His laser-focus goal seems to be simply being around me, being with me. I don't think that's the case with me. I don't know if that makes me a bad girlfriend.
I think about breaking up with him a lot, but sometimes I wonder if it's just self-sabotage and anxiety trying to crush a good thing.
Can you not online with your dad? Did you get your phone back? Do you have friends you can couch surf with until you can afford an apartment or find a roommate situation?
I’m so sorry for you. This is a really complicated situation to be in. Sit down and make a plan as calm and rational as you can. He wants to talk before you figured out everything? Tough luck, now he is on your timeline.
If you need to then tell him you haven’t made up your mind yet to keep a roof over your head a bit longer. Figure out if you can save money somehow and how long it would take you until you can afford your own place. Maybe ask him to cover this month’s rent? It’s only fair as his actions got you into this. Can your family maybe borrow you some money. Be cold and calculating and plan your exit, you got this!
You should be 100% committed to doing what's right for you both… Why be committed to preserving the marriage if the marriage isn't working? I'm not saying you have to give up here, just don't hang all your hopes on it working out because currently, it looks like your wife doesn't care too much about that – and it takes two to go the distance – you can't just will it into happening by yourself.
Your wife is emotionally cheating on you. That's a big thing to deal with and you should accept not being married in the future may be the healthier alternative.
Also, regarding your wife's stringent standards for your workplace friendships and paranoia over cheating, this is called projection. Your wife was so suspicious of your relationships with women because she either A) couldn't imagine having a similar relationship and not cheating and/or B) craves validation and attention – driving her to cheat on you while remaining paranoid that you are doing the same to her.
Brush, in addition to his abusive behaviors and anger issues, does your partner show signs of having a strong abandonment fear? For example, a few months into your relationship, did he start showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other men — or try to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? He would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over him. Moreover, he usually would hate being alone by himself.
Dated a girl who did this too, kind of creepy to be honest. Felt like I was being judged on technique and execution.
His laser-focus goal seems to be simply being around me, being with me. I don't think that's the case with me. I don't know if that makes me a bad girlfriend.
I think about breaking up with him a lot, but sometimes I wonder if it's just self-sabotage and anxiety trying to crush a good thing.
It sounds like you only want to go to counseling together to talk about what YOU want to talk about. Not him.
Yeah idk that was pretty creepy, and it's definitely going to make group hang outs so awkward now.
Can you not online with your dad? Did you get your phone back? Do you have friends you can couch surf with until you can afford an apartment or find a roommate situation?
I’m so sorry for you. This is a really complicated situation to be in. Sit down and make a plan as calm and rational as you can. He wants to talk before you figured out everything? Tough luck, now he is on your timeline.
If you need to then tell him you haven’t made up your mind yet to keep a roof over your head a bit longer. Figure out if you can save money somehow and how long it would take you until you can afford your own place. Maybe ask him to cover this month’s rent? It’s only fair as his actions got you into this. Can your family maybe borrow you some money. Be cold and calculating and plan your exit, you got this!
You went out to eat again after being at a restaurant?
You should be 100% committed to doing what's right for you both… Why be committed to preserving the marriage if the marriage isn't working? I'm not saying you have to give up here, just don't hang all your hopes on it working out because currently, it looks like your wife doesn't care too much about that – and it takes two to go the distance – you can't just will it into happening by yourself.
Your wife is emotionally cheating on you. That's a big thing to deal with and you should accept not being married in the future may be the healthier alternative.
Also, regarding your wife's stringent standards for your workplace friendships and paranoia over cheating, this is called projection. Your wife was so suspicious of your relationships with women because she either A) couldn't imagine having a similar relationship and not cheating and/or B) craves validation and attention – driving her to cheat on you while remaining paranoid that you are doing the same to her.
Brush, in addition to his abusive behaviors and anger issues, does your partner show signs of having a strong abandonment fear? For example, a few months into your relationship, did he start showing strong jealousy over harmless events involving other men — or try to isolate you away from your close friends and family members? He would view your spending time with friends/family as your choosing them over him. Moreover, he usually would hate being alone by himself.
Hon, I'm married.
Guess, how many times my husband has lost his cool, yelled at me and called me names?
Zero.
We're not perfect, but you don't yell and cuss at your SO.
Waving a trash bag with broken glass in front of one's face? Nope, nope, that's a “see ya never”.
Don't confront her, talk to her. Big difference.
She sucks, Idc if she has a disease, I'd say bye
Of course!