I’d probably go NC with my mum but I have a 0 policy on cheating for anyone around me. Just shows we have different morals and we don’t align as people. Not saying that’s the route for you to take but your mum is a POS. That level of deception and lack of empathy for your dad would just be a hot no for me in your shoes.
Thank you for responding, I do appreciate it. I do take the bus when available if I am not finishing my job early in the morning. I pay my parents rent monthly and I have bills that also come out monthly. When my parents occasionally ask me to pay for food, I do. I don’t earn much as I have a minimum wage job, so I’m concerned about the amount of money a car would cost me to have as my wage can vary wildly at the end of the month depending on how busy my place of work is.
I know i did nothing wrong (except for acting like a bitch for some time when he was away, yet i know its all his fault) and at this point in my life I am not ready to break up with him. I’m looking for advice how to show him its not okay and that behavior like this will not be tolerated anymore without breaking up
Can you just say you’ve had a go, you’re not ready to explore it further right now, let’s have a great time doing xy&z instead and you’ll let him know when you’re ready (if)
I don't think there is any shame in living with your parents. I myself intend to move back home to my parents temporarily in a few months. Your girlfriend has the right idea but may be a little too harsh. From your post it is clear that you do need to learn some independence and should definitely try a bit harder at seeking that independence. Attempting one time to get an apartment isn't much of an attempt and I can see why your girlfriend may be a little frustrated. Living alone can be hot and it is definitely a learning experience! Be honest with her about how you're feeling and maybe ask her for some advice because then she will feel like you are relying on her while also seeking to do what is necessary for your independence. You got this!! Adulting is hard and can be scary at times but I believe in you
This is such an unhealthy relationship its crazy. Your husband basically let, and urged, his brother to SA assault you and his exes. Regardless of the situation your dealing with in the present, that knowledge alone would be enough for me to nope out.
Dude clearly doesn't respect your boundaries, and the fact he's so obsessed with having his brother impregnate you is absolutely insane. Like, I feel like this can't possibly be a real situation with how bizarre it sounds ?. But I guess there's just some weird shit that happens sometimes.
It was a horrible hangover where I still felt drunk. I didn’t have anything to drink the morning of, we only drink on the weekends. Her family has been unaccepting of me since we’ve met. Mostly because of my tattoos. I’m honestly not sure why they don’t accept me. I’ve never been into drugs and don’t have a drinking problem.
Stink in*
I’d probably go NC with my mum but I have a 0 policy on cheating for anyone around me. Just shows we have different morals and we don’t align as people. Not saying that’s the route for you to take but your mum is a POS. That level of deception and lack of empathy for your dad would just be a hot no for me in your shoes.
To me it kinda reads like he wasn't able to fuck anybody and that's why he wants back.
You can't do anything about this, he's gotta do the work. Something tells me he's not willing or capable to though.
Thank you for responding, I do appreciate it. I do take the bus when available if I am not finishing my job early in the morning. I pay my parents rent monthly and I have bills that also come out monthly. When my parents occasionally ask me to pay for food, I do. I don’t earn much as I have a minimum wage job, so I’m concerned about the amount of money a car would cost me to have as my wage can vary wildly at the end of the month depending on how busy my place of work is.
Yeah, I think this is more about him than how we met.
Most likely. She used you for what she needed and now she's done with you
I know i did nothing wrong (except for acting like a bitch for some time when he was away, yet i know its all his fault) and at this point in my life I am not ready to break up with him. I’m looking for advice how to show him its not okay and that behavior like this will not be tolerated anymore without breaking up
Personally, I think the play in these situations first is to build upon in person chemistry first.
Knowing a stranger for a couple of weekends then asking them out, has a big risk of failing.
Work on familiarizing yourselves first before asking out.
Thank you so much for everything! Your advice is great.
Can you just say you’ve had a go, you’re not ready to explore it further right now, let’s have a great time doing xy&z instead and you’ll let him know when you’re ready (if)
I don't think there is any shame in living with your parents. I myself intend to move back home to my parents temporarily in a few months. Your girlfriend has the right idea but may be a little too harsh. From your post it is clear that you do need to learn some independence and should definitely try a bit harder at seeking that independence. Attempting one time to get an apartment isn't much of an attempt and I can see why your girlfriend may be a little frustrated. Living alone can be hot and it is definitely a learning experience! Be honest with her about how you're feeling and maybe ask her for some advice because then she will feel like you are relying on her while also seeking to do what is necessary for your independence. You got this!! Adulting is hard and can be scary at times but I believe in you
This is such an unhealthy relationship its crazy. Your husband basically let, and urged, his brother to SA assault you and his exes. Regardless of the situation your dealing with in the present, that knowledge alone would be enough for me to nope out.
Dude clearly doesn't respect your boundaries, and the fact he's so obsessed with having his brother impregnate you is absolutely insane. Like, I feel like this can't possibly be a real situation with how bizarre it sounds ?. But I guess there's just some weird shit that happens sometimes.
’m going to get all my ducks in a row financially and legally before I make my next move. Thank you for all of your advice.
Good luck and glad you have your head on straight 🙂 don't let him weasel out of this.
It was a horrible hangover where I still felt drunk. I didn’t have anything to drink the morning of, we only drink on the weekends. Her family has been unaccepting of me since we’ve met. Mostly because of my tattoos. I’m honestly not sure why they don’t accept me. I’ve never been into drugs and don’t have a drinking problem.
exclusive means that hiting on another guy is automatically cheating.
you can cheat but you will pay the price sooner or later. it is entirely on you.
the real point is : are you indeed in exclusivity ?
if “it is not a relationship” how can you be on “exclusivity” ? have your friend bough you ? is he your designed futur husband by your parents ?
we need more info.