Check out his comments: the married dude she slept with had an open marriage and she slept with his friend before they knew each other (or at least started dating). Also it's a small remote community.
Is it really that complex to cast yourself into a man’s mind when he’s interacting with a half naked model? Cleavage and ass all hanging out? I don’t think it’s that complex lol. I think it’s fairly predictable. But I appreciate your perspective. It gives me something to seriously consider about my POV.
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This! This will eat at you for years if you don't get this out in the open. We tend to laugh off shit because we're guys and don't want to be seen as overly sensitive to a supposed joke. Sometimes those jokes hurt and need to be called out. This is one of those times. Do it for your sanity.
Everything about him seems to indicate he doesn't, and aggressively pestering him when he might be taking in some news, or waiting for result or doing some tests isn't going to make him open up. Some people, a lot in fact, prefer to process things on their own before speaking up. If you want him to let you come closer, you first need to show he can trust you with that very sensitive boundary of his. If you give him space you may even get news faster because communicating with you about his health will feel less stressful.
Benefit of the doubt: Was there anyone around at the time that might mess with him like this? A practical joker friend?
Considering he told you he was gay on top of this makes me think he likely is. I don’t think straight men randomly say they’re gay on molly. Probably just felt really close to you and safe.
If you ask him and he denies it you still won’t know for sure. Maybe observe him more closely around men. Ever catch him checking out a naked women? Idk what you can do other than getting gay men to weigh in. Maybe set up a gay Tinder account and see if you find him.. don’t know if Grinder still exists.
It is possible but rare. I have two female friends who I’m super tight with and never had any sort of romantic or physical vibe with. We can scratch each other’s neck, give massages and embrace longer than a standard hug. I only have one male friend who is comfortable being that physical. Men usually get really uncomfortable if you’re that affectionate.
This kind of sounds like neurodivergent behavior. I feel bad that people are being so harsh because I completely understand how certain things(flavors, sensations) can cause him to avoid doing normal things like brush his teeth. Not liking mint or cinnamon to the point of it making you gag is not normal. Also, establishing and sticking to a new routine can be naked. I’m sure his gums bleed and might even swell when he brushes his teeth.
Have you considered suggesting: – an extremely gentle, soft bristle toothbrush with no toothpaste to start – a water pick! It’s not as good as brushing, but it’s better than nothing – you can make homemade toothpaste and let him pick the flavor. Does he like vanilla?
None of these are ideal but they are way better than nothing.
Your vaginal health. Holy shit. You must have a GOD TIER vaginal biome. Your healthy bacteria probably hit the gym twice a day, eat all their greens, and have biceps like Disney’s Hercules. I use a towel washed in the wrong laundry detergent or wear underwear made from the wrong cotton blend and I’ll have a yeast infection. You’re telling me you’re not seeing any negative implications to your reproductive health? No UTIs, yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, nothing? Honestly I’m fucking jealous.
You need to pay attention and watch for that. Also, you should sit down and have a talk with him about the way his poor hygiene can negatively impact your health. Let him know that this discourages you in engaging in intimacy and that there are time where you were in a mood, but chose not to engage in intimacy with him out of a concern for your health.
If you both want to be intimate more often, tell him what he needs to start doing regularly in order for you to feel comfortable in engaging with him more often.
The only weddings I’ve seen with invites (or, more often, save the dates) sent that early as those that will require travel, like destination weddings or those of people whose family all online far away, especially in other countries.
Husband isn't selfish even if OP is gonna have to work and take care of the kid alone for a bit. He'll reciprocate at a later time. That's the definition of a partnership.
I think you should break it off so she can find someone who isn’t a jealous, controlling jerk who gets angry that she doesn’t respond in a way you have decided is perfect.
Also, whether someone is engaged or married isn’t the issue. The issue is her loyalty. You have completely misunderstood the situation because you would rather have her say that she belongs to you than have her exercise her own agency and reject him like she did.
Look at your life RIGHT NOW. Look at how your being treated, look at what you do vs. what he does. Your planning one of the biggest things in your life without help. THIS IS WHAT YOUR FUTURE LOOKS LIKE.
You need physical and emotional bonding and your getting nothing. Think really very hot if this is the life you want to online.
The odds of seeing that money again are really low. He’s a mooch. An honorable person borrows money and pays it back ASAP. Sometimes with interest! He’s pushing your boundaries to see how much he can squeeze out of you before you are ruined financially and he fucks off to the next woman/piggy bank.
Tell him flat out he must pay the money in 5/10/15 days. If he respects and loved you, he will move heaven and earth to get those funds to you so you can pay your bills. If he doesn’t, well, you’ve learned an expensive lesson.
Check out his comments: the married dude she slept with had an open marriage and she slept with his friend before they knew each other (or at least started dating). Also it's a small remote community.
Yup, he says so in one of the comments
Is it really that complex to cast yourself into a man’s mind when he’s interacting with a half naked model? Cleavage and ass all hanging out? I don’t think it’s that complex lol. I think it’s fairly predictable. But I appreciate your perspective. It gives me something to seriously consider about my POV.
WOW I can't believe this is happening to kids.
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Wooow you freaked out because he votes republican even though he has all the qualities you like? Pathetic, hope he doesn’t marry you.
The thing is that everyone has the right to their own picture.
This is not exactly true, neither in German nor in US jurisdiction.
Tell him when he’s home HE can host his own family and cook for them too. It’s bullshit he expects you to host his family when he’s not even around.
