I think sending them either an email from an address that you don't use or check would probably do the job of cutting contact.
The email can basically say,
Hello,
I am in good health and happy. It has been 8 years of almost no contact, moving far away, making a good life and succeeding and separating from you was a key part of that success. Some of you have made recent attempts to get my info by harassing my friends and coworkers and this is unacceptable. I no longer consider myself a member of your family. Do not try to contact me again.
I don't she's hiding you from them. I think she's hiding them from you. She may be embarrassed if, as someone said, they are hoarders or alcoholics or are illiterate or any number of things.
Love is not enough for a long-term relationship. You also have to be compatible and have the same general life goals: move/stay put, kids/no kids, travel/cocoon, etc. You two are not compatible. It is a lost cause.
I was going to say that. That or maybe your girlfriend broke up with this guy because he cheated…with the woman she's marrying now. The cheating might still hurt and them getting married makes it worse.
Yeah i completely agree that’s why i told him about what i’m uncomfortable knowing and what i want to know etc. So that he knows not to accidentally hurt me. Yeah that’s also reason to why i don’t want an exclusive relationship, no matter the nature of the situation you can’t possess the other person, you can’t stop them from finding someone else, that’s part of the game. I’d rather be in a situation where i completely accept that possibility and also allow myself to have the option to fall in love w someone else by seeing other people rather than give my all and get nothing in return. I feel like me having multiple “lovers” helps me to not project too much onto one particular lover. It helps me stay balanced in my relationships.
Your response is OK, but I don't see any need to phrase it that way. I would assume, if they were told what I said, that of course the parents will invite the son and not the ex-GF!
The son may be seeing his parents as acting awkwardly, because *he's* feeling awkward, because his girlfriend is being so ridiculous about this.
It's not that the friendship is “so important”, it's that there's absolutely no reason why they can't both be friends with his ex and see her when the son's not around, *and* be completely welcoming to his girlfriend. It's a false dichotomy to present it as a choice.
Exactly. Thank you.
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I think sending them either an email from an address that you don't use or check would probably do the job of cutting contact.
The email can basically say,
Hello,
I am in good health and happy. It has been 8 years of almost no contact, moving far away, making a good life and succeeding and separating from you was a key part of that success. Some of you have made recent attempts to get my info by harassing my friends and coworkers and this is unacceptable. I no longer consider myself a member of your family. Do not try to contact me again.
Goodbye and have a good life,
I don't she's hiding you from them. I think she's hiding them from you. She may be embarrassed if, as someone said, they are hoarders or alcoholics or are illiterate or any number of things.
Love is not enough for a long-term relationship. You also have to be compatible and have the same general life goals: move/stay put, kids/no kids, travel/cocoon, etc. You two are not compatible. It is a lost cause.
Definetely more. Yes I get it
You hook up w your coworker in his office every day now? Man, everyone has a more interesting sex life than me.
I was going to say that. That or maybe your girlfriend broke up with this guy because he cheated…with the woman she's marrying now. The cheating might still hurt and them getting married makes it worse.
Yeah i completely agree that’s why i told him about what i’m uncomfortable knowing and what i want to know etc. So that he knows not to accidentally hurt me. Yeah that’s also reason to why i don’t want an exclusive relationship, no matter the nature of the situation you can’t possess the other person, you can’t stop them from finding someone else, that’s part of the game. I’d rather be in a situation where i completely accept that possibility and also allow myself to have the option to fall in love w someone else by seeing other people rather than give my all and get nothing in return. I feel like me having multiple “lovers” helps me to not project too much onto one particular lover. It helps me stay balanced in my relationships.
I think I’m just looking to understand whether my feelings are biased, or if there’s any hope I should have to believe otherwise
Your friend will get over it, pursue the relationship, sounds like you're both happy, if she can't be happy for the both of you she can kick rocks.
Your response is OK, but I don't see any need to phrase it that way. I would assume, if they were told what I said, that of course the parents will invite the son and not the ex-GF!
The son may be seeing his parents as acting awkwardly, because *he's* feeling awkward, because his girlfriend is being so ridiculous about this.
It's not that the friendship is “so important”, it's that there's absolutely no reason why they can't both be friends with his ex and see her when the son's not around, *and* be completely welcoming to his girlfriend. It's a false dichotomy to present it as a choice.