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Work on your exit plan NOW. Do what you need to do to extract yourself from this abusive situation. Your child doesn’t need that example either. Save up, call friends and family, get your ducks. in. order. Then LEAVE
Yes. Chill. Be supportive. Be there for them. Be a source of peace and positivity.
If I came to my partner after getting raped and they told me they didn’t want me going to parties anymore I would NEVER tell them anything again.
You can’t take away something Someone enjoys because OTHER PEOPLE decided to hurt them. That’s so fucked.
If you’re upset or scared then be upset and scared at the RAPIST and not your girlfriend. Don’t take away her freedom because YOU think she can’t handle it.
It's not that you attract abusive men. It's that you don't move on at the first few sites of red flags. Move on, go with a different guy. Find one that is not sexually coercive and start there. Pick your standards up off the floor and have more respect for your needs.
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Well yeah they’re a interracial couple, and black kids (even between two black parents) can naturally get darker as they age, which op alludes to.
I (a black man) am the same shade as my parents, but when I was born I was way lighter than both and them and a closer shade to my white passing grandmother. Same thing happened to my fiancé. She was as light as I was when she was born, and she’s darker than me now.
This is dangerous ground. Abusers can use the fact that they are going through a process as a reason to gaslight and show you how they couldn't possibly still be abusing because they are in therapy. In short, it can work but there must be clear delineation of what is and what isn't allowed in your relationship. Stick to that and there can be hope that it works. But, if you see those boundaries are being encroached upon, you'll need to make an adult decision on what your life needs. Abuse isn't one of those things anyone needs.
They are very upset about me lying and saying that I sent it and I do feel bad for lying but I feel they are overreacting
Seriously, check yourself, it’s because you didn’t do what you said you would and you then lied about it. She should be pissed, and you’re lucky she is, what you did makes you not very trustworthy. Other people would just blow you off and stop being friends. Trust matters. If you don’t see that, then you’re the issue, not her reaction.
If she took plan B that quickly she should probably be fine but of course nothing is certain. Stress can delay a period. Only way to know is to test. And it’s best have a backup plan in the future.
agreed. I have made in crystal clear to the other guy. Hence, at the club he said to me “i saw on your instagram that you have a boyfriend and I knew i needed to block you out of my mind because i thought you were just so cute and cool when i met you”. and when i hung out with him, over and over i kept mentioning my boyfriend and he even said “tell me about your boyfriend” in the process of him getting to know me more.
Your husband and his business partner are in an unhealthy, codependent relationship. It has nothing to do with whether or not you are “worthy” or anything you actually did. Just look at the speech from your wedding claiming that the work relationship is more significant than your marriage. That is bonkers. It has nothing to do with you personally and has everything to do with the partner maintaining control over your husband. If your husband isn't standing up for you, then he is as much a problem as the partner.
You have been living among enemies for the last 3 years. No wonder you are fearful. No wonder you struggle with motivation. No wonder your self-esteem is in the toilet. You are under siege.
If you can get away for a while, I highly encourage you to do that. You've been living in this awful environment for far too long. Spend some time with people who actually have your back, and I think you'll be surprised at the difference it makes to your outlook. I'm sorry you've been dealing with this nonsense for so long.
Work on your exit plan NOW. Do what you need to do to extract yourself from this abusive situation. Your child doesn’t need that example either. Save up, call friends and family, get your ducks. in. order. Then LEAVE
I like this perspective cuz it really felt she was talking down to me at the end
Thank you! I appreciate the advice.
Yes. Chill. Be supportive. Be there for them. Be a source of peace and positivity.
If I came to my partner after getting raped and they told me they didn’t want me going to parties anymore I would NEVER tell them anything again.
You can’t take away something Someone enjoys because OTHER PEOPLE decided to hurt them. That’s so fucked.
If you’re upset or scared then be upset and scared at the RAPIST and not your girlfriend. Don’t take away her freedom because YOU think she can’t handle it.
What kind of weirdo paternal thinking is that?
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It's not that you attract abusive men. It's that you don't move on at the first few sites of red flags. Move on, go with a different guy. Find one that is not sexually coercive and start there. Pick your standards up off the floor and have more respect for your needs.
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Well yeah they’re a interracial couple, and black kids (even between two black parents) can naturally get darker as they age, which op alludes to.
I (a black man) am the same shade as my parents, but when I was born I was way lighter than both and them and a closer shade to my white passing grandmother. Same thing happened to my fiancé. She was as light as I was when she was born, and she’s darker than me now.
No, that's the logic, to relieve yourself from some guilt while believing nothings gonna happen, because it happened so long ago, sunk cost fallacy.
That's exactly the point.
This is dangerous ground. Abusers can use the fact that they are going through a process as a reason to gaslight and show you how they couldn't possibly still be abusing because they are in therapy. In short, it can work but there must be clear delineation of what is and what isn't allowed in your relationship. Stick to that and there can be hope that it works. But, if you see those boundaries are being encroached upon, you'll need to make an adult decision on what your life needs. Abuse isn't one of those things anyone needs.
You should’ve doubled up and insisted that you would have a gay blowjob instead. Maybe your girlfriend would have been more okay with it.
They are very upset about me lying and saying that I sent it and I do feel bad for lying but I feel they are overreacting
Seriously, check yourself, it’s because you didn’t do what you said you would and you then lied about it. She should be pissed, and you’re lucky she is, what you did makes you not very trustworthy. Other people would just blow you off and stop being friends. Trust matters. If you don’t see that, then you’re the issue, not her reaction.
If she took plan B that quickly she should probably be fine but of course nothing is certain. Stress can delay a period. Only way to know is to test. And it’s best have a backup plan in the future.
Feels fake
agreed. I have made in crystal clear to the other guy. Hence, at the club he said to me “i saw on your instagram that you have a boyfriend and I knew i needed to block you out of my mind because i thought you were just so cute and cool when i met you”. and when i hung out with him, over and over i kept mentioning my boyfriend and he even said “tell me about your boyfriend” in the process of him getting to know me more.
Your husband and his business partner are in an unhealthy, codependent relationship. It has nothing to do with whether or not you are “worthy” or anything you actually did. Just look at the speech from your wedding claiming that the work relationship is more significant than your marriage. That is bonkers. It has nothing to do with you personally and has everything to do with the partner maintaining control over your husband. If your husband isn't standing up for you, then he is as much a problem as the partner.
You have been living among enemies for the last 3 years. No wonder you are fearful. No wonder you struggle with motivation. No wonder your self-esteem is in the toilet. You are under siege.
If you can get away for a while, I highly encourage you to do that. You've been living in this awful environment for far too long. Spend some time with people who actually have your back, and I think you'll be surprised at the difference it makes to your outlook. I'm sorry you've been dealing with this nonsense for so long.