Maybe you finally do something is she assualts a future partner or child of yours. Siblings fight. Siblings dont try to strangle each other. Dangerous , abusive potential murderers try to stangle people.
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Some may say to tell her that SHE needs to tell him by a certain time or you will.
Your loyalty is to your friend. That trumps any promise made to her to keep this a secret in my book.
Plus, what about when she gets drunk in the future? How many more times will she try to get you or someone else? What if it happens after your friend marries her?
Talk to your friend. This is something he needs to know and she won’t tell him, then you need to.
You're okay to put your girlfriend into situations where she feels obviously embarrassed if not humiliated
Look, I have communicated so many times how I felt about marriage. You're phrasing this as if I deliberately got her pregnant when this wasn't the case.
Your post reads as “Me, my feelings, what I prefer, me, me, me.” You’re COMPLETELY failing to acknowledge her feelings at all, feelings she has explicitly expressed to you, repeatedly. Rather than being there for her, you broke up with her during a rough time in general in her life. She’s made big, positive changes and is trying to leave the past in the past. She’s been cordial when you’ve run into each other. The fact that she responded to your texts at all shows she is WAY kinder than the average person. You are desperately trying to paint yourself a victim here but she has not been mean or nasty to you, she hasn’t talked shit about you, and she’s probably relieved you have “blocked” her. Show her some respect and leave her the fuck alone.
From your description it seems ge was forcing himself upon you.
Do tell your bf, that you were kissed be a guy who used the fact you were drunk and trouble resisting (in practical sense it's not like you allowed, or encouraged himto do that).
Needless to say do not get so drunk outside like that.
My lawd. Didn't think 4 conversations over 4 months with open communication about boundaries was what classifies you as a sex pest these days. Use those terms when warranted. Otherwise, they lose meaning.
She would not. He says he has her “trained” to keep quiet. That she wouldn’t defy him. I guess this is true. She told me first actually and he made her take it back and lie to me. So idk maybe she’s in a cycle too but I can’t think the best of someone who fools with someone they know js married
You two want far different things for life. At 32, it’s time to move on. If long term companionship is one of your goals, you need to no longer give any more of your best years to a relationship you now know is a dead end.
I think you’re right. If they knew she existed – someone he’s been with for six years – they would be wondering why she wasn’t there. It would be odd not to bring a partner that you’ve been with that long. Something very strange is going on.
If he can lie about that then he can lie about anything. Why stay with someone that you can see doing wrong but tells you they aren’t. It’s going to make you slow and not trust your own self. Why would you trust a liar over yourself? Dump him. You’re against porn he isn’t. This isn’t meant to be and it’s not going to work. Quit holding on to it.
Tell him the truth
Go no contact. Only way I have ever work.
Maybe you finally do something is she assualts a future partner or child of yours. Siblings fight. Siblings dont try to strangle each other. Dangerous , abusive potential murderers try to stangle people.
That was an attempted, and failed, ad hominem. You didn't give a decent response or rebuttal
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Some may say to tell her that SHE needs to tell him by a certain time or you will.
Your loyalty is to your friend. That trumps any promise made to her to keep this a secret in my book.
Plus, what about when she gets drunk in the future? How many more times will she try to get you or someone else? What if it happens after your friend marries her?
Talk to your friend. This is something he needs to know and she won’t tell him, then you need to.
Wow, I'm positively jealous.
Dude what are you honestly on about.
You're okay to put your girlfriend into situations where she feels obviously embarrassed if not humiliated
Look, I have communicated so many times how I felt about marriage. You're phrasing this as if I deliberately got her pregnant when this wasn't the case.
And the point went clean over your head…
She is disrespectful as I said multiple times.
But yall are judging the whole group on the sole basis of playing drinking games.
Which is just dumb.
Your post reads as “Me, my feelings, what I prefer, me, me, me.” You’re COMPLETELY failing to acknowledge her feelings at all, feelings she has explicitly expressed to you, repeatedly. Rather than being there for her, you broke up with her during a rough time in general in her life. She’s made big, positive changes and is trying to leave the past in the past. She’s been cordial when you’ve run into each other. The fact that she responded to your texts at all shows she is WAY kinder than the average person. You are desperately trying to paint yourself a victim here but she has not been mean or nasty to you, she hasn’t talked shit about you, and she’s probably relieved you have “blocked” her. Show her some respect and leave her the fuck alone.
From your description it seems ge was forcing himself upon you.
Do tell your bf, that you were kissed be a guy who used the fact you were drunk and trouble resisting (in practical sense it's not like you allowed, or encouraged himto do that).
Needless to say do not get so drunk outside like that.
My lawd. Didn't think 4 conversations over 4 months with open communication about boundaries was what classifies you as a sex pest these days. Use those terms when warranted. Otherwise, they lose meaning.
She would not. He says he has her “trained” to keep quiet. That she wouldn’t defy him. I guess this is true. She told me first actually and he made her take it back and lie to me. So idk maybe she’s in a cycle too but I can’t think the best of someone who fools with someone they know js married
You two want far different things for life. At 32, it’s time to move on. If long term companionship is one of your goals, you need to no longer give any more of your best years to a relationship you now know is a dead end.
I think you’re right. If they knew she existed – someone he’s been with for six years – they would be wondering why she wasn’t there. It would be odd not to bring a partner that you’ve been with that long. Something very strange is going on.
Just confront her about it. That's all there is to it.
“I found condoms in your drawer, I know they're not old. I need you to tell me why you have these.”
Remember to update this thread once you get some answers so we can advise afterwards.
If he can lie about that then he can lie about anything. Why stay with someone that you can see doing wrong but tells you they aren’t. It’s going to make you slow and not trust your own self. Why would you trust a liar over yourself? Dump him. You’re against porn he isn’t. This isn’t meant to be and it’s not going to work. Quit holding on to it.
This is a civil matter, take him to court. You'll need to show proof you are
a) an owner
B) been financially responsible for her until the break up.
C) able to continue to care for her
Good luck