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You stopped watching porn at the start of the relationship because it made her uncomfortable. Some people think it's pretty much the same as cheating. I'm not saying they're right, but it is what it is. If that's how she views it, then you basically told her that you wanted to cheat on her, so it shouldn't be surprising that her attraction to and trust in you took a nosedive after that. If something has happened, such as her putting on weight or the like, and that's why you suddenly wanted to start consuming porn again after 5 years then it's even worse.
It sounds like porn is a firm no for her, and if you can't abide by that then you're better off parting ways so the two of you can find more compatible partners. Either way, it will probably do you good to remember that you don't have to and shouldn't express every thought and feeling you have. Think how your words will affect others before you speak.
No you’re not his mother but you’re supposed to be his partner. Even if he wants alone time he should let you know such and at least let you know he’s ok. The way he’s done it and the way he’s reacting are very suspicious to me. As for what you should do, you need to decide if this is behavior you wish (or you’ll tolerate) in a partner. If not, talk to him about it. If he still downplays it or gets defensive or angry then realize there’s an incompatibility there
This isn't a man you have kids with let alone marry. This will be the rest of your life. Do you want your kids to grow up thinking this is how relationships work and walking on eggshells for their Dad? Dump him and find a man who wants kids and you don't have to walk on eggshells for. See if you can get the job back. You need money so you can leave him.
Thank you for the advice. He'd been good but since starting his military school a few months ago, he's been a totally different person. I guess last night was when I realized the person from the beginning was an act and isn't coming back
What you just did right now is something you needed to do when it first became an issue. The second best time was before marriage, and the third best time was now.
Stop apologizing. She chose to marry you. You're right. Her feelings are far long gone and invalid.
When you get cooler heads, ask her straight up if it's worth risking your marriage over, and if she says no, which she hopefully does ask her what she's going to do about it.
Ask her what changed since marriage that this is worth her building resentment. You can't change it. You never could.
I told him I’d prefer not to go after reading it, and though he’s clearly upset with me, it’s some weight off of my shoulders… I agree he should have helped plan at the very least.
Fully agree with you. Check his history when he “denied” food for his brother (brother was not allowed in the kitchen without supervision due to past stealing and OP denied to supervise him over breakfast because some petty revenge over a table!). It is just a matter of time until OP goes to AmITheDevil.
I get what you’re saying. I’m trying to maintain a good relationship with these people as they are my boyfriends best friends. I feel like I keep on fucking up. He told me my actions were pushing them away a few weeks ago, and despite trying I keep on messing up some how. I used to stand up for myself more, but I don’t really have any friends anymore due to my location/age so I can’t be picky. I live in a small town and I’m one of the few graduate student aged people here. Life really sucks.
You stopped watching porn at the start of the relationship because it made her uncomfortable. Some people think it's pretty much the same as cheating. I'm not saying they're right, but it is what it is. If that's how she views it, then you basically told her that you wanted to cheat on her, so it shouldn't be surprising that her attraction to and trust in you took a nosedive after that. If something has happened, such as her putting on weight or the like, and that's why you suddenly wanted to start consuming porn again after 5 years then it's even worse.
It sounds like porn is a firm no for her, and if you can't abide by that then you're better off parting ways so the two of you can find more compatible partners. Either way, it will probably do you good to remember that you don't have to and shouldn't express every thought and feeling you have. Think how your words will affect others before you speak.
No you’re not his mother but you’re supposed to be his partner. Even if he wants alone time he should let you know such and at least let you know he’s ok. The way he’s done it and the way he’s reacting are very suspicious to me. As for what you should do, you need to decide if this is behavior you wish (or you’ll tolerate) in a partner. If not, talk to him about it. If he still downplays it or gets defensive or angry then realize there’s an incompatibility there
This isn't a man you have kids with let alone marry. This will be the rest of your life. Do you want your kids to grow up thinking this is how relationships work and walking on eggshells for their Dad? Dump him and find a man who wants kids and you don't have to walk on eggshells for. See if you can get the job back. You need money so you can leave him.
I’ll text him loads of nudes and he should then love me again
Dudes just putting off his divorce
You need to take a very hot line, guys like that do not go away. Tell him you are still not interested. You are an adult,just say no.
Thank you for the advice. He'd been good but since starting his military school a few months ago, he's been a totally different person. I guess last night was when I realized the person from the beginning was an act and isn't coming back
It is definitely something I need to consider. He said if we ever do have a child, he would want them to be vegan
What you just did right now is something you needed to do when it first became an issue. The second best time was before marriage, and the third best time was now.
Stop apologizing. She chose to marry you. You're right. Her feelings are far long gone and invalid.
When you get cooler heads, ask her straight up if it's worth risking your marriage over, and if she says no, which she hopefully does ask her what she's going to do about it.
Ask her what changed since marriage that this is worth her building resentment. You can't change it. You never could.
Wtf is this?
Thank you very much for your response.
I told him I’d prefer not to go after reading it, and though he’s clearly upset with me, it’s some weight off of my shoulders… I agree he should have helped plan at the very least.
Fully agree with you. Check his history when he “denied” food for his brother (brother was not allowed in the kitchen without supervision due to past stealing and OP denied to supervise him over breakfast because some petty revenge over a table!). It is just a matter of time until OP goes to AmITheDevil.
I get what you’re saying. I’m trying to maintain a good relationship with these people as they are my boyfriends best friends. I feel like I keep on fucking up. He told me my actions were pushing them away a few weeks ago, and despite trying I keep on messing up some how. I used to stand up for myself more, but I don’t really have any friends anymore due to my location/age so I can’t be picky. I live in a small town and I’m one of the few graduate student aged people here. Life really sucks.
Hey man you deserve a relationship with someone that will be as crazy about u too. Not this guy. His loss.
Don't even give it another thought love. ?