It’s not about the likes, they just want you to show them off a bit and be proud of your relationship.
I think you could make your partner very happy by just spending a few minutes every once in a while to make them feel a little more loved, why are you fighting against it so nude? Speak to people in the language of love your partner understands, never try to force them to speak YOUR language when you are expressing love for THEM. And it should be vice versa ❤️ spend a few minutes and make them happy
I think you are giving yourself bad advice. If you want to be friends then you would be doing no contact. But you can't Because you have feelings for him. You already have bias.
OK so you don't want to cut him off. Then you need to stop using him as an outlet for support. Find a therapist or channel your need for support into other things like a hobby or some game. Find other friends. Really just try to occupy your time. If that stuff doesn't work then at least you'd be able to try other stuff.
Oh I realized that that may have sounded rude. I'm sorry! Of course I didn't laugh about you getting a divorce, but I thought the way you've worded all this was really entertaining.
I'm gonna very gently call bullshit on this. If he was in simple therapy and was handcuffed and sent to the psych ward, it was because he was endangering others or himself (saying that realizing that we live in an imperfect mental health environment). I understand that will be traumatizing, and I'm also saying that it doesn't mean you have to be captive in a maladaptive relationship/
In speaking with my bf, it sounds like the issues are the following.:
He feels it is too early to regularly spend the night and that would come with time. He has an electric vehicle and charging stations are too far away. The distance between us is 40 minutes and as he lives with his parents, he doesn't want me to stay over there. He has to make an excuse to his parents each week on why he will be gone for the night. He wants to keep his strict workout routine with his friend on the weekend in the evenings. I know it's early in the relationship, but this reason hurt and made me feel unimportant.
You're a nude buttered mess. The issue isn't just the huge age gap, but you're dealing with a woman who had her kids taken away from her, so chances are , you're just another one on a long list of the poor choices she's made. My advice is , let her decide what she wants .And pray to God that your ex is just yanking your chain
I think you should let him know you are no longer comfortable with this. I mean he's just as likely to be having sex on a week long work trip alone as you are at a gym.
I feel like I’ve personally gone through this and unfortunately I don’t think there’s statistically any good chance of salvaging the marriage. My SO and I went through many years of distance and neglect within our relationship. The dates stopped, the romance stopped, and we barely tolerated each other. For years. It was roommate syndrome for sure. It very recently something just clicked in me and I made myself try again. Try to remember how I saw them in the beginning of our relationship. And although I have no idea how or why, it worked and we are on the mend and improving every day. But I remember how alone I felt for years. And I know that once that sets in for most people, it’s just a matter of time until divorce. You may be a little too late to save your marriage. And it happens all the time. Give her space and let her decide if she can trust you enough to believe this change you’ve shown. Cos that’s why she’s looking for if she’s considering staying still. Proof that you mean it and are committed to being the husband she deserves.
All you can do is support your gf and not get upset with her. Try to not hang out at her parents or go over if your girlfriend is ok with that. Hopefully eventually they will come around.
The EX! Duh.
Controlling people don't like being called controlling
r/sex is probably a better for your post
Why was he giving them money?
No. She clearly doesn’t want to build a life together
It’s not about the likes, they just want you to show them off a bit and be proud of your relationship.
I think you could make your partner very happy by just spending a few minutes every once in a while to make them feel a little more loved, why are you fighting against it so nude? Speak to people in the language of love your partner understands, never try to force them to speak YOUR language when you are expressing love for THEM. And it should be vice versa ❤️ spend a few minutes and make them happy
I think you are giving yourself bad advice. If you want to be friends then you would be doing no contact. But you can't Because you have feelings for him. You already have bias.
OK so you don't want to cut him off. Then you need to stop using him as an outlet for support. Find a therapist or channel your need for support into other things like a hobby or some game. Find other friends. Really just try to occupy your time. If that stuff doesn't work then at least you'd be able to try other stuff.
Holy victim blaming batman. People can be recorded without their consent, it doesn't make them 'dumb' just cause the other person is evil.
Oh wow, thank you. Do you think I may be able to get some or all of the money back?
Oh I realized that that may have sounded rude. I'm sorry! Of course I didn't laugh about you getting a divorce, but I thought the way you've worded all this was really entertaining.
I'm gonna very gently call bullshit on this. If he was in simple therapy and was handcuffed and sent to the psych ward, it was because he was endangering others or himself (saying that realizing that we live in an imperfect mental health environment). I understand that will be traumatizing, and I'm also saying that it doesn't mean you have to be captive in a maladaptive relationship/
Imagine getting this mad just because you're confronted with the truth lmao.
Thank you. This feels right. I’m such an idiot ?
In speaking with my bf, it sounds like the issues are the following.:
He feels it is too early to regularly spend the night and that would come with time. He has an electric vehicle and charging stations are too far away. The distance between us is 40 minutes and as he lives with his parents, he doesn't want me to stay over there. He has to make an excuse to his parents each week on why he will be gone for the night. He wants to keep his strict workout routine with his friend on the weekend in the evenings. I know it's early in the relationship, but this reason hurt and made me feel unimportant.
It's a pub in Ireland. Everyone goes to pubs.
A library is the least relaxing environment and they don't tend to open in the evenings in Ireland. And the weather is terrible for going to parks.
It's always twins.
That is a great idea! Thank you
You're a nude buttered mess. The issue isn't just the huge age gap, but you're dealing with a woman who had her kids taken away from her, so chances are , you're just another one on a long list of the poor choices she's made. My advice is , let her decide what she wants .And pray to God that your ex is just yanking your chain
I think you should let him know you are no longer comfortable with this. I mean he's just as likely to be having sex on a week long work trip alone as you are at a gym.
I feel like I’ve personally gone through this and unfortunately I don’t think there’s statistically any good chance of salvaging the marriage. My SO and I went through many years of distance and neglect within our relationship. The dates stopped, the romance stopped, and we barely tolerated each other. For years. It was roommate syndrome for sure. It very recently something just clicked in me and I made myself try again. Try to remember how I saw them in the beginning of our relationship. And although I have no idea how or why, it worked and we are on the mend and improving every day. But I remember how alone I felt for years. And I know that once that sets in for most people, it’s just a matter of time until divorce. You may be a little too late to save your marriage. And it happens all the time. Give her space and let her decide if she can trust you enough to believe this change you’ve shown. Cos that’s why she’s looking for if she’s considering staying still. Proof that you mean it and are committed to being the husband she deserves.
Maybe they are just prodestant Christians reading a book by the founder of the church who knows
You're literally dumb as hell if you keep putting up with the abuse.
I literally could never write this much about the things I dislike about my fiance
Ummm i don’t know that i would believe him . But, it wouldn’t matter to me if he create or donated – it would be over !!
All you can do is support your gf and not get upset with her. Try to not hang out at her parents or go over if your girlfriend is ok with that. Hopefully eventually they will come around.