So he told you. It's been over a year. Where do you live! that it takes longer than a year to finalize a divorce. If when you started, he was already divorcing, he should have been done by now. What were the circumstances under which you saw the paperwork? Was it lying around, or did you ask for it? I don't think he was ever getting a divorce and I wonder if what you saw was doctored somehow to keep you on the string.
The reason people date around is because they havent found a good relationship to stay in.
You got it. So dont blow it. Youre not missing out on anything by not having casual sex. Dont be an idiot and ruin something other people wish they had.
You were not the problem. She liked it and that's why it didn't stop, plus she values the atmosphere more than your feelings, which is extremely disrespectful.
How can you lack so much remorse? She deserves a relationship without trauma, even if you don't think so. And stop with the “my insecurities had led me to cheat” I have insecurities, I don't treat others disgustingly because of them. Let her date someone who won't cheat on you, go to therapy and reflect on your awful decisions. You only feel sorry because you were caught, not because you cheated.
Oh man, what a horrible feeling. My stomach sank when I read the line about him walking away from your sister-in-law's house.
I would be right up front with her and explain about the feeling in your stomach and that you had a moment of feeling like you had been betrayed. Tell her how it made you feel and that you can't have that feeling anymore in your life. If she spins this on you, you could consider introducing a post-nup into the conversation – to express your seriousness.
Stress will kill you. No woman is worth going to an early grave for.
Isn't this a bit too vague? You didn't include ANY detail about your girlfriend. Post on r/GiftIdeas with budget and details
Sounds like you all need a break then. A month or so to figure your shit out.
So he told you. It's been over a year. Where do you live! that it takes longer than a year to finalize a divorce. If when you started, he was already divorcing, he should have been done by now. What were the circumstances under which you saw the paperwork? Was it lying around, or did you ask for it? I don't think he was ever getting a divorce and I wonder if what you saw was doctored somehow to keep you on the string.
The shit people put up with is mind-boggling to me.
The reason people date around is because they havent found a good relationship to stay in.
You got it. So dont blow it. Youre not missing out on anything by not having casual sex. Dont be an idiot and ruin something other people wish they had.
Wrong. But she can't view his actions as cheating and her actions as not
So the big question is are you going to tie your life to that kind of man?
I just said the same!
You were not the problem. She liked it and that's why it didn't stop, plus she values the atmosphere more than your feelings, which is extremely disrespectful.
This approach worked for me until I built a reputation in my field.
Why would someone get mad/defensive about talking about a future if that was something they planned on having with you?
Because they don't plan on having one or would like to avoid planning one.
Leave.
How can you lack so much remorse? She deserves a relationship without trauma, even if you don't think so. And stop with the “my insecurities had led me to cheat” I have insecurities, I don't treat others disgustingly because of them. Let her date someone who won't cheat on you, go to therapy and reflect on your awful decisions. You only feel sorry because you were caught, not because you cheated.
Oh man, what a horrible feeling. My stomach sank when I read the line about him walking away from your sister-in-law's house.
I would be right up front with her and explain about the feeling in your stomach and that you had a moment of feeling like you had been betrayed. Tell her how it made you feel and that you can't have that feeling anymore in your life. If she spins this on you, you could consider introducing a post-nup into the conversation – to express your seriousness.
Stress will kill you. No woman is worth going to an early grave for.