Training weekends for reservists mean that their priority first has to be at work, and they usually mean long hours and exhausting catch-up on a lot of necessary training and tasks. Adding in what sound like brutal travel times, I’m not surprised your son would rather just chill out when he’s finished. Notably, the Army does not budget time for family socializing during this training period.
A lot of this conflict could have been solved by just telling your son BEFORE his training that you’d like to cook him a big meal and hang out when he’s finished. He could have planned his schedule around it. I also wouldn’t like getting something sprung on me after training. Either he would have said yes and you could get some time with him, or he would have said no and you could have saved yourself the effort.
I’d recommend apologizing to your son, and letting him know he can still stay with you. I bet if you asked him to have dinner before he loses the phone for the day, he’s accept.
The “I actually do not care at all about my partner's needs in bed” dynamic? Unless you're deep in a degradation-focused BDSM dynamic, that sucks for almost anyone
It is possible that the father was a really good father to him, who helped him through childhood with showing how to put on socks; how to prepare food; how to chop wood; do your homework. OP has 24 years of memories with this person regardless of what he did to his wife.
It is even possible that the father even was the better parent of them two, and the mother was distant. What do we know? However the case, OP loves them both for the love they have given him, and he shouldn't need to be put in the middle of a messed up relationship between his parents.
My parents had a messy divorce. One of them was a toxic person and the other one cheated. Both were terrible partners to each other, but surprisingly okay parents. I saw no reason to choose sides in a mess they created themselves, but continued to have a relationship with them both which Im glad of.
So you don’t see a future with her but don’t want to break up with her because you don’t have time to right now. That’s disgusting stop wasting this poor girl’s time.
It’s extremely common to gain weight when your on birth control. Why does it matter if she gained alittle weight? Do you think you two are going to stay the same weight the rest of your lives?
The difference between someone that drives drunk and doesn’t cause an accident, and someone that drives drunk and kills people, is luck. They both made the same choice to drive drunk, and it’s only by luck that one of them isn’t in prison.
I can’t imagine your friends would have the same reaction if he had killed an innocent person due to his selfish and dangerous actions. Neither situation should be socially acceptable. You did the right thing.
Sounds like an overreaction on your part.
Training weekends for reservists mean that their priority first has to be at work, and they usually mean long hours and exhausting catch-up on a lot of necessary training and tasks. Adding in what sound like brutal travel times, I’m not surprised your son would rather just chill out when he’s finished. Notably, the Army does not budget time for family socializing during this training period.
A lot of this conflict could have been solved by just telling your son BEFORE his training that you’d like to cook him a big meal and hang out when he’s finished. He could have planned his schedule around it. I also wouldn’t like getting something sprung on me after training. Either he would have said yes and you could get some time with him, or he would have said no and you could have saved yourself the effort.
I’d recommend apologizing to your son, and letting him know he can still stay with you. I bet if you asked him to have dinner before he loses the phone for the day, he’s accept.
Sorry dude. You are. Block her. Go find that girl that’s gonna put you first, cause you deserve better than this.
I can’t figure out why you are putting up with this. Your 32. You should really know better by now.
The “I actually do not care at all about my partner's needs in bed” dynamic? Unless you're deep in a degradation-focused BDSM dynamic, that sucks for almost anyone
It is possible that the father was a really good father to him, who helped him through childhood with showing how to put on socks; how to prepare food; how to chop wood; do your homework. OP has 24 years of memories with this person regardless of what he did to his wife.
It is even possible that the father even was the better parent of them two, and the mother was distant. What do we know? However the case, OP loves them both for the love they have given him, and he shouldn't need to be put in the middle of a messed up relationship between his parents.
My parents had a messy divorce. One of them was a toxic person and the other one cheated. Both were terrible partners to each other, but surprisingly okay parents. I saw no reason to choose sides in a mess they created themselves, but continued to have a relationship with them both which Im glad of.
So you don’t see a future with her but don’t want to break up with her because you don’t have time to right now. That’s disgusting stop wasting this poor girl’s time.
It’s extremely common to gain weight when your on birth control. Why does it matter if she gained alittle weight? Do you think you two are going to stay the same weight the rest of your lives?
The difference between someone that drives drunk and doesn’t cause an accident, and someone that drives drunk and kills people, is luck. They both made the same choice to drive drunk, and it’s only by luck that one of them isn’t in prison.
I can’t imagine your friends would have the same reaction if he had killed an innocent person due to his selfish and dangerous actions. Neither situation should be socially acceptable. You did the right thing.
Clock’s running out. Make a decision, whichever, but don’t string her along anymore