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Just made my first post on this sub a min ago and received some genuine, sincere advice, which I greatly appreciate and therefore, felt compelled to reciprocate.
First off,I'm very sorry, as this must be incredibly traumatic and concerning to say the least.
It's unfortunate that gender matters at all,in terms of public opinion or precedence,but it does, as I'm assuming that if the genders were reversed here, you would be looking for a new job and in prison. I know I likely would be.
I'm not an attorney or legal expert,regards having anything to advise on that aspect,but I can tell you this much unequivocally.
She was 200% having these thoughts before his 18th bday. I think we can all agree to that here. Wasn't as if she began to have romantic/sexual thoughts on that exact day and that is…well…wrong?
That said, I would try to talk to your son. Make that the focus, along with any other potential legal repercussions or convos with your boss you may want to pursue. It may go in one ear and out the other,but I'd honestly ask him what he thinks will happen when he's 35 and she's getting her freaking AARP magazines in the mail???
That's always been my number one thought as to any relationship with this type of age gap.
Someone OR both will get hurt. It's just inevitable. Hopefully you will find a way to convince him of this. If not,he will find out on his own that this is bad news,whether tomorrow or 10 yrs from now. Another natural fact I think.
Sincerely hope you are able to find some solution to what shouldn't have happened to begin with. Shame on your boss.
Your post has me thinking. I'm in a similar position – all our friends are her friends, and whenever I arrange something, it's to see some place or event, while she arranges to meet people.
It's not that I'm unfriendly, or unsocial. I just don't put energy into maintaining friendships outside of need. I can call up a lot of people for emergencies or even regular help, but I don't invite anybody home myself for drinks or chat.
I wonder if my wife thinks I'm boring… I have to think about fixing this now…
You are probably right that he is supremely undateable and grooming young women is gross, but that doesnt mean that that he is wrong about the state of the dating pool for a 40yr old single guy when looking at women his own age.
After filtering through scams and catfish accounts, you are left with questionable hookups that make you feel she is cheating on her husband, women with psychiatric disorders that are unable to take care of their children and will start stalking you and threatening self harm if you break up with them, women that are childless and terrified that they may never have a baby and will try to move obscenely too fast and whose only qualifications for a partner are obedience and fertility, women that are still virgins because of their religion or cult but will require you to join their religion or cult and marry them before you can even find out if you are physically compatible, or you feel you finally met someone awesome that you click with only to find out they are serial cheaters.
Look, women in their 40s are not all like this, but the good ones are extremely likely to already be in a healthy relationship because they ARE experienced and KNOW how to build and keep a healthy relationship. There are unicorns out there sure but please stop disparaging guys who have this experience of being single in their 40s.
Crushes are ok, you’re human. Fighting it makes it worse, I bet you if you just talked and spent some time with your SIL (in a non romantic way and not about your feelings just as a family hangout) the crush will go away cause you’ll get to see her faults and see her as a human. It’s a crush, it’s the idealized version of her which probably makes her similar to your wife. It’s nothing serious.
You aren’t gonna be a good match with everyone you love. There’s so many factors that go into a romantic relationship. I have friends that I love dearly and find very attractive, but I know we’d suck as a couple.
Y’all do not work romantically. If you’re both sacrificing what you want for the other and STILL both feel dissatisfied, you gotta be an adult and move on
Break up is the best choice. This coworker was important enough to hide and lie to you. Leave him. You can explain to him, that after his lies you can't trust him, and because he deleted their text you probably never could again.
If you find it difficult to leave him, and want to try to make it work, then first point is him quitting this job asap. He has fucked up, and this is the consequence. If he refuses, then this is how much he values your 7 years together. Leave him, there is no hope.
Even if he agrees you should still make it clear you don't know how long it would take for him to regain your trust. If he wants to stay with you he needs to accept years of suspicion, and insecurity from you. He needs to give you access to all his accounts, and not hold anything secret from you.
Just made my first post on this sub a min ago and received some genuine, sincere advice, which I greatly appreciate and therefore, felt compelled to reciprocate.
First off,I'm very sorry, as this must be incredibly traumatic and concerning to say the least.
It's unfortunate that gender matters at all,in terms of public opinion or precedence,but it does, as I'm assuming that if the genders were reversed here, you would be looking for a new job and in prison. I know I likely would be.