This! This will eat at you for years if you don't get this out in the open. We tend to laugh off shit because we're guys and don't want to be seen as overly sensitive to a supposed joke. Sometimes those jokes hurt and need to be called out. This is one of those times. Do it for your sanity.
That’s awful! And also not gross at all. Every mammal has a foreskin. Hand jobs and masturbation are significantly more difficult without one.
It’s crazy to me that American’s so commonly circumcise babies for non-religious/medical reasons.
Everything about him seems to indicate he doesn't, and aggressively pestering him when he might be taking in some news, or waiting for result or doing some tests isn't going to make him open up. Some people, a lot in fact, prefer to process things on their own before speaking up. If you want him to let you come closer, you first need to show he can trust you with that very sensitive boundary of his. If you give him space you may even get news faster because communicating with you about his health will feel less stressful.
I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I just don't like that there's still there and affecting me.
Benefit of the doubt: Was there anyone around at the time that might mess with him like this? A practical joker friend?
Considering he told you he was gay on top of this makes me think he likely is. I don’t think straight men randomly say they’re gay on molly. Probably just felt really close to you and safe.
If you ask him and he denies it you still won’t know for sure. Maybe observe him more closely around men. Ever catch him checking out a naked women? Idk what you can do other than getting gay men to weigh in. Maybe set up a gay Tinder account and see if you find him.. don’t know if Grinder still exists.
It is possible but rare. I have two female friends who I’m super tight with and never had any sort of romantic or physical vibe with. We can scratch each other’s neck, give massages and embrace longer than a standard hug. I only have one male friend who is comfortable being that physical. Men usually get really uncomfortable if you’re that affectionate.
I’m married but my wife was always ok with it.
So much for self respect. Good for you. As a follow up, I’d try to find this LDR gf and tell her the truth
I can’t move on.
Okay, Two things:
You all sound like a teenagers.
Android is way better than iPhone.
This kind of sounds like neurodivergent behavior. I feel bad that people are being so harsh because I completely understand how certain things(flavors, sensations) can cause him to avoid doing normal things like brush his teeth. Not liking mint or cinnamon to the point of it making you gag is not normal. Also, establishing and sticking to a new routine can be naked. I’m sure his gums bleed and might even swell when he brushes his teeth.
Have you considered suggesting: – an extremely gentle, soft bristle toothbrush with no toothpaste to start – a water pick! It’s not as good as brushing, but it’s better than nothing – you can make homemade toothpaste and let him pick the flavor. Does he like vanilla?
None of these are ideal but they are way better than nothing.
Your vaginal health. Holy shit. You must have a GOD TIER vaginal biome. Your healthy bacteria probably hit the gym twice a day, eat all their greens, and have biceps like Disney’s Hercules. I use a towel washed in the wrong laundry detergent or wear underwear made from the wrong cotton blend and I’ll have a yeast infection. You’re telling me you’re not seeing any negative implications to your reproductive health? No UTIs, yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, nothing? Honestly I’m fucking jealous.
You need to pay attention and watch for that. Also, you should sit down and have a talk with him about the way his poor hygiene can negatively impact your health. Let him know that this discourages you in engaging in intimacy and that there are time where you were in a mood, but chose not to engage in intimacy with him out of a concern for your health.
If you both want to be intimate more often, tell him what he needs to start doing regularly in order for you to feel comfortable in engaging with him more often.
The only weddings I’ve seen with invites (or, more often, save the dates) sent that early as those that will require travel, like destination weddings or those of people whose family all online far away, especially in other countries.
It's not rude at all
This is a serious and sensitive issue that concerns adults considering raising adopted children.
I'm concerned you're a teenager derailing a conversation that does not apply to you
Husband isn't selfish even if OP is gonna have to work and take care of the kid alone for a bit. He'll reciprocate at a later time. That's the definition of a partnership.
I think you should break it off so she can find someone who isn’t a jealous, controlling jerk who gets angry that she doesn’t respond in a way you have decided is perfect.
Also, whether someone is engaged or married isn’t the issue. The issue is her loyalty. You have completely misunderstood the situation because you would rather have her say that she belongs to you than have her exercise her own agency and reject him like she did.
OP,
Look at your life RIGHT NOW. Look at how your being treated, look at what you do vs. what he does. Your planning one of the biggest things in your life without help. THIS IS WHAT YOUR FUTURE LOOKS LIKE.
You need physical and emotional bonding and your getting nothing. Think really very hot if this is the life you want to online.
Girl bye…
I could flick someone and leave a bruise… It's not aggressive if theres no anger towards that person or intent to cause harm.
The odds of seeing that money again are really low. He’s a mooch. An honorable person borrows money and pays it back ASAP. Sometimes with interest! He’s pushing your boundaries to see how much he can squeeze out of you before you are ruined financially and he fucks off to the next woman/piggy bank.
Tell him flat out he must pay the money in 5/10/15 days. If he respects and loved you, he will move heaven and earth to get those funds to you so you can pay your bills. If he doesn’t, well, you’ve learned an expensive lesson.
stay with her for a few days when she has the abortion and cook and clean for her, run her baths, bring her naked water bottles etc etc?
Tell him to not come. I’ve been to so many kids parties and never saw alcohol served nor would I expect there to be any
Stop fucking this guy is more like it!
Oh man…imagine yourself or your mom in his wife's position. Have you no empathy? 🙁