The fact she’d speak to you that way for confronting her about it, is a red flag. She wants to sell your short.
Why should you have to put up with a lack of sex because she “had her fill” before? are you not the one genuinely interested in a relationship with her? Were her other partners?
It’s totally ok imo. You like who you like. My bf is 13 years older than me. We got together when I was ~22 + have now been together for ~10 years. My parents were/are totally fine with this. Same goes for the rest of my family. No one has said anything about the age difference or even anything negative about our relationship in general. If you find someone that you like I see no reason not to go for it. Also, the older you get the less the gap matters. I think there’s a chart or something somewhere that explains it better than I can. I’ll look for it.
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No biggie. You were broken up. Next time you want to lay some pipe in a rando or ex just say your feelings have faded, then the next day ask her out again. Easy. It's not cheating if you're broken up.
I think you need to learn more about alcoholism. You don’t have to drink every day to be an alcoholic. His drinking is unmanageable & negatively impacting his life & the people in it. He hurt you. He’s angry & out of control. It appears he drives drunk. These are all signs of alcoholism.
That's what happened to me. I (very briefly) dated a 26 year old when I was 17 and thought I was soooo mature. Thankfully realised he was not a good guy after a month or so and broke it off. When I turned 26 and would see 17 year olds I thought they were babies and realised again how messed up he was.
What's weird hes around me most of the time so I'm thinking some kind of pill maybe. My friend found some crushed up blue pill in a dope baggy that he set down on the pool table he was freaking out about it cause he couldn't find it I didn't know until my friend told me later on. I don't know what to think or do. It sucks knowing he's on something but wants to deny it when confronted. He will take it to his grave
There are these things called boundaries and consequences. She does something spiteful like that then there should be some sort of reaction from YOU to discourage her from doing it again.
Also, depending on what was said/done, the partner may need to be able to talk about what happened to heal. Often the offending partner just quickly apologizes or says they already apologized and tells the hurt spouse to move on. That’s not helping. They can’t heal while being told to let go and move on by the person who hurt them. Glossing over it and refusing to empathize doesn’t allow for healing.
You have no family there but he does, which leads me to doubt his sincerity on the original promise. Was he just trying to get you to move with no true intention of going back?
Fuck bro it’s just so crazy because now that would NEVER happen whenever I bring that stuff up she feels so bad and has like cried and we’ve had convos about how I feel weird bc now I’m much more secure in my own self and if I could go back I would have just broken up with her but now it’s so good and the longer I’m committing to the relationship the longer I’m saying I’m COMMITTING to the RELATIONSHIP when she’s my first serious girlfriend and she pulled all that at the beginning so like am I gonna be 23-24 years old in my career staying committed in my 20s knowing I stayed solid and all this happened
She needs to face the reality that you are both giants.
Pay attention to what she does not what she says.
The fact she’d speak to you that way for confronting her about it, is a red flag. She wants to sell your short.
Why should you have to put up with a lack of sex because she “had her fill” before? are you not the one genuinely interested in a relationship with her? Were her other partners?
She’s not even willing to try and make it better.
It’s totally ok imo. You like who you like. My bf is 13 years older than me. We got together when I was ~22 + have now been together for ~10 years. My parents were/are totally fine with this. Same goes for the rest of my family. No one has said anything about the age difference or even anything negative about our relationship in general. If you find someone that you like I see no reason not to go for it. Also, the older you get the less the gap matters. I think there’s a chart or something somewhere that explains it better than I can. I’ll look for it.
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No biggie. You were broken up. Next time you want to lay some pipe in a rando or ex just say your feelings have faded, then the next day ask her out again. Easy. It's not cheating if you're broken up.
Trust us all. This will happen again.
I think you need to learn more about alcoholism. You don’t have to drink every day to be an alcoholic. His drinking is unmanageable & negatively impacting his life & the people in it. He hurt you. He’s angry & out of control. It appears he drives drunk. These are all signs of alcoholism.
That's what happened to me. I (very briefly) dated a 26 year old when I was 17 and thought I was soooo mature. Thankfully realised he was not a good guy after a month or so and broke it off. When I turned 26 and would see 17 year olds I thought they were babies and realised again how messed up he was.
What's weird hes around me most of the time so I'm thinking some kind of pill maybe. My friend found some crushed up blue pill in a dope baggy that he set down on the pool table he was freaking out about it cause he couldn't find it I didn't know until my friend told me later on. I don't know what to think or do. It sucks knowing he's on something but wants to deny it when confronted. He will take it to his grave
There are these things called boundaries and consequences. She does something spiteful like that then there should be some sort of reaction from YOU to discourage her from doing it again.
Also, depending on what was said/done, the partner may need to be able to talk about what happened to heal. Often the offending partner just quickly apologizes or says they already apologized and tells the hurt spouse to move on. That’s not helping. They can’t heal while being told to let go and move on by the person who hurt them. Glossing over it and refusing to empathize doesn’t allow for healing.
Tale as old as time
yeah..but all this just sounds like ego boosting to me…I want things to be right. And i dont know how to do it.
I feel it to be a lack of communication because that’s but what I made it to seem like
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I guess you're right. I liked everything about her though. Perhaps that's why it hurts as well.
You have no family there but he does, which leads me to doubt his sincerity on the original promise. Was he just trying to get you to move with no true intention of going back?
I’m so glad I realized how big of a mistake it was too!! So not worth the trauma.
Fuck bro it’s just so crazy because now that would NEVER happen whenever I bring that stuff up she feels so bad and has like cried and we’ve had convos about how I feel weird bc now I’m much more secure in my own self and if I could go back I would have just broken up with her but now it’s so good and the longer I’m committing to the relationship the longer I’m saying I’m COMMITTING to the RELATIONSHIP when she’s my first serious girlfriend and she pulled all that at the beginning so like am I gonna be 23-24 years old in my career staying committed in my 20s knowing I stayed solid and all this happened