the same, then they’re probably not value-aligned and thus not fit for eachother. It’s as simple as “I trust you to not cheat on me” full stop. If you align on this fundamental level of trust, everything else becomes petty, energy draining drama — not “setting boundaries”
He’s getting upset because he’s taking it personally
Bad advice: Start waking her up every couple of hours at night like a newborn. Then throw milk on her shirt shoulder right as she is about to go out. Every. Single. Time. Throw toys everywhere around the house so she can’t walk without stepping on a hot wheel and turning into a cartoon character on a banana peel. Tally up the cost of formula (inflation is a bitch) along with all the other baby products. Also remind her that y’all would be pushing 60 when the imaginary baby was about to graduate high school.
I think if y’all were in the thick of parenting, like with two other children who were like 10 and 5 it wouldn’t be a crazy request for another child. But y’all are just in a different stage of life. A child should only come into the world if both parents are enthusiastically wanting them. Don’t have a blackmail baby.
It's not okay for OP to use cruel W word because it can spiral her down into suicidality. However, if OP does not use W word and stays kind, how SHE interprets it is not his responsibility.
The greatest predictor of future behavior is precious behavior. What’s worse, is that he also tried to gaslight you instead of coming clean and being honest. So, you have someone who was looking to cheat and then said it was a lie, though on further inspection, it wasn’t.
You can choose to stay in this relationship. But the above will continue to happen repeatedly because he can’t take – or won’t – responsibility. Good luck.
Out of all the women he thinks are attractive, he has chosen to be with you. It's a bit much to expect him to think the others are unattractive.
Most pharmacies will autofill prescriptions and deliver them to your door. Would that not help?
Wife deserves to know the type of man she married and even closure if he is gaslighting, lying, manipulating her to keep his secret hidden.
Bump?
Yeah man i think i needed to hear this
My question is why?
Are you so desperate that you have to convince her to stay with you? Is your self esteem so low that you have to continuously convince someone who is ONLY with you out of pity?
No nothing like that. Nothing medical keeps me from having sex, it’s just generally not that interesting to me. I want to get more interested for her sake though
I truly hope your husband realizes how much he means to you and gets the help he needs.