I'm not an attorney or legal expert,regards having anything to advise on that aspect,but I can tell you this much unequivocally.
She was 200% having these thoughts before his 18th bday. I think we can all agree to that here. Wasn't as if she began to have romantic/sexual thoughts on that exact day and that is…well…wrong?
That said, I would try to talk to your son. Make that the focus, along with any other potential legal repercussions or convos with your boss you may want to pursue. It may go in one ear and out the other,but I'd honestly ask him what he thinks will happen when he's 35 and she's getting her freaking AARP magazines in the mail???
That's always been my number one thought as to any relationship with this type of age gap.
Someone OR both will get hurt. It's just inevitable. Hopefully you will find a way to convince him of this. If not,he will find out on his own that this is bad news,whether tomorrow or 10 yrs from now. Another natural fact I think.
Sincerely hope you are able to find some solution to what shouldn't have happened to begin with. Shame on your boss.
Good luck, mate. I'm sorry about this whole situation.
Your post has me thinking. I'm in a similar position – all our friends are her friends, and whenever I arrange something, it's to see some place or event, while she arranges to meet people.
It's not that I'm unfriendly, or unsocial. I just don't put energy into maintaining friendships outside of need. I can call up a lot of people for emergencies or even regular help, but I don't invite anybody home myself for drinks or chat.
I wonder if my wife thinks I'm boring… I have to think about fixing this now…
Not the case with me, I've never been bothered about any boyfriends femalr friends. But maybe that's just me.
So I got in his face, not to fight just to show I'm not a pussy like he says.
This is why you are a pussy. When acting nude goes wrong.
When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong – Chapelle
That is the opposite of what it says
You are probably right that he is supremely undateable and grooming young women is gross, but that doesnt mean that that he is wrong about the state of the dating pool for a 40yr old single guy when looking at women his own age.
After filtering through scams and catfish accounts, you are left with questionable hookups that make you feel she is cheating on her husband, women with psychiatric disorders that are unable to take care of their children and will start stalking you and threatening self harm if you break up with them, women that are childless and terrified that they may never have a baby and will try to move obscenely too fast and whose only qualifications for a partner are obedience and fertility, women that are still virgins because of their religion or cult but will require you to join their religion or cult and marry them before you can even find out if you are physically compatible, or you feel you finally met someone awesome that you click with only to find out they are serial cheaters.
Look, women in their 40s are not all like this, but the good ones are extremely likely to already be in a healthy relationship because they ARE experienced and KNOW how to build and keep a healthy relationship. There are unicorns out there sure but please stop disparaging guys who have this experience of being single in their 40s.
Dump him. Do you really want to live like this?
Yeah, she meant it. Even if she doesn't remember.
Why doesn't he work? How does he pay bills?
did he end it and now you're upset so you want to blow up his life?
regardless of your answer tell her
She could be a bisexual. Are you OK dating her if she is bi? If not, just let her know and save yourself from wasting time and drama.
Crushes are ok, you’re human. Fighting it makes it worse, I bet you if you just talked and spent some time with your SIL (in a non romantic way and not about your feelings just as a family hangout) the crush will go away cause you’ll get to see her faults and see her as a human. It’s a crush, it’s the idealized version of her which probably makes her similar to your wife. It’s nothing serious.
You aren’t gonna be a good match with everyone you love. There’s so many factors that go into a romantic relationship. I have friends that I love dearly and find very attractive, but I know we’d suck as a couple.
Y’all do not work romantically. If you’re both sacrificing what you want for the other and STILL both feel dissatisfied, you gotta be an adult and move on
google search or pay for one of those record searches on him. As long as you know his name and address you should be able to find something.
Break up is the best choice. This coworker was important enough to hide and lie to you. Leave him. You can explain to him, that after his lies you can't trust him, and because he deleted their text you probably never could again.
If you find it difficult to leave him, and want to try to make it work, then first point is him quitting this job asap. He has fucked up, and this is the consequence. If he refuses, then this is how much he values your 7 years together. Leave him, there is no hope.
Even if he agrees you should still make it clear you don't know how long it would take for him to regain your trust. If he wants to stay with you he needs to accept years of suspicion, and insecurity from you. He needs to give you access to all his accounts, and not hold anything secret from you.
Exactly. The limit does not exist.