I feel like a lot of girls in today’s generation takes stuff like this (being told to take a suggestive picture down) as the person almost trying to control her, and make her feel bad for posting it. There’s a very common term for it, but my mind is blanking right now ?
I don't think she's trying to control it. I think she doesn't want a strange woman near her pregnancy or newborn. Which is fair. At best you would be with a new person 6 or 7 months before the baby is born. She shouldn't be involved in the baby's life. You need to bond and develop a relationship with your baby yourself. Not a new GF bonding with baby. Once the baby is older, vaccinated, etc, things are different.
She literally said she knows you may not want to wait until she's physically and emotionally up for sorting your relationship. That's not controlling. She's trying to be open here. IMHO.
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She did say she would be more open to it in the future when I’m older and our future kids are older. She says right now I’m so young and we have so much ahead of us she couldn’t stand if something happened
And this “best friend” needs to be excised from your life. Because you know what best friends do when their bestie has told them, “hey, I'm uncomfortable with that”? They say, “I'm sorry for causing you distress. I won't do that again.”
He’s an alcoholic, or close to it. Literally the peeing elephant in the room.
If I had been that drunk, I think I’d be doing something about it.
I feel like a lot of girls in today’s generation takes stuff like this (being told to take a suggestive picture down) as the person almost trying to control her, and make her feel bad for posting it. There’s a very common term for it, but my mind is blanking right now ?
5 years and still boyfriend? Yes, waste of time.
I don't think she's trying to control it. I think she doesn't want a strange woman near her pregnancy or newborn. Which is fair. At best you would be with a new person 6 or 7 months before the baby is born. She shouldn't be involved in the baby's life. You need to bond and develop a relationship with your baby yourself. Not a new GF bonding with baby. Once the baby is older, vaccinated, etc, things are different.
She literally said she knows you may not want to wait until she's physically and emotionally up for sorting your relationship. That's not controlling. She's trying to be open here. IMHO.
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Don't go behind your boyfriends back to message this girl about their relationship, talk to him instead.
I say my bosses and my best friends name accidentally all the time, doesn't mean I'm in a relationship with them.
She did say she would be more open to it in the future when I’m older and our future kids are older. She says right now I’m so young and we have so much ahead of us she couldn’t stand if something happened
Not sure. I didn’t even know sex counselling was a thing
So, she’s not financially responsible and lives outside her means. Not a great sign.
Really appreciate your answer.
I feel like you’re hearing what I’m saying and I’m grateful. I’m not trying to demonise OP or slap a halo on her friend either.
Just want to prompt a different conversation besides “dump the idiot”.
Few things are that simple.
That's horrible!
No, you are not a snowflake.
And this “best friend” needs to be excised from your life. Because you know what best friends do when their bestie has told them, “hey, I'm uncomfortable with that”? They say, “I'm sorry for causing you distress. I won't do that again.”
Once is trivial. When it happens repeatedly over a long period of time it means something. I don’t know what, but it’s not insignificant.