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Also as a mom, first I 100% agree, I happily take my kids burdens, at the very least to help bear the weight. To OP, it can be really, really very hot to say something like this out loud. I have an agreement with my kids that they can write me a note and leave it on my nightstand if it’s something too nude to say to my face. It also gives me a chance to process and react privately. Also, I’ve gotten a text that “I need to talk to you” and I go to them and break the ice to help them. None of this is your doing, these are grownup problems that I wish you weren’t having to deal with.
He's very immature. He is the typical trash that sends a dick pic as a way to feel superior and dominating. He is afraid to actually have sex lol but then later he can act tough about it and send a pic. Then sending comical dumb lines like “you probably can't handle this. You probably want to show this to your friends. Wow I thought you were innocent, prove to me that you aren't”. He might be trying to get you horny, or it just makes him feel good that a girl looked at his body. He wants attention, positive or negative doesn't matter. Girls will try to shame a guy after getting a dick pic but often the guy just thinks “what a bitch” and continue on to harass the next girl they see. Just block him.
Everything I’ve seen leads me to believe that he’s a good guy looking for a genuine healthy relationship. He’s a healthy person, in good shape and has good habits both physically and mentally. The caretaker aspect is something I have considered as well, you just never know what might happen in life. There’s no guarantee he would even die before me. I’ve already had cancer at the age of 22 and last year my cousin who was 34 dropped dead out of nowhere from an aneurysm. Life is crazy
Not a lot of emotional intelligence with him I see. He’s young and young guys are pretty dumb.
A big concern I have here is that his thoughts seem to be formed by what info he takes in around him and not a broader collection of information.
Its easy to find the “facts” that support what you “know” when you are only looking for what supports your opinion.
Maybe he matures, who knows? But that is a troubling sign for long term problems.
OP mentioned that she wanted a “dad”, hence, it sounds like her other parent was never actually present in the first place.
He messed with condoms? In the UK that's illegal and I think it's either on par with revenge porn or actual rape.
You told him you didn't want children rather than couldn't have children.
The fact you think these are even comparable is concerning. I hope having written them out like this allows you to see how fucked up what he did was, and you shouldn't feel guilt for not telling him the reason you didn't want kids.
Then you should know better than to say this argument if you have it. Are you also an idiot? The reason I ask is because it is some how so far over your head that the I don’t take it he does in regards to steak is an anal joke that you ask what is wrong with me. And I am not painting it any other way than what it is.
Thank you so much for your detailed reply. I'll definitely take your advice.
I already commented this in another place, but you should TELL her that this is what you will do. It’s better to communicate the truth to her now and see how she responds.
Dump
Yeah, that’s definitely a pivotal moment in one’s life. It’s likely the case that he hasn’t really cut the umbilical cord with his mom. If indeed his mother is in very poor health, then it’s understandable that he may have to spend more time with her — in which case he’s not exactly in good working order for a relationship that isn’t sporadic or secondary to his time with his mom.
For all OP knows, this could go on for years… and she’s understandably not at a stage in her life where she wants to stick around for an indeterminate amount of time in order to find out whether her bf is immature or legitimately maximizing his time with a sick parent.
I would advise OP to take a step back from the relationship — perhaps suggest that they revisit in some months or a year down the road.
This all sounds like it was written by a teenager who never had sex
This makes no sense. Why were you sharing finances if you hadn’t even been dating long?
Shoot your shot, get rejected and move on with your life. Unrequited love is no way to go through life
I’m not disagreeing with you. Honestly I appreciate you saying that. I’m just so fed up. It feels emotionally like my abusive relationship.
As someone who's still friends with a FWB, it's better to tell them sooner rather than later. What happens if she finds out later? Then it's going to come across like you're hiding something.
Better to let your partner know everything that could come up.
You dont owe him shit.
Oh boy. Lots to unpack here.
He is 15 years older than you. You are at different points in your life. ?
You say he's controlling and possessive ?
Sounds like he's pushing for marriage ?
Men who date women so much younger than them do so because you're moldable/controllable. You don't have the life experiences that adult women do. You were 18 when you met/started dating, barely an adult. He was 33, which is a whole lot of creepy.
Do not marry someone because you feel indebted to them. Do not marry if you aren't absolutely positive you want to. You have your whole life ahead of you, plenty of time to get married and have children (if you want them). Don't rush into marriage because you feel pressured
Seems like you're really good at picking bad men!
Yes cut him out of your life, no you're not a bad person for doing so and no it wasn't a “little mistake”. Do not waste your time on anyone that thinks otherwise.
(And this is coming from a man)
she's right actually. your boundaries don't mean you get to dictate her behavior. boundaries are for you, not for other people.
“you can't spend the night or be alone with other men” isn't a boundary.
“I don't want to date people who routinely spend the night with male friends or are alone with them” is a boundary.
so either you get over it and trust her or break up with her. your boundaries are supposed to dictate who you choose to date, they're not supposed to dictate your partners behavior.
This is hilarious, thank you and IM SORRY ITS SO LONG.
Until the spending the night and spending that awful lot of time without checking in, I was on the “go back to the therapist” route.
I could imagine her thinking the emotions are numbed when in reality it's just how emotions are when you are not in a bipolar mind.
Then the behavior came about spending nights with the dude and I just went, fuck no. Maybe one last chance if you are really that forgiving but man those are red flags if anything.
I definitely stopped caring a long time ago honestly but still stayed with him just because we’re not officially broken up so it would be wrong for me to go talk to other men if I wanted to even if he does the same thing It’s whatever. But I’m definitely not tripping about him I’m doing something I really wanted in a long time and I actually feel really good not talking to him or any other men for that matter rn. Thank you for the advice
This is going to get a lot of hate, but I'd go with your gut and stick with option 4.
Don't accept being a back up plan.
She lost attraction for you
You're not wrong for the feelings you have but you made a mistake in moving in with him. Of course he's not ready to get married because you already gave him everything he needs/wants. He has full time access to you and you even take care of him. I hate to break it to you, but this guy isn't marrying you before you're 30. If that's a goal, then you need to stop wasting these years on him.
I would never allow my fiance to have any say in how I dress, wear my hair, eat or anything else regardless of occasion and he would never try.
She did address it with him, and he doubled down.
Fuck him. He fucked around and found out.